One day old baby in pub

I had 4 c sections. I still went out as soon as I felt up to it (as soon as I was released from hospital for my first baby) because I wanted to. No pressure from anyone. I didn’t want people coming to my house. I was happier meeting people out. Why is it that you and several other posters can’t see any other side to this?

No, you and the other sanctimonious posters have implied that those who don’t want to stay at home with their ‘precious bundle’ basking in a postpartum glow in your family bubble are somehow lesser to those who do.

If family friends want to see the baby have the decency to go their house not get the mum galavanting to meet up at a location. To be honest after giving birth depending how traumatic you just want to rest and not be putting up a front hosting and entertaining guests... Yes immediate family can visit who are actually there for you caring for you sorting out meals etc house, your best friend yes but the whole community.... Going to the pub because they have chairsssss are you serious.. Regardless if she's drinking or not it's the principle. Catching something in the hospital is a risk that you don't have a choice about but taking your trophy to the pub is. Apologies I just feel like it's so wrong on many levels. Maybe I'm old fashioned I don't know your have to remember my comment is on a day 1 baby!!!

Like I would get and understand if you had older children and needed to pop into asda get a few food essentials for the kids etc but that's completely different.

No one here has suggested that!

I bet you didn't hide away in a darkened room for 6 months post-birth either. You disgust me.

You MONSTER!!!

CITIZENS' ARREST!!!!

I loved showing my babies off. I used to do my shopping mid morning so the little old ladies would coo. I sometimes even let said little old ladies touch said babies. And I accepted silver coins “for her piggy bank”. I assume I am no longer allowed to post.

You monster - did you parade yourself around the pub or just visit it?

Visited the pub on the day of the birt. I left the wife and baby in the hospital though.

CITIZEN'S ARREST!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm such an unloving mother because not only did I go out in public right away, I went out in public and formula fed! The horror!!!

😂

Methinks thou dost protest too much.

Because of your very obvious sense of superiority, coupled with a smug self-righteousness. HTH.

That’s your interpretation - it’s not what was said!

Leave her be

Its all a learning curve, never mind for a mum aged only 17

@BoldAmberDuck

you can be a loving mother and not hole yourself up indoors for weeks on end in a “little family bubble” postpartum. The latter sounds very boring.

Would it have been better if she'd gone to a restaurant for a meal instead of a meal at at pub?

God forbid a woman wants to ‘show off’ or be complimented on something she’s done, we should all be hidden in the dark staring solely at our newborns, only breastfeeding and not communicating with anyone 😂

So rude and delusional. You’re basically saying if a parent doesn’t want to spend their time staring in awe of their precious creation at home with no outside visitors, barely bloody moving it sounds like, then they’re not a loving parent. Absolute bullshit. And newsflash your newborn is not the cute adorable bundle you thought no one actually thinks they’re cute theyre potatoes for the first week or so. And my kid is literally a model so i often look at her and think wow you’re beautiful. As a newborn… erm….

Women are different though and will make different recoveries. Even after a c-section with twins, I didn't want to sit around at home for weeks on end and I felt well enough not to so i didn't.

I'm not sure how many women are going out with the intent to ''show off'' either. They are likely just going about their business and it's more about the other person's insecurity.

I always assume when people stoop that low it's coming from a sense of their own deep insecurity. @flatwhiteextrahot sounds perfectly chilled and happy to acknowledge her baby was hard work which didn't stop her loving him entirely. @boldamberduck is the one coming across as overly defensive and desperate to prove how much she loved her precious babies.

How rude

I know as I start typing this I’m going to come across badly, but I do confess to a slight twinge of judginess when I see or hear of women doing what I deem to be too much too soon. It’s each to their own I know, and as long as it’s not harming anyone it’s clearly none of my business, but there we go.

I think it’s a combination of things. Annoyance at a society that expects women to carry on like it’s no big deal, a sense that with some women there’s a smidgin of showing off going on, frustration that it feeds into the idea that, in the case of CS, major abdominal surgery can be recovered from in a couple of days (would you catch a man wandering around Sainsbury’s doing the family shop after abdo surgery?) and maybe a tiny bit of jealousy.

I was at Costa about 36hrs after my second was born. I had an easy delivery and wanted to get out, and she slept through the whole thing. I went to the little Sainsburys the day after she was born too. With my first I had an awful delivery, recovering at home for a couple of weeks and couldn't walk, so there was no way I could have done it then. As long as baby was happy I would think it's ok.