One day old baby in pub

i agree

I think it's about age at first pregnancy, I can't believe that it is in any way controversial to state tht we are designed to have our first pregnancies around this age......

I’m astonished that there are mothers who feel up to this!

Mind you, I was tubed up to a bag of my own piss for 24 hours after giving birth. I wasn’t taking that down no pub.

But even if I hadn’t been. No, just no! I was in no state for pie and chips down the pub!

I took both of mine to our local to “show them off” at that age. I was 37 and 41- so quit with the young mum bashing.
How do you think it will hurt the baby?

I can’t imagine it myself, at that point I was still struggling to establish breastfeeding and bleeding so heavily id have been worried about leaks. But I'm sure some people have an easier time of it than others. Lucky them!

Then why doesn't menopause hit until 50s generally? If that were true, we'd stop being able to reproduce at 29.

No I am not saying this prevented me from PND as it doesn't work that way but I felt more human and able to cope because although I had a baby with me I was still able to function like the normal adult I was, I did not think this hide away for weeks or months because the whole world changes as soon as a baby was born

I was still me, no we didn't go to nightclubs but we went out to lunch, had coffee in cafes, went shopping and did normal things every day from the time we got back from the hospital

For me, a coffee shop wouldn't be great either! It's not the germs, it's the noise for the baby. I'd give it a few days to get used to being in the world before being in a busy, loud environment being passed from person to person!

I don't see the scandal - I didn't go to the pub but I bloody well needed to get out of the house, I was utterly desperate - I went to the local shopping centre to get some comfortable clothing - babies were sleeping the whole time. Made me feel human again. She's lucky she felt well enough.

Teenagers/ people in their early 20's are amazing like that. I guess it's the way we were meant to reproduce.

We were in Sainsbury's on the way home, a cafe on day 3 and pub on day 4.

I felt fine and wanted to be enjoying being out and about. Baby was either in the pram, in a sling or on me feeding. Perfectly safe and cosy.

It’s very far from ideal for the baby. They will have been through the shock of being born and will be trying to acclimatise and adjust to the world, and they will need to feel safe and secure with the mother, so their central nervous system can settle down.
Being in a busy, noisy pub with people drinking around them is really sad, and depending on the pub potentially dangerous too.

I wouldn’t consider taking a tiny newborn into a pub or anywhere boisterous. It would be the last place I would choose. I would judge someone harshly for doing this, they are not putting the baby first..

Please explain exactly why? and seperate to this isnt it up to the mum to do what she feels she can do? the idea that every single woman is bed ridden for weeks and needs to be locked away is laughable, not all women are the same

I took mine to Costas on the way home and to church on day 4!
Loved both experiences

This.

It would be a side eye from me.

Seems pretty sad that they couldn’t make it more than 24 hours before frequenting their local.

@Frenchie01there's nothing wrong with your reaction. I'd have raised my eyebrows too.

There's nothing laudable about putting that sort of strain on your body so soon after childbirth.

I can’t see any harm at all in this. Good luck to them.

Same with my sister at 18 - in fact she had to move house the next day after birth despite having stitches and was refusing help! I insisted on helping anyway - she even wanted to drive a car full of stuff to her new place. I stopped her. I guess young bodies bounce back more quickly

When dd1 was born when I was put into my room it was snowing so I think we waited a few days after going home before I went out. Also had stitches etc.

Dd2 was born on my floor. Didn't need stitches and was only in overnight as her temp was low. She was in the supermarket about an hour after we were home as dh sent me to bed and he took her out.

Dd1 was at my mums by pure coincidence

We stayed close to home for a while because of concern about viral illnesses but that was more about us feeling anxious really.

As a young mum she’ll have plenty of opportunities to be judged over all sorts of things why start on day one with something so innocuous?

I gave birth at 5pm and was home by midnight with the second dc. BBQ was lit and wine was poured. Was at the rugby club a few days later. With dd1 I was slower off the mark.
Good on her for getting out.

Sounds fine to me. I felt high as a kite the day after ds1 was born and I could easily have done this. With the others I was a lot more tired.

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I don't have kids and I thought the same until three seconds ago!

I'm sure if used to be the case 2-3 decades ago. 🤔

I don’t remember ever being given any advice about how long to keep the baby home for. We stayed in hospital until day 3 and then were left to get on with it. Didn’t go out until day 10 due to being in the fortunate position of not needing to go out, and then went to an open day at a community health centre and a cafe.

But I would stay home for as long as possible. I was always quite shocked by how many people, including complete strangers, would stick their heads right into the pram for a look. Especially primary school age children!