One day old baby in pub

A baby is comfortable and warm cuddled up to its mother. Mine spent most of their first weeks in a sling. They couldn’t have cared less whether they were at home or in Wetherspoons.

Wow she’s brave!
She wasn’t drinking alcohol, there is no smoking in the pub. She’s 17 and wanted to show off her new baby to her friends. Nothing wrong with that imo. Possibly she’ll regret it if she’s sore and tired afterwards. No way I could’ve done that, I was an absolute mess!

Also what a lot of the ‘elderly first time mum’ component on you get on this site is that they hate to hear teen mums doing well and like to tell themselves they have done the right thing by waiting until their bodies are almost knackered to have their first , and then are shocked when young, fit mums are fine after birth and they needed 6 weeks in a dark room being waited on hand and foot. My mum was 20 when she had my brother and then 21 when she had my sister, she was on the bus with an 18 month old and a 3 day old getting her weekly shop.

Their need to be cuddled and fed and kept warm and with a clean nappy? Er, yep those needs are being met perfectly well.

I think its the word pub used here but she wasn't drinking and having a meal, if it had of been a restaurant of local Cafe might it have caused a different reaction? Personally I wouldn't go out i would want the first few days just me and baby bonding and in our little bubble but at 17 I may have thought differently not sure

I did the same, we stopped at a pub for lunch after registering 5 day old DD. Got told off by a (I hope) well meaning old lady though!😅

I agree. Disgusting language - I don’t want my kids ‘cosseted at home’ anyway. We are out and about, well travelled and most days in the holidays on a train or bus by 9am going somewhere exciting. These boring kids who are encouraged to ‘potter at home’ with a routine down to the minute, mummy and daddy gasping in horror if a steak and chips at the village pub is mentioned because ‘we have kids! They’re in bed by 6.30pm!’ end up going absolutely off their heads at Uni because they are trying to break free of the constraints of their routine driven seen and not heard childhoods

And what do your feelz have to do with Social Services?

That's strange. my eldest is 34. I wasnever giving that advice about staying indoors. I wonder how gey expected you to take other kids to school etc ( no paternity leave then)

That you aunt Lydia!?

Fine now that pubs aren’t Smokey. Great that she was having a meal.
I would like to think that family would also help to cook a few meals etc for her but if not then eating in a pub seems like a great idea.

This is true, to listen to some people on this post nobody ever has more than one child. I'm the 4th of 5, I can't imagine there was a lot of quiet or sanctuary available when my DM brought me home!

As this new mum is 17, fair bet she lives with family. There could be multiple other children in the household aside from her and the new baby.

Is the baby’s needs being putting first on the very first day of their life? No. Most definitely not.

Jesus.... she is having a meal in a pub.

She will be in post birth honeymoon. Her baby is finally in her arms and healthy and the birth was OK, feeling proud to show her newborn off and, not yet too sleep deprived ( or maybe she is, that can make you feel hyper). In a few days she maybe elbow deep in nappies and exhausted. I think you have to go with how you feel. It’s a good sign that she feels well enough to go out and wants to show off her newborn.
I went out as soon as I was able but had two “ouch” births and walked very slowly like John Wayne. Never forget going for a walk with my Mum and new baby. She wanted to push the pram and was marching on like a hiker. I must have said slow down one hundred times in 10 minutes. Stayed home for a few more days after that 🤣

It is already a red flag that the parents as already putting their own wants and needs before the baby. Even on day one. It is not a good sign at all, that it hasn’t even occurred to them.

I would want to see them on a parenting class or a think first course, because it would appear they have limited capacity to put the needs of a highly vulnerable baby first.

’Showing off’ the baby aopears to take precedence over the well being and comfort of said child. I would have limited confidence in their ability to parent any children well, given that this is deemed acceptable to them.

A quiet sanctuary at home? What if there are 2 other young siblings there. Won't be quiet

I went to the polling station to vote in the Brexit referendum on the way homefrom hospital after a 4 day labour and emergency section.

It's not really for other people to say whether a new mum needs to rest. The fact that she is 17 is unnecessary information, unless you wanted to add an extra layer of judgment?

This is ridiculous. Pubs are fine, there is no smoking and people are generally better behaved when a baby is around. The baby can't even pick anything up to put anything in its mouth.

Would you care if it was a cafe?

So what's wrong with that.? She needs to eat . Is there any rule saying you have to hide indoor once you've given birth?

If its germs you are worried about then think of all of the 2nd ( and more) babies that get dragged to nurseries and school runs from a day old . They have germy siblings

TBF neither are the postnatal wards that a good number of our babies are on the day after they give birth. I was in a pub for a meal the other day, and the levels of noise and people were much lower than the postnatal wards I was stuck on for a couple of days after having mine. I suspect it probably got cleaned better and more often too.

Again, how is a baby that is being cuddled and fed and sleeping different when it's in a place with a few more people than at home? Babies generally sleep better with a degree of noise. I was very lucky in that after the first 24 hours I found breastfeeding really easy and was happy doing it out and about. Made no difference to my child that he was being cuddled and fed on a wooden chair while I ate with one hand rather than being cuddled and fed on a sofa while I ate with one hand

They aren't being left lying on a table in a pool of beer slops while people drip cigarette ash over them.

We took dc1 to the pub when she was 2 days old, dh and I sat out in the sun and had lunch while she slept in her buggy next to us. It was lovely! I was kept in overnight with her (for her rather than me) and I felt fine. I was 19 and I did bounce back physically very quickly. Had the next one at 21 and I don’t remember what we did but I had a lot of stitches as she was a 9lb baby and came very quickly, born with her arm up by her head! With my third I was 26 and we went out for a pub lunch on day 3, was nice to be out. But I had 3 fairly straightforward births and deliveries and generally preferred being up and about as much as my body would allow. Sitting in a pub eating isn’t an arduous task and I liked the change of scenery and touch of normality personally.

I remember I went to the supermarket with dd when she was 3 days old and the checkout lady said “She’s young to be out”. I said she was fine-in a sling under my coat and the reply was “oh, I know she’s fine-it’s you I’m worried about!”

What about families that run pubs?

Hygiene? What will baby be touching? Immune system? I presume the baby isn't licking the floor? Is it because people may pick them up? A large family at home may do tthat.an older sibling pawing at a newborn is probably worse! Once baby has mum nearby with foodsource on tap. What's the issue?