One day old baby in pub

Not really any of your business, is it?

Baby advice doesn’t change that much or that often if you’re talking about proper professional advice. The only really significant huge change I can remember is “back to sleep”. People often talk about “chopping and changing” because they want to ignore advice. Weaning is a good example-I have my red book to prove it was 4-6 months but as close to 6 as possible nearly 30 years ago!

I was on a huge adrenaline high for about 48 hours after I had my first - I would have loved the opportunity to show her off like this. By the time I was on my fourth, we literally stopped off at school to pick up the other kids on the way home from the hospital!

New mums do need to be a bit careful about unexpected heavy bleeding, even if they're feeling quite well otherwise, but sitting having your dinner in the pub instead of your own house? Not a high risk activity.

She's probably still on a high. My pal had her baby at home then a couple of hours later they were all out on the school run. We went to sainsburys for a massive biscuit haul on the way home from the hospital. It was totally fine, only issue was me being utterly horrified that everyone else's lives were going on as normal when I HAD JUST HAD A BABY!

We had family around at one day old and had a takeaway. I was starving! Can’t see much difference in what’s your family member has done only that I wax 20 odd years older and people can be super critical of young mums, well all mums really but the young ones do seem to be particularly targeted.

She’s young so her body will recover quicker than an older mum. Plus ime younger mums just get on with things and don’t over think.

she was in a pub during the day for a meal. Not that much different from a cafe or restaurant.

I'm as old as your mum it seems.
I didn't see many people in hospital- a couple of midwives, my DH and my Mum. In a ward of 4 for 5 days .No orderlies, no porters, no doctors. That was the norm then.

I personally wouldn’t, but what anyone else does with their own children is none of my, or your business. If someone is not doing anything that is going to harm their child, then don’t concern yourself with it.

That’s the point though. They chop and change baby advice every couple of years. Exactly what they advise you not to do becomes the thing they say you must do a few years later, and vice versa.

You always see young mums on here who think their MILs are insane, evil harridans for suggesting a way of doing something (ie. the way they were told to do it years ago). In 30 years time they’ll be the MIL insisting that baby is never allowed to grizzle or be left alone for a minute, and their DILs will think they’re outdated and idiotic because by then they’ll have been given opposite advice.

But when you’re an inexperienced young Mum, those guidelines are gospel and they stay with you for life. I can understand why some pps are horrified at the prospect of a one day old in a pub when they were taught to limit contact with anyone outside close family for a few days to give baby’s immune system a chance to build up, and reduce the risk of infection. But I can also understand those who weren’t told this to think it’s perfectly okay.

Well if it was last orders on championship night and rival fans were about to start glassing other then I might give a wee heads up to the health visitor to offer some extra support, but otherwise she's fine.

We took our DC to the pub at a week old. It was a heatwave and we needed to get out of the world’s hottest flat. The non-alcoholic beer was just a bonus. It was a family friendly pub on a quiet lunchtime though. The only other couple anywhere near us were absolutely thrilled at the tiny baby!

In your defence though OP I did have an episiotomy that ended up reopening so maybe it is overdoing it. Although in my defence absolutely nobody told me to rest or made out there was any sort of aftercare required at all.

There are a lot of “scrub the front doorstep every day or what would the neighbours think?” types on here!

You can't be that old fashioned. Women used to stay in hospital for much longer than we typically do now after birth, with corresponding exposure to other patients, hospital staff and visitors. And their germs. My mum was in for a few days after all her babies in the 80s. Add up all the midwives, doctors, orderlies, cleaning staff, porters and visitors... that's a lot of people's germs!

The 'cosseted at home' comment was about newborn babies, not older children. It's hardly 'disgusting language' to talk about caring for and nurturing a brand new baby. Although it seems the modern way is to just sling the kid into a pram and crack on doing whatever you like, so what do I know.

I don't know how women do it honestly. hats off to them but I stuck to my ethnic tradition which is staying at home for 40ish days. I stand by this ( did a few nursery runs though). Surely there's a reason most cultures around the world historically have a period of rest and isolation for the baby and mother right?

At least she is not standing at the stove with baby trying to cook. I think its fine - will have been family members with baby - same as hospital. Everyone to their own. I maybe wouldn't have done it but its not like 30 yrs ago when it was a sticky grimy smokey experience

I think it would have been amazing to have been well enough to get out an about with my first so soon. Instead of being in hospital nearly a week after and unable to sit properly for 6 months.

Good for her!

I'd have been pleased to see her getting on with life. She's got some hard times ahead of her, let her relax while she can.

You do realise that smoking has been banned in pubs and other public places since 2007 ???

I'm old fashioned. I couldn't sit down for a week and could barely walk either from stitches. The idea of seeing people while also bleeding profusely- no thank you!

I also don't think it's good to expose a day old baby to all the germs around from other people at such a young age.

this thread is making me realise there are some absolute drama queens out there and that I am indeed very laid back. Cortisol release and safe sanctuaries for newborns…. Christ on a bike how do some people get through the day 😂

I was at a cafe the following day. And pretty sure we went to the pub a couple of days later too - with both of mine. I don't think her being a young mum has anything to do with this tbh, so assume you mention her age to indicate that she's already being irresponsible. I was 32 and 38 years old respectively when I had mine.

A hospital would be better then ?

I had an episiotomy and the first day or second day the anaesthetic must still have been effective so I walked to the park … big mistake… sutures dehissed and I sure felt it on the 3rd day. Finally healed after 4/5 months. I blame the fact the hospitals don’t give you any advice or they didn’t in my case. It was the community midwife on day 5 who said why the hell did you walk to the park? So I get where you’re coming from.

When my youngest was born she got carted everywhere straight away and she was nearly a month early. The day we came out of hospital we had to go straight to the tile shop as we were in the middle of having the bathroom redone (not great timing). Then had to take son to his gym class and sit in the hall with other parents. Then to a friend's curry night down the road - had no food in so perfect! The next day we went to local beer festival (outdoors) for an hour or so as midwife was encouraging me to be active and walk every day - older mum so slight increased risk of embolism. The next day went out for lunch in town. All good, baby slept all the time and I felt great.

There is no smoking in pubs any more. Can't see the problem.