One day old baby in pub

It doesnt mstter what you woukd want to happen
If the baby is well cared social services will not be intersted it doesnt sound like the pub is one frequented by all day piss heads many pubs are family friendly
My Dad spent the first 11 years of his life living in the pub owned by his parents ,himself and his five siblings all grew up healthily and all still alive in their 70,s and 80,s

How many years ago was that?🤣

Not in my experience, nor are they exceptionally clean

Are hospitals quiet?

Being on the maternity ward was probably the least relaxing night of my life because of the sheer amount of noise. Social noise is not going to harm the baby.

Ok the poor baby has just left the womb and taken him where a 2 year old and 4 year old are there spreading germs and making noise around the place constantly.

Why is this scenario so much more preferable?

We weren’t even out of the hospital on day 1 (or 2 or 3) and when we finally were I definitely wasn’t up for leaving the house or socialising. Add in infected stitches and I was still waddling/shuffling 6 weeks later. Everyone is different and will have different births and recovery periods. There’s no right or wrong or …”weakness”.

years ago it was being kept in hospital in bed for 10 days or the same at home if you had a home birth. I know mum said woe betide you if you dared step out of bed and the midwife found out!
But it is a different world and new mums are different, No longer is childbirth treated like an illness but a natural part of life. I applaud mums who get on with their life. My daughters after giving birth carried on as normal going to the chippy on the way home, looking after the other kids while dad took one for a minor operation, housework, visiting etc. much better to not be made to feel like an invalid

the light and the noise are not ok plus of course the germs, they both need rest. remember on OBEM the midwife told a mum “no going to the shops you need to go straight home” ? so it’s just me saying it 🤷🏽‍♀️ it’s anyone with common sense
what’s so great about the pub that it’s can’t wait for another day?

If shes able to get out and about , more power to her . I could hardly walk after my first , everyone's different and maybe she just wants some social interaction it's easy to get isolated as a young mum .

I can tell you that all 4 of my kids, who have been out in the real world within 24 hours of birth are all absolutely fine.

What about parents with multiple children who might have to do school runs? Or just have the general noise at home form other children? Have you been on a maternity ward - they're not exactly quiet and relaxing places!

A poor baby has just left the warm safe cocoon of it's mothers womb which is a bit dramatic for the poor wee soul and it taken to the pub/cafe/shop ! No chance for the baby to become used to it's new way of life. No quiet just noise. Makes you wonder how this lack of peace affects the rest of it's childhood.
But then it is all about the Mother after all.

Oh you are so judging her.

Dont try and fluff around it, even in your first post ", but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore."

Your faux concern for her health is laughable

The pub is fine, it's no more "germy" than anywhere else. Babies don't dissolve at a bit of noise either or nobody would ever have younger siblings.

With both kids I was in hospital for 2/3 days so no chance of me going anywhere with them but they are also full of germs and noise. By week 2 with #1 I went for a walk to the pub and had a small wine. With #2 I was at a baby group on day 5 because we wanted the crazy toddler to have something fun to do and I was climbing the walls and needed to get out.

On both occasions nobody but me touched them, they obviously couldn't touch anything, I wasn't wiping them all over the toilet floors, they spent most of the time asleep in the pram.

I did struggle physically afterwards on both occasions because I had had c sections and the extertion made me sore but it was great to be out in the world again.

I don’t mean potential noise. I mean just by being children. Pubs which let children in usually have a crap atmosphere.

Adults stimming has nothing to do with it. Stim away, as long as you are over 18.

Not my mum's experience, though in fairness she did have complex births so may have had more need for doctors than you. But there were a lot of visitors also!

Also it must surely have been cleaned at some point in the 5 days? If not, that's a bit worrying. It's been a while since I worked in a pub but ours certainly got cleaned more often than that!

I don’t live in the uk so no I didn’t realise? In Ireland people still smoke in smoking areas outdoors in pubs. Where most people sit when the weather is sunny and it is sunny here at the moment. Thanks for your extremely useful comment.

I was in hospital for a week after I had my first baby via emergency c section, after leaving hospital we went straight to Tesco with our baby. I could hardly walk, but needed baby milk as I wasn’t producing milk. I needed to be out - anywhere after being stuck in hospital for over a week!

When my daughter was 4 days old we spent the Saturday and then the Sunday in the pub. I felt fine, the weather was lovely and it was nice to be out and about. I drove myself (and baby!) home from hospital after giving birth less than 12 hours before and could easily have gone to the pub for food that day.

I’ve had 3 - absolutely fine to be out and about when you feel well. Day after having D1 we went to pub across the road and sat far away in quiet corner. DC2 was in her baby sling everywhere with me as she was 18 months after DC1. DC3 had her first 3 mile walk in the sling the day after she was born… by week 6 she’d been in her first UK holiday and even sat in a tent with me at the beach! She’s 13 months and about to go on her second holiday abroad this week. As long as the mum is well and sensible about it - it’s all fine!

I was told by my GP to wean my first at 6 weeks! (He was massive and unsettled). Then it was 3-6 months for #2, then 6 months+ for the youngest. When I had my 2nd we were told to avoid peanuts during pregnancy and until baby was 1 year to avoid risk of peanut allergy. I followed this advice and DS developed a peanut allergy. Now they reckon that avoiding peanuts causes peanut allergy. I was advised to use controlled crying with DS 1. These days you’re barely allowed to put them down while you get a quick shower. Years ago women were advised to stay in bed for days, now we’re told to move to avoid blood clots.

Probably better than having all your family friends coming to your house and making mess and demanding cups of tea, etc. Hopefully it means she can see a lot of people in a short amount and then have a nice relaxing time at home. And she can get a meal that she didn’t have to cook or mess up her kitchen.

my oldest went in the pub at 6 days and that was when smoking WAS allowed. I went back to work when they were 2 weeks old. There was no advice on what to do that I knew about, I saw a midwife for about 20 minutes at the birth and didn’t see another one until over a week later.

my younger on the school run twice at under 24 hours, me walking, baby in carrier. I only got “told off” once when I was at a shopping centre around an hour from home for a bit of a day out and some lunch when the baby was 6 days. But I wanted to make the most of the time off, back to work at 5 weeks.

if I was supposed to sit indoors for weeks because of the baby’s immune system maybe I shouldn’t have had daily medical appointments starting at 1 day postpartum that required me to either walk a four mile round trip or get on the bus with the baby. I did both depending on the weather. And when I’d managed to get out to the daily appointments me and the baby were sitting in a waiting room full of sick people!

I think it’s more the type of person really. I was 39 when I had my first and had a great recovery, I went to the pub on day 3. Our first NCT meet up was within most people’s first two weeks of giving birth and we met in a pub (age ranges 38-45)!

I just liked getting out of the house, going for a walk, getting some fresh air, having a meal we didn’t have to shop for or cook, and just generally getting on with things.

Ds went to do the Christmas shop at 2 days old in a huge Sainsbury's.

Wow, it's amazing what babies can do these days !