One day old baby in pub

Nor do I, we have a couple of babies coming to the pub quiz but all they do is sleep, they are useless on the music rounds!
Seriously though, when our first was imminent we were bemoaning to our favourite restaurant owner that our nights out would be curtailed but he said Rubbish, bring him/her in the carrycot and we can find a quiet corner! It would well for about 6 months and she doesn't appear to have suffered.

Was in hospital for a week, but even after that couldn't have been in a pub I was trying to establish breastfeeding with a baby with a tongue tie, who liked to dramatically fling his head away from my breast exposing my nipple to anyone in the vicinity.
I did pop into the office to see colleagues when he was ten days old and remember a colleague saying to me, "you've done your hair and you look amazing! I was covered in vomit at 10 days PP!" The first couple of months were probably easier than the next 3 for me when DH went back to work and the sleep deprivation kicked in. Everyone is different. I've not known anyone in real life create a newborn bubble and not allow visitors for a fortnight, but I hear it on here all the time.

ETA I had a 73 hour labour, it was really hard and then an emergency episiotomy because DS got stuck. I still didn't have much pain and was walking around straight away. I wasn't young either, I was 34, people just have different experiences

Im not offended, its a forum people have difderent opnions thats how it works 🤷‍♀️

Who are you to judge? And to even go as far as almost shaming her for it on MN? Just because you didn’t feel up to it doesn’t mean no one else should. Jeez

Who said anything about her being in agony? Some people have easy births. I was 35 when I had my last so certainly not young, and I drove us home less than 12 hours after having her, went out for a coffee the same day and went to the pub a couple of days later. No pain whatsoever, not even any discomfort.

How long do you think a new born baby should be kept at home due to virus,s?

1. She had an episiotomy which can cause significant pain.
2. Only the person that has actually given birth will know if they are in pain, regardless of the type of birth they had.
3. Why do you appear to be offended by my comment?

It's up to her really. I don't think the baby would get some terrible disease from a pub anymore than they might at someone's home or a cafe/shop. A young single mum would have no choice but to take her very young baby wherever she needed to go. So I wouldn't say it's dangerous?
It's great she felt well enough to be able to do this really. So I think it's fine.

Well it would be better keeping the baby at home because of risk of catching viruses, but maybe she just wanted to get out of the house and show the baby off, she’s only young so maybe that was important for her wellbeing. The baby isn’t being harmed or neglected so just let it go

I think it’s fine if the mother is comfortable enough. At 17 she can probably do without judgement of others on what she does.

Right ,but by the small amount of info we have the mum appear ,s to have had a straight forward birth and is hsppy to be in the .pub.

You were judging her though if you re-read your OP, you were questioning whether the baby should have been down the pub. Whether or not she is overdoing it comes purely down to how she feels.

Would you have started this thread if she had called round her mothers house?

Well I lived in a pub when I had DD!
We are both doing ok and it doesn’t seem to have scarred her, she’s 11 now and doesn’t seem to have any lifelong trauma.

Because someone I know went out day two, despite being in absolute agony and didn’t tell anyone because they thought they had to be out and about as if they hadn’t had a baby.

And do you know what? When people did scrub their front steps and think about what other people thought of them, society worked a lot better than it does now.

It's not really any of your business

Pmsl I was taken to the pub soon as my mam was released from hospital with me. My parents were very good friends with the landlords and the pub was on the way home 🤣. I took my 2 day old baby to a football match 😂😂. You rest if you want to rest, let others do what they feel like doing. If it's not hurting anyone leave well alone.

At least 35. I had 20 hours after my DD was born in hospital. That was 1991

Why?

Since when has the advice been that babies can’t be in the light or have noise around them?!?! Common advice for a long time was “hoover when they’re sleeping and they’ll sleep through anything”. What are you even on about?

So she went to a pub restaurant and had a meal? Hardly the same as “going to the pub”. I think this is absolutely fine. Why wouldn’t it be?

I feel horrendously sorry for the Mum. I hope she’s not trying to be brave and strong when she’s actually in absolute agony. Does she have a good network around her that will check she’s ok etc

I think my mum said she wss kept in hospital for 10 days after my sister was born in 1972 both of them were healthy
I was born 20 months later and she was " only" kept in for 3 days because she had a toddler at home.

Babies are supposed to be kept in the dark? That’s a new one on me.

I imagine the midwife said that to the woman because of some men’s expectations that a woman gets straight back to ‘woman’s work’ than anything to do with it being a danger to her or the baby.

For some people, the want or need to get back to normal life means they don’t sit on the sofa for weeks after birth. And that’s ok.

@Anonym00seHow long ago was professional advice to wean at 6 weeks? Because I have been a mother and an involved aunt for 40 years and none of the babies involved were weaned before 3 months at the earliest.