One day old baby in pub

Well that's a bit different to the majority

It was a military hospital, and certainly efficiently run!

Hospital must've been better then as they certainly rent restful these days

It's a special time either way and you can also enjoy it either way. I wouldn't have enjoyed it if I had the baby 'to myself' for a bit but others are the opposite.

My first was born in 1993. The 4th in 2002. I very much enjoyed being out and about, from day1. Being indoors would give me cabin fever.

When I left the hospital with my second they were having a new parking system put in, so we walked to my MILs house with our newborn in a pram about a mile away before having lunch with her and then driving home.

In those days it was a ‘domino’ delivery. In and out in hours if possible, so he was about 11 hours old when we left.

Walking is actively encouraged these days to reduce blood clots. Most hospitals have women birthing in compression stockings and then up and about ASAP, including C sections. ‘Laying in’ is fairly antiquated and not considered good practice unless there are medical reasons.

You can go anywhere and do anything with a newborn, socialising is actively encouraged to reduce PND likelihood. You can even swim before first vaccinations nowadays.

Totally agree!

This is what I have been trying to say all along regardless of ether decade people gave birth. People getting things twisted and thinking lock yourself away don't go out don't speak to no one.

10 days for the first, 6 days for the second! A welcome rest! Can’t imagine it now, but it was useful for supporting new mums to learn how to bath baby , breast feed etc.

No, but it was generally a thing that baby was taken home, not to be isolated in a bubble locked inside, but to be with the immediate family for a short time, before resuming normal routine. I don’t think many stopped at the pub or supermarket on the way home ! It’s not abnormal to want baby to yourself for a bit, to enjoy it- it’s a special time.

Lol older than me then. Shame my mum not about to. Ask her. Didn't you have to stay in hospital longer then anyway?

It's how it was for you. There's no universal experience

Mine is 59 and it was like that!

It wasn't like that when I had mine and she's 33

@Allseeingallknowing

changed for the better then! Sorry you had to go through that but pleased now that women and their mental health is prioritised more. For some women getting out and about and getting back to normality is key to their wellbeing.

Because that was how it was when I had mine, and things do change!

I personally wouldn’t want to be slotted in with the weekly shop or visit to the pub, but that’s the way it was when I had mine. Obviously some regard it differently now.
The bit about how you felt personally fine. Why the need for the snark about that's how it was then and must be different now? Women have felt differently after birth and wanting to do different things for ever. It's not about then versus now.

I don’t think anyone has suggested that new mums lock themselves away for weeks and isolate themselves, just that it’s a special time when baby is taken home, that I personally wouldn’t want to be slotted in with the weekly shop or visit to the pub, but that’s the way it was when I had mine. Obviously some regard it differently now.

Ah. A 25 year old ‘joke’ then.

Sonia from EastEnders, I think was aged 15 at the time, didn't know she was pregnant until she giving birth. Sonia must had married Martin Fowler, the father, if calling her Sonia Fowler.

I think it’s internalised misogyny @Unwelcoming

@Unwelcoming

the nurse would have been far happier to hear that, than “I’m going to go home and stay there for weeks not going out and not seeing anyone, just sit there me and my baby”. That would be ringing alarm bells for PND.

’putting the baby in harms way’ is absolutely ridiculous and why is a nurse going to care whether mums are stopping at the supermarket or to have a bite to eat in a pub or cafe on the way home or the next day. I’m sure they have seen and dealt with actual cases of neglect or abuse beyond ‘mum goes out for a meal with her newborn’

Exactly, everyones stories are different, so dont project your own desires and bigoted views onto others. And why would anyone care about a nurse's (who is just a person like any other) reaction? Why not ask a guy at the petrol station, her neighbour, a cab driver and a dog walker why we are at it.
Unless you have an actual NHS advice about what mothers allowed to do in Victorian times nowadays?
You need to look deep inside yourself and figure out why you are so jaded, bitter and judgemental towards other mothers.

Loool you're wrong jealouss of putting baby in harms way no thank you.... Oh I did have my family and friends come over, but a week later. They're considerate like that. They all brought a dish each too. Everyone's stories and circumstances are different e.g first child etc but everyone's priority is their baby. I highly doubt at discharge Mother said to the nurses I'm just going to stop off at the pub to get a meal-would have loved to see the nurse's immediate reaction.
Have you listened to your self.. This is mum living a little having fun? It's day oneeee

The mum galavating to meet up? Jesus wept.

Sadly for you we don't lie in the Handmaids's tale.
Luckily, no one cares about what you think and you dont get to dictate where other women go or how they should feel, you need to stop projecting what you may/would have wanted onto what other people want and who can visit who and under what circumstances. You didnt want to go anywhere and host- great, but the young mum did. And luckily, she didnt have to host anything, she could just relax and have fun and enjoy her baby with her family. Good for her.
Maybe deep inside you are a bit jealous that some people actually get to go out and have fun in their lives and live a little and do you had to follow rules set by whoever without questioning them? It's not too late to live a little. It's 2025, not 1825 anymore.

Then she doesn’t need to stay at home.

I did say it was just my preference/view and ended it with ‘to each their own’.