One day old baby in pub

I often see very young newborns in soft plays which shocks me more than seeing them in a pub tbh, given my DD seems to have a cold practically every time we have recently been to one. I know it’s not really comparable to when toddlers are in the ball pit! Even so, I’m going to try to give them a wide berth with my toddler when my second arrives but it’ll be hard to do it for very long.

I also found cluster feeding a nightmare and got very little sleep with a baby in excellent health. Imagine if she had had a cold/congestion too. 🙈

She was having a meal. Well done to her for managing. At 1 day old I would have loved someone cooking a meal for me, think we lived off takeaways for a few weeks 😂

I never felt the need to rest up after I had any of my children. I went to Sainsbury's on the way home from hospital and just carried on with everyday life. We were definitely in the pub for lunch within a day or so. I actually found all the "rest" comments really annoying (Although I appreciate they were well meaning)

It just didn't find giving birth something that I needed time to recover from.

after my first i went to the all you can eat Chinese the day after with him

I don’t think you are soft, I think you are a busy body. What has any of this got to do with you?

Rubbish, my eldest is nearly 30 we where never advised to shield the baby for 6 weeks. Neither where my parents or my nieces that have had babies in the last 15 years

Yes its fine, its not the smokey environment it once was. A couple of days after a gave birth to my second I was taking the baby on the school run, to the supermarket, to a coffeeshop, while supervising my elder child in the park. Nothing drastic happened.

This is the kind of thing that should be entirely decided by the new Mum. If she feels fine and is the one who wants to go out, great. If you think she's being pressured into it before she's ready then I'd support her to stand up to them.

I'm more concerned about baby's lack of immune system, than the mum to be honest.
Taking baby in to busy environment with zero immunity is just asking for trouble. You can't give cold medicine to such a tiny baby, so if anyone sneezed at baby, it would get it properly ill with nothing to fight it.
I think it's irresponsible from that point of you. It was always recommended to shield baby for first 6 weeks.

Or babycham

I think I agree with parts of this after seeing the look on my DD’s face as she was pulled out during my CS. I was really happy for a slow pace and peace and quiet at home for about a week but I had a traumatic birth experience. My daughter slept and slept and slept in her cot thankfully. We made it out on day 7 I think, just for a stroll through a quiet park on a beautiful day. I was bleeding heavily and leaking through all the breast pads too, not to mention I had a cluster feeder for HOURS on end, so I’m amazed and impressed when mums get out much earlier. I suspect I’ll have to get out earlier this time as I have a toddler too.

I wouldn’t judge the new mum here but it’s not something I’d want to do - but then I’m not a fan of going to pubs really. I’d just order a Deliveroo if I wanted something cooked for me.

I stopped off at Sainsburys on the way home from hospital the day DD2 was born and out doing some shopping the next day. She was with me both times.
I'm sure if she hadn't felt able to go out then she wouldn't have and pubs are all non smoking so baby wouldn't have come to any harm

I was shopping with my newborn the morning after I had my 2nd DC. Not sure I'd go to a pub, but I guess the bonus is you could let friends & family meet DC all in one go, then get a few days peace with no visitors.

After having my 1st DC all I wanted was to get home & sleep, I'd been awake over 2 days, drawn out birth, non stop being sick for a day & an epidural that sent me a loopy.

So no drugs 2nd time round, in & out of hospital in hours, hence being great the next morning to shop.

We all react differently, each to their own.

My sister had a baby a couple of weeks ago and I think she feels obligated to be ‘normal’.

Her relationship is still quite new and she is very set on not wanting to appear like she’s sat at home not doing anything.
So she’s wearing make up, nice clothes, styling her hair and constantly going out places.

If this is what she wants to do then I’d admire her but I know it’s not, she’s just putting on an act because she thinks that resting at home and not looking ‘perfect’ is going to make her DP not want her or like she can’t cope.

If your family member wants to do this, then more power to her.
But if she’s doing it for other peoples benefit then I feel sorry for her.

It’s fine. I took my DC to a pub to meet friends on day 3, we were out for a couple of hours, she slept on me entire time, I had a tiny house so made it far easier to do that rather than host endless visitors. She would have just slept on me wherever we were. Pub was far comfier than a coffee shop

That's an odd take.

For all you know she could live a hundred yards from the boozer and rather meet there as their home is too small to host visiting family members comfortably. There are a thousand legitimate reasons to meet visitors in public, rather than at home.

The Mum was eating a meal, FFS!

The judgement and wild assumptions are a lot!

My third baby was born at 6am.

The same day (about 9 hours after he was born) he was on the school run and we all went to the park and a cafe on the way home. All the other school families were keen to see him.

If your relative felt fine to be out then that’s totally up to her. It’s only a problem if she was forced there against her will.

I had to stay in hospital for a couple of days, but somehow I just about managed to walk to our local! Midwife unexpectedly turned up just as we got back and she basically, said I don't blame you, it's good to get out.

Had to say though, it was a lovely hot day (so she obvously wasn't cold) and the afternoon, so quiet in the pub. DD seemed happy. Our wedding anniversary was a couple of weeks later and we had a lunchtime meal out, again no problem.

My cousin had this in Greece. MIL chased visitors out the door. I enjoyed my own self imposed cuarentena (from cuarenta 40) and kept people away myself. I did go for walks after a couple of weeks by myself or with husband. Bliss.

I had my first at 18. I worked right up until the Thursday at 11pm. Went into be induced on the Friday morning, had her Friday afternoon and was out Saturday morning. I went back to work on the Monday as I could take her with me ( family business) and went right back to normal shifts running a busy hotel. With my 4th I was 26 and needed a husband to help me to the toilet for 4 days and wait on me as I felt like I was going to die. All 4 were very typical vaginal births with no stitches or complications. It’s crazy, 17-20 you aren’t really emotionally mature enough to understand the commitment you are making simply due to lack of life experience, but your body recovers SO quickly. When you ARE emotionally mature and have some life experience to raise a baby, you give birth and then your body feels like it’s been in a tumble dryer with rocks. Is like Mother Nature has it wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

My eldest is 33 and she was born whilst I was living abroad. You were not 'allowed' to take the baby out until they were 40 days old and you'd been to church! My mil used to stand guard at the front door! My parents visited when dd1 was about 30 days out and we went for a walk. Exdh went ballistic because I'd taken her out. Mil insisted on me going to the local orthodox church (I'm c of e) where the priest said some words, asked me to kiss various icons, I refused and then I was free.

@ERthree”It isn’t all about the Mother” Well, assuming the baby is warm, clean, fed and comfortable, yes it is!

Oh come on im happy the mum and baby are healthy and out and about
But realistically 17 is a far from ideal age to have a bsby

I popped to Tesco on the way home from giving birth to my second to grab a quick food shop. She was about 5 hours old. I felt fine and baby was fine. Honestly, if she feels up to it then keep your nose out. The idea of not going out for a week is old fashioned and pretty much forgotten.

I am jealous, happy for the mother and baby and I deeply regret not giving birth at 17 (honestly). May the mum and the child be healthy and happy!