One day old baby in pub

Last time i was in my local it was lovely and peaceful, a couple of smallish groups playing board/ card games, an older couple having a meal.

Totally toxic.

Bloody hell- of course it’s fine.

The wrong energy! Fuck sake 😂

Surely the fact that the majority of posters on this thread think there’s nothing wrong with what this new mum did, shows you that it is indeed ‘normal’.

What exactly is wrong with a pub? Can you please be specific?

Horrifying! Babies need to be at home in a safe, snug, loving environment not being paraded in a pub! Pubs contain all the wrong energy for a baby, a truly toxic mix.

‘She wasn’t drinking alcohol’
And so what if she was (unless she was getting hammered). We opened a bottle of Prosecco when DS was born!

No your not, I'm actually surprised how normal everyone else seems to think this is. With all my babies got the first month I kept outings very minimal to be honest especially as newborn immune systems are still weak and building up. I did the school run prob from the 2nd week in guessing it's been a while, but of all places to get a meal at pub I don't know just sounds so wrong. I don't know it did concern mean reading this post. I would have just wanted to go home to my own comfort and rest. Yesss by day 3/4 or week in I'd prob just want a breather but not on day 1 that's just weird. Yes I stopped at my mums when I left the hospital for prob less than hour but it's not the same & it's not a public place. Also get a takeaway!!!

I think it’s fine. Is completely up to the mum how she’s feeling and clearly she was feeling fine. It’s good to get walking after giving birth (I had an emergency c section) and they recommended I started walking (slowly and short distances) as soon as possible as it aides recovery

Don't see the harm in it, it's not as if people in pubs smoke anymore. We went to the supermarket. If she's fit enough then why shouldn't she?

I was out trying bridesmaid dresses on the day after I came out of hospital with baby number 1 and doing my volunteer job 3 days after baby 2 was born. If she’s happy let her crack on. It’s difficult enough to adjust to parenthood without people telling you want you ‘should’ be doing all the time.

My weeks-old baby wasn’t intubated in PICU with RSV because on day 3 I went to a cafe gasp, it was because…….she has a big brother who goes to school.

Staying home for weeks on end would have made precisely fuck all difference to her immune system.

I missed a midwife appointment on my baby's second day because I went for a three mile walk. Should I be confined as well?

Good on her if she had a good labour after which she could sit /walk ok. My first, no way 29 hours foreceps etc. My second went to pub about 3 days later with baby and toddler to eat a meal.

I went to Costco the day after my c section new baby in tow because it was my oldest birthday party the following day 🤷🏻‍♀️. Not everyone is the same . Stop judging others on how they mother or how they recover . I was also driving 1 day after my last c section new baby in tow because I felt great .
with my first I was 19 and went grocery shopping and lunch the following day . My babies are all winter ones too ,why do you think babies need to be closed inside is beyond me .

Day one of a newborn baby's life only hours old spent being cuddled and fed by loving family outside the home in a perfectly safe environment where mum is relaxed and happy = nice

End of.

Personally I look back on those initial days with my first born as a wonderful haze of love, getting to know each other in our own little bubble. Nursing her, singing to her, bathing her - being in awe of her. I remember the smells and the feelings of having this new little human and had no desire to "show her off", although I was happy for close family to visit.

I do not class myself as 'pfb' material and of course when you have subsequent babies practicalities take over and my DD2 was taken out on in her first week of life.

But those early days with my first daughter, just me, DH and her - I treasure those memories.

@Livingbytheocean

why exactly is it grim?

So? Even when a baby is a day old, the mother has been cooped up in hospital. If she feels up to it, it's good for her to get out.

The baby doesn't care as long as they are fed and clean.

Would an artisan cafe be ‘grim’?

Day one of a newborn baby’s life only hours old spent in a pub = grim.

End of.

no one is talking aobut weeks, well some people are but that wasnt the original point of the discussion

Speaking as one of the people who's pointed that out about pubs, it's been in response to obviously idiotic claims about things baby needs. As have been a lot of those who mentioned postnatal wards. Facile of you to pretend people are claiming it's an either/or. And while we need to be in a postnatal ward for medical reasons, they certainly don't need to be as awful as they often are for medical reasons, which again is a point a lot of us have been making. Someone talked about not having seen a cleaner for 5 days when they were in one, for example.

Absolutely. I couldn't imagine staying at home for weeks and a mother with poor mental health isn't going to benefit a baby.