Page 10 | One day old baby in pub

Frenchie01 · 2025-04-09T22:27:02+00:00

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

Peony1897 · 11/04/2025 21:25

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 21:20

She wasn't after a medal, just a nice meal 🤷‍♀️

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I wouldn’t risk my baby’s health for a nice meal in a pub, I would just order one to my house or have somebody make one for me.

Peony1897 · 11/04/2025 21:24

SouthLondonMum22 · 11/04/2025 21:19

What difference is there if baby gets a cold from a family member during a home visit or a family member when at the pub?

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Far more likely in a crowded indoor area full of the public. Family, I like to think, would be considerate enough to say in advance if they were ill.

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 21:20

Peony1897 · 11/04/2025 21:15

No, I wouldn’t. This thread will be full of competitive ‘I did the school run after 10 minutes’ but a baby’s immune system only takes 6 weeks to mature and after that point serious complications of colds and bugs are far less likely. I don’t think that’s too much to ask tbh? Just 6 weeks with family visits, park walks etc, and take them busier places after that. No medal for parading a baby around at 1 day old.

She wasn't after a medal, just a nice meal 🤷‍♀️

SouthLondonMum22 · 11/04/2025 21:19

Peony1897 · 11/04/2025 21:15

No, I wouldn’t. This thread will be full of competitive ‘I did the school run after 10 minutes’ but a baby’s immune system only takes 6 weeks to mature and after that point serious complications of colds and bugs are far less likely. I don’t think that’s too much to ask tbh? Just 6 weeks with family visits, park walks etc, and take them busier places after that. No medal for parading a baby around at 1 day old.

What difference is there if baby gets a cold from a family member during a home visit or a family member when at the pub?

GrandTheftWalrus · 11/04/2025 21:18

FridaFancy · 11/04/2025 20:57

Paramedics lose precious minutes having to show their ID to get into the pub

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Hahaha no they don't!!!!

Peony1897 · 11/04/2025 21:15

No, I wouldn’t. This thread will be full of competitive ‘I did the school run after 10 minutes’ but a baby’s immune system only takes 6 weeks to mature and after that point serious complications of colds and bugs are far less likely. I don’t think that’s too much to ask tbh? Just 6 weeks with family visits, park walks etc, and take them busier places after that. No medal for parading a baby around at 1 day old.

SouthLondonMum22 · 11/04/2025 21:09

GMV42 · 11/04/2025 20:41

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

I was never advised to stay at home.

If the mother is well enough to leave hospital, she's well enough to have lunch at the pub if that is what she wants.

FridaFancy · 11/04/2025 20:57

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 20:48

Home haemorrhages are less bad than pub ones?

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Paramedics lose precious minutes having to show their ID to get into the pub

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 20:56

SwingTheMonkey · 11/04/2025 20:52

Nobody in the UK is advised to stay at home after they’ve had a baby.

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As a midwife, I can confirm categorically this is absolute crapola. No one is discharged from hospital if they're at high risk of haemorrhage.

SwingTheMonkey · 11/04/2025 20:52

GMV42 · 11/04/2025 20:41

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

Nobody in the UK is advised to stay at home after they’ve had a baby.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 11/04/2025 20:48

Livingbytheocean · 10/04/2025 14:06

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/infection-prevention-week/

Babies are uniquely vulnerable, and those bragging that they don’t care and will expose their newborns to anything hours after arrival are quite frankly bloody irresponsible.

My dear friend had this attitude until her baby developed sepsis. Thankfully she pulled through, but df was much more careful after that.

The advice has never changed re the risks of an undeveloped immune system in very young babies is well known. I suggest pp educate themselves on the risks.

Amazing how you suddenly “remember” your friend’s baby had sepsis because almost everyone is disagreeing with you. If it was true, I’m sure you’d have told us in your first or second post rather than your thirtieth.

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 20:48

GMV42 · 11/04/2025 20:41

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

Home haemorrhages are less bad than pub ones?

Smallmercies · 11/04/2025 20:47

Livingbytheocean · 11/04/2025 16:27

Day one of a newborn baby’s life only hours old spent in a pub = grim.

End of.

Why though?

GMV42 · 11/04/2025 20:41

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

Singaporeannoodle · 11/04/2025 20:34

GiveDogBone · 11/04/2025 20:21

She can do what she wants. But a one day old baby does not have a functioning immune system. If it had caught an infection (flu, etc) from anyone it could have died and there’s very little doctors would have been able to do about it.

Obviously a 17 year old is immature and way too young to have a baby (and very unlikely to be well educated on matters to do with caring for a baby), so her behaviour does not surprise me.

No need to be a dick about her age. I had my first at 16 so did the op herself. Not all young mums are the same.

Growlybear83 · 11/04/2025 20:33

DeskJotter · 11/04/2025 19:31

Why do you think the baby was uncomfortable and cold?

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Surely the mother is also stressed after ‘such an epic, exhaustive delivery’ and finds the birth traumatic? I know my labour was one of the most horrendous traumatic events of my life! Maybe the mother’s way of letting her central nervous system settle down is to relax in the pub for a little while?

Quite honestly, I would think it’s more likely that a new born baby, or anyone come to that, would be more at risk of exposure to germs in hospital, but I don’t see people criticising hospital births rather than home births.

Singaporeannoodle · 11/04/2025 20:32

I get you op. No judgement for her being young I was also 16 with my first.
But the pub after one day is a bit much imo. I suppose it could depend on what the pub in question is like.
I can't help picturing my local one full of old alcoholic men sneezing coughing and making phlegmy noises everywhere. I caught some kind of vomiting and diarrhea bug a day after being in there and being coughed on.

A more spacious less crowded pub would be completely different I suppose

MrsBeltane · 11/04/2025 20:29

DS was born on a Thursday, we were in the pub for Sunday lunch a few days later.

FridaFancy · 11/04/2025 20:24

GiveDogBone · 11/04/2025 20:21

She can do what she wants. But a one day old baby does not have a functioning immune system. If it had caught an infection (flu, etc) from anyone it could have died and there’s very little doctors would have been able to do about it.

Obviously a 17 year old is immature and way too young to have a baby (and very unlikely to be well educated on matters to do with caring for a baby), so her behaviour does not surprise me.

“Obviously a 17 year old is immature”

Immature but probably not judgey as fuck, unlike this poster. I’ve known wildly immature 40 year olds, and teenagers who have been responsible and loving parents. Maybe stop being such a judgemental snob and recognise that age is not a reliable indicator of parenting ability. (And yes, I’m aware of neurophysiology. I’m also aware of individuality)

GiveDogBone · 11/04/2025 20:21

She can do what she wants. But a one day old baby does not have a functioning immune system. If it had caught an infection (flu, etc) from anyone it could have died and there’s very little doctors would have been able to do about it.

Obviously a 17 year old is immature and way too young to have a baby (and very unlikely to be well educated on matters to do with caring for a baby), so her behaviour does not surprise me.

EdgyGreyUser · 11/04/2025 20:20

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 09/04/2025 23:31

It's ok as long as the baby sticks to halves or shandy.

Lol

doreeen · 11/04/2025 20:10

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 11/04/2025 19:47

Which works fine with the first baby, but who’s going to do the school/nursery run if the mother is stuck inside for 3 weeks? It’s just not practical.

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Yep none of this ‘no germs being brought into the house, calm quiet environment at home, staying inside for 3 weeks’ works at all if it’s not a first baby 😅

Bowies · 11/04/2025 19:51

I think it’s fine now there’s no smoking in pubs. If she felt okay she probably wanted to get out. It is easy to overdo things I agree but sitting down having a pub lunch with friends and family is low key,

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 11/04/2025 19:49

fiorenza · 10/04/2025 01:21

Years ago a friend of a friend was told this, but she wanted to show her first baby off. The baby caught something, and was rendered basically a vegetable. Lived in a home and died at age three.

That's an extreme case, I am sure, but I often think of her. I think it is insane behaviour to take a day old baby to a pub, regardless.

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That is an absolutely disgusting way to refer to a disabled person. Honestly, the unchecked ableism on here gets worse.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 11/04/2025 19:47

Tbrh · 10/04/2025 01:07

We were told in our antenatal class to avoid people for 3 weeks so the babies immune system could develop. Obviously not everyone can do that, but going to the pub is hardly essential. Quite sad if people can't put their baby first for at least a few weeks

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Which works fine with the first baby, but who’s going to do the school/nursery run if the mother is stuck inside for 3 weeks? It’s just not practical.