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Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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caringcarer · 10/04/2025 18:11

Heronwatcher · 09/04/2025 22:20

If you must go for mauve why? what about something flowery. Since all your bridesmaids are slim they could definitely get away with something like this.

This is a much better style and looks good. Better around the bust.

Theoldwrinkley · 10/04/2025 18:09

Awful colour. It makes it look as if you aren't wearing anything.

caringcarer · 10/04/2025 18:00

I'm sorry but that cut would not flattering on many people but the colour is nice. Any fat on upper arms would not be able to be disguised. It's not flattering around the bust and looks cheap.

Middleagedspreadisreal · 10/04/2025 17:57

PinkiOcelot · 09/04/2025 22:05

It looks like a nightie.

Beat me to it

Doggymummar · 10/04/2025 16:20

It looks like a car boot sale nighty

FleurDeFleur · 10/04/2025 15:55

Sebsaloysius · 10/04/2025 14:30

You didn't just have a hen do in Mexico, did you.....

😂😂

shipinfullsail · 10/04/2025 14:49

All underwear lines will show, bias cut is so unforgiving. It can be made to look good, if the dress is couture, and fitted to the figure of the wearer. That will be ££££££££ for a good result.

Sebsaloysius · 10/04/2025 14:30

You didn't just have a hen do in Mexico, did you.....

mochimoons · 10/04/2025 13:48

APocketFullOfRye · 10/04/2025 13:09

That is lovely and much better fabric too!

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I do agree with other posters that this is nicer!

mochimoons · 10/04/2025 13:43

I think it's lovely and would be happy to wear that as a bridesmaid! I find this kind of cut flattering for me with an hourglass shape - and I would always wear shape wear under a bridesmaid dress which would smooth any bumps.

I do think it's hard to put everyone in the same dress though unless they have similar body types and would probably look at getting the same colour / fabric but different cuts for different shapes.

IhadaStripeyDeckchair · 10/04/2025 13:39

That dress is horrible
It looks like a posh 1980s night dress

No-one will look good in it

notatinydancer · 10/04/2025 13:35

Awful. Even at a size 8/12 people have lumps and bumps.
looks horrible cheap material , god knows what underwear you’d wear.

CoughItUpLove · 10/04/2025 13:32

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:50

I do like this. I wish the sleeves were less fluttery

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Buy these and have the sleeves taken off?

CoughItUpLove · 10/04/2025 13:30

I really like it but the material would cling and look unflattering on even the slimmest figure, excellent smoothing shapewear would be required.

toomanydicksonthedancefloor1 · 10/04/2025 13:12

I’m a very toned size 8 and I would feel uncomfortable in that and very exposed

APocketFullOfRye · 10/04/2025 13:09

katepilar · 10/04/2025 13:04

I love this dress. I rarely love a dress but I do love this one.

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That is lovely and much better fabric too!

katepilar · 10/04/2025 13:03

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:08

I’m really struggling to find this shade of dress. I need this tan mauve colour to match my scheme. Gahhh

If its the colour you are after, it will be difficult to match via online search anyway.

7yo7yo · 10/04/2025 13:01

Horrid dress and not keen on the colour.
do you hate your bridesmaids?

user2848502016 · 10/04/2025 12:55

It’s awful sorry! Very unforgiving. I wouldn’t have wanted to wear that even when I was a size 8 youngster

MellowCritic · 10/04/2025 12:44

You need to get your girls to try the dresses on. We can't give you honest opinion based on the pics and take into consideration the bra situation. 🤦‍♀️

katepilar · 10/04/2025 12:31

Looks absolutely awful on the larger model.

Aparecium · 10/04/2025 12:21

It looks like a nightie.

JustSawJohnny · 10/04/2025 12:12

Terrythefish · 10/04/2025 11:11

This. I am a size 6-8 and I would just refuse to wear that. I would rather bow out of being a bridesmaid. I would look dreadful in that dress.

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I agree with this.

Some of my very thin friends are not body confident at all and would worry about things like their hip bones showing or the bust being too baggy.

I mean, I'd give anything to find a hip bone, but regardless, that fabric is hideously unforgiving on EVERYONE!

What OP needs to remember is that the images, even the plus size one, will have been touched up.

Best to try on dresses and see how bridesmaids feel. It's a long day to be in a dress and bridesmaids often get lumbered with a bit of the running around and lift work (picking up the train, helping bride out of car, helping out any children in the bridal party etc) - the priority should be their comfort.

JustSawJohnny · 10/04/2025 12:07

That fabric is very unforgiving and shows every little mark. The bra situation will be difficult as every line will show.

If it rains on the way into the church, your bridesmaids will be covered in much darker spots.

Alternative pic posted above with less silky material would be much better, I think. Just generally easier and more comfortable.