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Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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WutheringBites · 11/04/2025 04:30

Not my cup of tea; bias cut is always tricky.

also it’s interesting, that colour reminds me of what I tend to call, erm, vulval pink.

ask your bridesmaids what they like. It kinda doesn’t matter what a bunch of randoms on the internet think, does it? & have a fab time together!

Twinkletoes10 · 11/04/2025 04:24

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:21

So this is the only other dress I have found that I like. But will it look weird cause the groom and groomsmen have gone for navy suits

I think these are lovely , much more flattering. And would look great with navy suits.

Bowies · 11/04/2025 02:27

Not saying you necessarily want to buy from here, but Nobody’s child have some different examples of slim fitting cut on the bias satin slip dresses, but without the bust detail:

Alternative but similar style bridesmaid dresses (there’s a picture with a bride and 2 different bridesmaids dresses, I couldn’t link that picture, this is linking to one of them)

Olive Cowl Neck Midi Trixie Dress

Olive Cowl Neck Midaxi Trixie Bridesmaids Dress

https://www.nobodyschild.com/products/olive-cowl-neck-midaxi-trixie-bridesmaids-dress-d243077grn?cjdata=MXxZfDB8WXww&cjevent=013af1f7167311f0828600290a18b8fc&variant=53944905236865

Bowies · 11/04/2025 02:06

I don’t like the bust detail on the dress itself, it makes it look like nightwear or at least very informal for what is a formal occasion.

Agree it looks just as good on both body shapes but would pick something else personally.

Arealnumber · 11/04/2025 01:24

Personally I would forget about a “colour scheme” altogether. The whole concept is old fashioned looking these days. You could choose some dresses with better structure if you didn’t need to stick to this colour.

SilverCoins · 11/04/2025 01:11

I think its the combination of the bias cut, the satin and colour - and then for whatever reason the arms cut in a way you can't wear a bra. Even sticking to that kind of satin bridesmaid look but just eliminating one of those factors brings up much nicer options
photo 1 - there's a reason multiways are popular for bridesmaids - easily get the colour you want, bridesmaids can style as works for them
photo 2 - satin and bias cut but navy
photo 3 - satin, putty coloured but more flattering cut - and even though strapless you could still wear a bra

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Unwelcoming · 11/04/2025 00:06

I'm sorry as a slim body and big chest that is a no no and you can still get cellulite all the bumps still being slim. Have you tried the dress!? You might have the perfect body but it's not fair on everyone else to make them wear something unflattering uncomfortable that shows their flaws... That seam needs to go. maybe chiffon... To be honest i love satin as a bridesmaid dress but not the nightie type and not where your body parts have to sit in a particular area regardless of size. Sorry I know its not what you wanted to hear but they are right I wouldn't be able to get into something like that let alone pull it off. Ill attached a few pics once being something similar but no seams under the bust of needs must atkeasr they can use shapewear if need be

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
tedibear · 10/04/2025 22:58

Totally shapeless and I think wld highlight any lumps or bumps. The bust bit is really weird looking too. I don’t think your bridesmaids will thanks you!

FleurDeFleur · 10/04/2025 22:45

Willyoushutthefrontdoor · 10/04/2025 22:38

We did. Rather than go to a shop and try them on for free we paid to do it at home. You then get money off it you buy. Worked amazingly well for us and definitely didn't consider it a rip off. 😁

Why not just go to the shop - was it too far to travel?

Willyoushutthefrontdoor · 10/04/2025 22:38

AlanShore · 10/04/2025 20:05

Sorry, you PAID to try on dresses?????

We did. Rather than go to a shop and try them on for free we paid to do it at home. You then get money off it you buy. Worked amazingly well for us and definitely didn't consider it a rip off. 😁

Eyerollexpert · 10/04/2025 22:18

PinkiOcelot · 09/04/2025 22:05

It looks like a nightie.

I agree or from Shein or both.

Fridgetapas · 10/04/2025 22:08

Agree with you OP that look is dated now.

hannonle · 10/04/2025 22:04

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:21

So this is the only other dress I have found that I like. But will it look weird cause the groom and groomsmen have gone for navy suits

Navy bridesmaid dresses are so elegant. If you're having a posh wedding, then this is your answer. One of the most beautiful wedding photos I saw was a bride in white with a group of navy bridesmaids. At least have a Google because it would be way easier to find dresses in navy than the dusky putty colour.

Coconutter24 · 10/04/2025 21:59

Froum · 10/04/2025 21:18

I had to disengage because people wear seemingly taking glee in being rude. I picked a dress people don’t like. It’s not that serious.

I haven’t shown the dresses yet. I’m putting together a Pinterest board. The first dress I shared was my fav. I hate flouncy dresses like the one I’ve attached. We’re young women! Something sleeker is my preferred look. I don’t want them to look matronly.

My wedding is very understated.

Edited

That is the prettiest and most flattering dress you’ve posted, I know you don’t like it but it’s definitely the nicest

CuddlyDodoToy · 10/04/2025 21:59

It is ugly and unflattering on the model, so unlikely to look nice on anyone else. The cheap shiny material will emphasise lumps and bumps on even the slimmest bridesmaids.

I'd keep looking if I were you.

Coconutter24 · 10/04/2025 21:58

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

You absolutely can’t ask bridesmaids to fake tan!!

anon666 · 10/04/2025 21:56

I have to agree with pp, it's horrific.

Almost anyone would look dreadful in that.

It's weirdly bad for both large and small bust sizes. It's got a huge expanse of thin fabric over the entire midriff area so shows every line.

If I'd been asked to wear this, it would have been a flat no.

I was a bridesmaid for my sister and whilst the colour was lovely, it was awful on me. Didn't care, her choice, her day.

But if she'd required me to wear something that made me feel exposed and self conscious, I'd have been legit angry.

ridingfreely · 10/04/2025 21:55

Depending on the light, you risk BM looking naked in the photos - not a flattering shape, material or colour im afraid

Agapornis · 10/04/2025 21:53

Why not ask them to vote, or have them choose between 2 designs in the same colour, or ask them for ideas? They're not dress up dolls, they should get a say in what they'll wear.

Unfortunately the first dress is only flattering if you are very slim with visible abs and tiny boobs. It frames the belly. I also don't feel it's particularly sleek or modern - bit 90s to me.

Moll2020 · 10/04/2025 21:34

It looks like nightwear.

Hellyk1985 · 10/04/2025 21:34

Your original dresses are beautiful. I love the colour. And as long as bridesmaids feel comfortable then go for it. Im sure they will look stunning x

Greentrees2024 · 10/04/2025 21:33

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

Why are you asking them to fake tan? What’s so wrong with their skin? That would be like asking someone to lose weight. I would rethink that if I were you!

FleurDeFleur · 10/04/2025 21:29

That one you've just posted looks as if it might be more flattering. Nice colour. Have the bridesmaids tried them on?

Bologneselove · 10/04/2025 21:28

It looks like a nightie, horrible one at that.