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Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 11/04/2025 14:43

OMG @Froum I know that brides don't want their bridesmaids to look better than them, but this is taking the piss! That is a fugly nasty dress! 😬 I would refuse to be a bridesmaid if I was expected to wear THAT monstrosity!

And on the first pic you put on (with the so called 'plus size' woman who is about a size 14-16,) it looks horrific.

Just NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Shock

Isthiswhatmenthink · 11/04/2025 14:21

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

Jesus Christ 🤯

Isthiswhatmenthink · 11/04/2025 14:19

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:21

So this is the only other dress I have found that I like. But will it look weird cause the groom and groomsmen have gone for navy suits

You only like those two dresses?? Are you trying to make your bridesmaids look bloody awful? 🤣

petmad · 11/04/2025 13:22

Its horrible

Coconutter24 · 11/04/2025 11:13

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 11/04/2025 08:57

I'd definitely tell the bride to shove it if I was expected to use fake tan!

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Exactly! It’s incredibly rude to ask someone to change their appearance to suit a wedding

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 11/04/2025 11:06

I don't get why people are not ok with the bridesmaids fake tanning.
The OP knows them well.
If they fake tan anyway, then what's the issue?

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 11/04/2025 10:58

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:04

But all my bridesmaids are slim

Personally I love this dress and see no issues with it for your bridesmaids.

Superhansrantowindsor · 11/04/2025 10:50

Fake tan nearly always looks fake. Better to get a colour that suits their natural skin tone.

rosemarble · 11/04/2025 09:07

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 11/04/2025 08:57

I'd definitely tell the bride to shove it if I was expected to use fake tan!

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I think OP addressed this earlier. Her BMs are happy to do so. Her wording was clumsy. She said "all the bridesmaids have faked tanned at one point or another."

I was once asked to grow my hair and also to get a padded bra. I didn't do either.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 11/04/2025 08:57

Coconutter24 · 10/04/2025 21:58

You absolutely can’t ask bridesmaids to fake tan!!

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I'd definitely tell the bride to shove it if I was expected to use fake tan!

Utterlyridiculous · 11/04/2025 08:49

I think the trouble is that the things you find ‘matronly’ have more structure and are more wearable for more body types. The structure also makes them more practical and wearable for a long day.

I find strict colour scheme weddings really old fashioned and don’t work outside of the cover of Hello, so what you’re imagining might not happen in real life anyway.

You have you be less rigid in style and colour scheme.

Also re tanning, skin colour from Indian heritage (with cool pink undertones) would look beautiful with the mauve colour but fake tan is almost always yellow/orange based which won’t look or feel nice at all.

FleurDeFleur · 11/04/2025 08:44

Blinkyy · 11/04/2025 08:31

11 pages of comments but wanted to say colour might not be so good on a pale skinned person - model is tanned

She's going to ensure that the bridesmaids use self tan.

BusyMum47 · 11/04/2025 08:43

PinkiOcelot · 09/04/2025 22:05

It looks like a nightie.

I agree, I'm afraid. ⬆️

Blinkyy · 11/04/2025 08:31

11 pages of comments but wanted to say colour might not be so good on a pale skinned person - model is tanned

LadyPenelope68 · 11/04/2025 07:52

Horrific style and material, won’t flatter anyone at all. The only good thing going for it is the colour.

Flavourful · 11/04/2025 07:46

It would crease up and look terrible in photos but I also think you should be asking the opinion of the people who will be wearing them.

Superhansrantowindsor · 11/04/2025 07:45

You really need to be very willowy with a bias cut dress like that - especially in that fabric. Your dress underwear would need to be very carefully thought out. The colour is nice though.

FleurDeFleur · 11/04/2025 07:43

Morning OP.
Firstly - ask to get this moved to Style and Beauty. People on there are really great and helpful.
Secondly - please take on board the suggestion to stop looking at these online stores and take your bridesmaids to a reputable shop for some serious trying on, eg John Lewis.
Thirdly - don't think you have to buy dresses specifically for "bridesmaids"? That's limiting your choices.

FreddieMercurysCat · 11/04/2025 07:35

It looks like one of my nighties tbh.

winetimenow · 11/04/2025 07:10

You are likely to get helpful advice in Style and Beauty

I don't love the dress but I think only your bridesmaids really can tell after they have tried it on whether it will fit or not.
But it also looks like you are looking at traditional bridesmaids dress shops - there might be good options looking in other shops especially as you're all young

JG24 · 11/04/2025 07:04

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

You really can't ask someone to change their skin colour!

BlueFlowers5 · 11/04/2025 06:44

Very unflattering, fabric unsuitable, it looks like a full slip not a dress.
Are you getting married in a church? It's not conservative enough for a church wedding.

MrBirling · 11/04/2025 06:29

I really like the second dress you posted OP, much nicer and more flattering.

I'm a size 12 and look slim but I dress for my shape and have excellent underwear which makes a big difference. For me that original dress would have me worried about sweat patches under my boobs which is never a good look.

Have you tried Etsy. Not somewhere I would have thought of but there seems to be lots of dresses on there in the dusty pink / mauve colour you like. To be flattering to all your bridesmaids I would make sure you pick something that at least allows them to wear a decent bra.

Mummyoflittledragon · 11/04/2025 06:07

Thunderpants88 · 11/04/2025 04:31

This one is GORGEOUS

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Op says she doesn’t like it.

What about the Azazie dress that I posted a link to and subsequently been suggested another 2/3 times by other posters @Froum ?

Thunderpants88 · 11/04/2025 04:31

Froum · 10/04/2025 21:18

I had to disengage because people wear seemingly taking glee in being rude. I picked a dress people don’t like. It’s not that serious.

I haven’t shown the dresses yet. I’m putting together a Pinterest board. The first dress I shared was my fav. I hate flouncy dresses like the one I’ve attached. We’re young women! Something sleeker is my preferred look. I don’t want them to look matronly.

My wedding is very understated.

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This one is GORGEOUS