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Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:42

Hayley1256 · 09/04/2025 22:40

Your going to ask them to fake tan 😅 I hope one of your bridesmaids make their own thread

all the bridesmaids have faked tanned at one point or another. I recognise my preferred colours won’t necessarily suit very pale skin

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Giulia8 · 09/04/2025 22:41

Sorry OP, but another who doesn’t like either. I personally think gone are the days of having bridesmaids in one style of dress - women’s bodies are too different. The fabric of both would show every lump, bump and bit of cellulite. I didn’t have bridesmaids but if I did I’d give them a colour ‘palette’ and say pick your own style you feel great in, in one of these colours/shades.

Outofthepan · 09/04/2025 22:41

Have a look at Club L

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:41

bridesmaid dresses are all bloody satin right now

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IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 09/04/2025 22:41

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:21

So this is the only other dress I have found that I like. But will it look weird cause the groom and groomsmen have gone for navy suits

That's so much nicer. It won't look as weird as the bridesmaids all turning up in nightdresses.

Yesterdaywassunny · 09/04/2025 22:41

You need to be talking to your bridesmaids about what they'd like to wear. Of course you should like it to, but you don't have to wear it.

If it's hard to find a dress in the colour you like, you can pick another colour, just about everything goes with navy.

Why not go to Debenhams, or Wed2Be or somewhere else with a big range and see them.in person, you can try them on to see if they're comfortable to wear for the full day.

Or let your bridesmaids pick within a colour scheme and length, so they'll be happy and it'll look more fresh.

Hayley1256 · 09/04/2025 22:40

Your going to ask them to fake tan 😅 I hope one of your bridesmaids make their own thread

Heronwatcher · 09/04/2025 22:40

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

Now this has got to be a joke, you can’t force your bridesmaids to smear themselves in chemicals. They might hate fake tan and feel horrendous all day. Quite apart from how rude it would be.

And have you asked the bridesmaids what they like yet? You sound like you’re coming from completely the wrong angle a bit of an aesthetic obsessed bridezilla.

ilovemyhamster · 09/04/2025 22:40

Have you considered 'doing with' and not 'doing to' your bridesmaids? Collaborate, consult and ensure everyone is happy. It's a celebration not an endurance test for them. I hope you all find something you love for your special day 😊

Emptyheadlock · 09/04/2025 22:39

Truthfully, not trying to be mean, it's absolutely hideous.

Flattering to no one. The colour, material and cut would make a corpse recoil.

APocketFullOfRye · 09/04/2025 22:39

AncientAndModern1 · 09/04/2025 22:33

In my day (Jurassic era) we wore what the bride bought for us and put on a happy face. I believe the trend for young people is to chose a colour and brand and let the bridesmaids chose their own style in that colour and all full length eg https://www.azazie.com/gb/

In my day 1998 my witness chose her own. I just asked for black.
I think it’s good people feel comfortable. I had to wear a revealing thing ( for me anyway ) for my db wedding and I couldn’t wait to get out of it.

Outofthepan · 09/04/2025 22:39

@Froum … your dress?

Have you asked the bridesmaids?

murasaki · 09/04/2025 22:39

The sister mentioned above also asked one bridesmaid to dye her hair to match the other two of us. You can only imagine how that went down.

It did not happen.

Stop being a crazy bridezilla.

Upwiththelark76 · 09/04/2025 22:38

Sorry OP looks like a nightie and not a very nice one

TubeScreamer · 09/04/2025 22:38

no

it is a very unflattering and unforgiving sort of fabric and shape

TryForSpring · 09/04/2025 22:38

I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

😂 Dear god.

TheArcher · 09/04/2025 22:38

Terrible dresses and asking them to fake tan? Are you deliberately trying to make them look and/or feel awful?

TheHerboriste · 09/04/2025 22:38

It looks like a nightgown, not a dress.

Give them the option of sleeves and more coverage. Few heavy women want to show their upper arms.

Nonsense10 · 09/04/2025 22:37

Please tell me this is satire 🫣😂

OP - sorry but the dresses you have chosen are hideous. None of them look right.

Can we see your dress 👀

murasaki · 09/04/2025 22:37

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

You cannot ask them to fake tan. You just can't.

TryForSpring · 09/04/2025 22:36

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:08

I’m really struggling to find this shade of dress. I need this tan mauve colour to match my scheme. Gahhh

The "scheme" is the problem.

Silverstars21 · 09/04/2025 22:36

APocketFullOfRye · 09/04/2025 22:32

No No No No

Try looking for a different fabric that doesn’t shine out every bone and bit of skin. The odd dash of good old cellulite will be on full show in that dress.

not everyone has a backside like Kates sister

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:36

I love this colour. 2 bridesmaids (cousins) are half Indian and it would look amazing on them. I would ask the other bridesmaids to fake tan

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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Dogaredabomb · 09/04/2025 22:36

bridgetreilly · 09/04/2025 22:28

This one is on a massive sale: https://www.debenhams.com/product/coast-metallic-plisse-v-neck-bridesmaid-dress_bcc07798?colour=antique+rose

This one is ace, easy to wear

JazzyBBBG · 09/04/2025 22:36

I like it and the colour but I think it's got some weird asymmetric cut going on on one side of the bust which is making it look odd. Especially if it's online only there's is a high likelihood it won't fit well.