Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

567 replies

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
OP posts:
Thread gallery
48
saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/04/2025 22:55

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:28

Better?

I don’t want anything matronly

This one is much better. Bonus points that they can wear a bra with this one and shape wear if they have an area of concern.

TheHerboriste · 09/04/2025 22:55

Screamingabdabz · 09/04/2025 22:50

“Or let your bridesmaids pick within a colour scheme and length, so they'll be happy and it'll look more fresh.”

This. I’ve been to weddings where this looked so nice and much more classy than dressing them all in cheap matchy matchy unflattering dresses. You consolidate the look and the colour scheme with them all holding the same type of bouquet. It also looks like you’ve treated them like respected adults at a joyful event rather than coerced them into some tragic handmaid uniform.

Agree. Matching dresses is passe’ and tacky. They aren’t chorus girls.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 09/04/2025 22:55

Maybe in black

TheHerboriste · 09/04/2025 22:55

Screamingabdabz · 09/04/2025 22:50

“Or let your bridesmaids pick within a colour scheme and length, so they'll be happy and it'll look more fresh.”

This. I’ve been to weddings where this looked so nice and much more classy than dressing them all in cheap matchy matchy unflattering dresses. You consolidate the look and the colour scheme with them all holding the same type of bouquet. It also looks like you’ve treated them like respected adults at a joyful event rather than coerced them into some tragic handmaid uniform.

Agree. Matching dresses is passe’ and tacky. They aren’t chorus girls.

Willyoushutthefrontdoor · 09/04/2025 22:54

https://www.jjshouse.com/search.php?q=Mauve&cat=7&p=2
Any amount of bridesmaid dresses on there in different styles and colours 100% better than the satin you think is only available...to give you some ideas

Mauve JJsHouse.com en

https://www.jjshouse.com/search.php?cat=7&p=2&q=Mauve&country=GB&currency=GBP

snackatack · 09/04/2025 22:54

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:06

I think it looks nice on the plus size model.

Show quote history

You can't honestly look at that picture and think it suits the model - she looks awful

Her boobs are not supported - the dress looks too clingy -
I'd be gobsmacked if anyone bought that dress who was plus sized. (Its almost like a warning)

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 09/04/2025 22:54

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:50

I do like this. I wish the sleeves were less fluttery

Edited
Show quote history

I think your problem is that the dress you want doesn’t exist, maybe chill out a bit.

Dogaredabomb · 09/04/2025 22:53

mnahmnah · 09/04/2025 22:49

What about something like this? On the Next website

Ooooo nice

Outofthepan · 09/04/2025 22:53

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 09/04/2025 22:52

I suspect she has and they said it was unflattering - hence the thread hoping to over turn their objections.
OP is ignoring all the links to BM dresses that aren't satin and repeating that it's the only option. Bias cut satin is wildly unflattering, shows every lump, bump and knickers line and doesn't even look good on the model but it's obvious what she wants and she wants to railroad her bm's who have probably tried kindly and gently to push back.

Show quote history

Ah.. makes sense.

@Froum ?

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 09/04/2025 22:52

Outofthepan · 09/04/2025 22:39

@Froum … your dress?

Have you asked the bridesmaids?

I suspect she has and they said it was unflattering - hence the thread hoping to over turn their objections.
OP is ignoring all the links to BM dresses that aren't satin and repeating that it's the only option. Bias cut satin is wildly unflattering, shows every lump, bump and knickers line and doesn't even look good on the model but it's obvious what she wants and she wants to railroad her bm's who have probably tried kindly and gently to push back.

Newmummy343 · 09/04/2025 22:52

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:50

I do like this. I wish the sleeves were less fluttery

Edited
Show quote history

Love this one, definitely the best one

TwinklyNight · 09/04/2025 22:50

Poppy's dress was the nicest!

VaccineSticker · 09/04/2025 22:50

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:06

I think it looks nice on the plus size model.

Show quote history

Pretty awful dress. You asked people’s opinion, you get it.

Screamingabdabz · 09/04/2025 22:50

“Or let your bridesmaids pick within a colour scheme and length, so they'll be happy and it'll look more fresh.”

This. I’ve been to weddings where this looked so nice and much more classy than dressing them all in cheap matchy matchy unflattering dresses. You consolidate the look and the colour scheme with them all holding the same type of bouquet. It also looks like you’ve treated them like respected adults at a joyful event rather than coerced them into some tragic handmaid uniform.

OP posts:
mnahmnah · 09/04/2025 22:49

What about something like this? On the Next website

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
itsobviousright · 09/04/2025 22:49

As a wedding photographer, I can tell you that this style of dress photographs terribly

FleurDeFleur · 09/04/2025 22:48

Hayley1256 · 09/04/2025 22:40

Your going to ask them to fake tan 😅 I hope one of your bridesmaids make their own thread

Dear lord this just gets worse.

LazJaz · 09/04/2025 22:48

Can’t get over asking your bridesmaids to self tan…!

Dogaredabomb · 09/04/2025 22:48

Ponderingwindow · 09/04/2025 22:43

Dear mumsnet

im a size 10, I’m not huge, but like many women I have insecurities about various spots on my body. My dear friend is getting married soon and I am so excited to be a bridesmaid, except for one thing. Every bridesmaid dress she is considering has unyielding fabric pulled firmly around the female form. Doesn’t she realize that those kind of dresses are hit and miss and you have to find just the perfect one for you? Even with spanx, I’m going to feel like a stuffed sausage all day and night. Plus, I was looking forward to partying. Instead I’m going to be stuffing myself into the tightest foundation garments I can find and be ready to call it a night as soon as I can make an excuse to get out of them.

I love my friend, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I really don’t want to be uncomfortable all day. What do I do?

signed
self-conscious bridesmaid

Dear Self Conscious Bridesmaid

What you need to do my dear is have a spray tan, strap your tits down and get into the mauve nightie. Don't stand near the electric fire.

Justine

murasaki · 09/04/2025 22:48

Pieceofpurplesky · 09/04/2025 22:47

It looks like a cheap nightie. But if you want your bridesmaids to look shit then go for it!

I think she does.

Silverstars21 · 09/04/2025 22:48

murasaki · 09/04/2025 22:44

Then look at dresses not marketed as bridesmaid dresses.

Show quote history

Agree

Heronwatcher · 09/04/2025 22:48

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:42

all the bridesmaids have faked tanned at one point or another. I recognise my preferred colours won’t necessarily suit very pale skin

Show quote history

I fake tanned in my 20s, no bloody way would I do it now, especially to brown up to appease a bridezilla who’s chosen an ugly dress. I looked ridiculous, it made me feel uncomfortable and I am deeply suspicious of the chemicals.

Incidentally all of these pink/ mauve colours would look fine on slightly paler skin. Apart from that awful grey one where they would look like bridesmaid-of-morticia. It’s the horrible satin that’s the issue.

Just give them a basic colour palette and budget and let them choose their own.