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Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?

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Froum · 09/04/2025 22:02

My bridesmaids range in size from 8 to 12. No one happens to be plus size.

Would this dress flatter most of the women do you reckon?

We are late 20s

i have chosen to show the image of the plus size model as I think it highlights that it works on bigger sizes. What do you think?

Is this unflattering for a bridesmaid?
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Unwittinglyhappy · 09/04/2025 23:36

Bias cut and satin, just about impossible to wear.

I'm a tiny size 6 with a D cup and look awful in bias cut skirts and dresses.

CountryMumof4 · 09/04/2025 23:35

I've had to wear a couple of absolutely hideous bridesmaid dresses in my time, so much so that I gave my bridesmaids free reign about what they wore. I had a colour theme in mind and asked them to send me links for the dresses they felt comfortable wearing. They were all happy with what they wore on the day as they got to choose. I covered those, their hair and make up and they looked stunning. No demands on hair colour, length, tan etc - I just think that's completely out of order.

Consult with your bridesmaids - they're the ones that have to wear it and have to be photographed with you on the day.

Stravaig · 09/04/2025 23:33

All your choices look like négligées, which is a difficult style to pull off, even in the most luxurious fabrics, with a perfect figure, if you like wearing revealing clothing for formal public events. Plus, it's an awful colour for almost everyone.

Your 'scheme' must be for your bridesmaids to look terrible and mostly naked in a bad 80's sleepover fantasy?

jellyfishperiwinkle · 09/04/2025 23:33

Even on the slim model it looks like a cheap nightie or underskirt.

lifeonmars100 · 09/04/2025 23:33

Screamingabdabz · 09/04/2025 22:50

“Or let your bridesmaids pick within a colour scheme and length, so they'll be happy and it'll look more fresh.”

This. I’ve been to weddings where this looked so nice and much more classy than dressing them all in cheap matchy matchy unflattering dresses. You consolidate the look and the colour scheme with them all holding the same type of bouquet. It also looks like you’ve treated them like respected adults at a joyful event rather than coerced them into some tragic handmaid uniform.

This was how it was done at the last wedding I went to, it looked amazing as every bridesmaid was dressed in something that suited her. There was a colour theme which tied the overall theme together and they all looked happy and confident.

lifeonmars100 · 09/04/2025 23:28

looks like an old fashioned nigthtie, sorry but I don't like the cut, the colour or the fabric. It's the sort of look that only the very slender can carry off and even then it would not be flattering

Outofthepan · 09/04/2025 23:28

Froum · 09/04/2025 23:11

I don’t really understand why people are being catty.

Im receptive to feedback. I’m not professing to be a fashionista by any means. But I know what I like. Trying my best here🤷

I like a dusty pink mushroom colour. Hoping to find a dress I like in that colour. Prefer more streamlined /simple silhouettes. Nothing too floaty.

Men are in very simple navy suits.

Because you’re ignoring questions?

What do your bridesmaids think?

What sort of style is your dress? And what size are you?

Smallsalt · 09/04/2025 23:28

Satiny material shows every lump and bump even on slim people. It would need shapewear and the lines from the shapewear would show up too.
Looks like a cheap nighty.

PoundlandColumbo · 09/04/2025 23:26

Why do you care what your bridesmaids are wearing? I wouldn't give a monkeys. Honestly, the amount of time and energy people waste agonising over trivial things never fails to astonish me.

Let them choose something they like. Put your energy into choosing what you'll wear.

EasterOnTheHorizon · 09/04/2025 23:26

PinkiOcelot · 09/04/2025 22:05

It looks like a nightie.

My first thought too! It’s giving lingerie/nightdress vibes. Also it’s going to cling to the slightest bumps, lumps or underwear lines.
Colour is going to ‘wash out’ pale skins.

Eblackdog · 09/04/2025 23:24

I was made to wear a dress like this as a bridesmaid last year. It looked awful on me as a size 12

Wellretired · 09/04/2025 23:24

Definitely no. Speaking as someone plus size. It will show my belly. But for everyone it would show your underwear lines.

APocketFullOfRye · 09/04/2025 23:21

FKAT · 09/04/2025 23:16

I'd offer the bridesmaids simple navy suits. It would look great.

Ooo
That sounds exciting !

RosesAndHellebores · 09/04/2025 23:20

The dress brunchbarbandit posted is nice but shoulders would need to be covered imo.

The blue dress with sleeves that you posted is nice.

Why are the groom and ushers wearing navy suits? And why are you suggesting fake tans?

Springee · 09/04/2025 23:18

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:03

Bear in mind the model has got a terrible bra situation going on

I also think the dress colour doesn't really work too well with most skin tones. An insufficient contrast on pale or tanned skin tones

AliceMcK · 09/04/2025 23:17

No, as someone with curves I’d absolutely hate that, it would cling to every bump and lump. I’d also never get my boobs in it. Even if I was a size 8 my chest would be too big.

im not sure if the model has a “bra thing going on” rather her breast are not perfectly equal, like many women.

Best advise I got when bridesmaid shopping was go for a dress that your largest bridesmaid would suit and be comfortable in. If you find that then usually the dress fill fit and look good on the others.

Topsyturvy78 · 09/04/2025 23:16

I don't like it even on the slimmer model it doesn't look right. I like some of the others in the thread gallery.

FKAT · 09/04/2025 23:16

I'd offer the bridesmaids simple navy suits. It would look great.

murasaki · 09/04/2025 23:16

I don't think pointing out that you can't make them fake tan is catty. There are lots of dresses in your colour palette out there , several suggested above.

For what it's worth, I really like the colour. But the dress was God-awful.

AncientAndModern1 · 09/04/2025 23:13

My daughters have been bridesmaids several times in the last few years and they don’t mind wearing satin at all. But they have chosen their own style from the bride’s colour scheme. Having non-matching bridesmaids is smart, on trend and thoughtful. They are given a website and colour and told to order the styles they fancy, choose what they like and send the bride the bill. .

babblingbumblingbandofbaboons · 09/04/2025 23:13

I’m shopping for bridesmaid dresses at the moment and can say that both in store and online, satin is not the only option. If it’s the only style you want, be honest and say that, but don’t expect your bridesmaids to be happy in the bias cut numbers you’ve picked out.

It’s your day, you have a vision, but unless you fancy having bridesmaids with faces like slapped arses on the day coz they’re uncomfortable in their dresses, take them on the journey with you! Go to shops, try things on, be flexible on style and material and you’ll be surprised at how it will come together. You can always buy online after you find the right style if bridal shops are cost prohibitive.

edited to add - you’re being honest about what you like, but you aren’t wearing the dresses. This is what I mean by it’s your day, you have a vision, but you’re not wearing them!

StrangerThings1 · 09/04/2025 23:13

Froum · 09/04/2025 22:04

But all my bridesmaids are slim

If your bridesmaids are slim and fairly busty they could be fine but I think they are a bit too slip like, really depends on the body shapes, most bodies would need good shape wear with these dresses

Froum · 09/04/2025 23:11

I don’t really understand why people are being catty.

Im receptive to feedback. I’m not professing to be a fashionista by any means. But I know what I like. Trying my best here🤷

I like a dusty pink mushroom colour. Hoping to find a dress I like in that colour. Prefer more streamlined /simple silhouettes. Nothing too floaty.

Men are in very simple navy suits.

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