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AIBU to feel like trash after this encounter a week ago?

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ByDenimMentor · 09/04/2025 21:21

I work as an accountant specialised in business sales and had an introductory meeting with a new client a week ago who wanted help selling a business valued at 30 million of which he owns half. This isn't uncommon but what set him apart was that he looked to be 25 at most, called me darling a couple of times and near the end when we discussed the plan going forward called me "good girl".

It took me aback and I didn't say anything at the time but I've now spent a week feeling terrible about this, not just about the comment itself but my whole life really. A first class degree from oxbridge, averaging 50 hour weeks for the last 30 years, endless stress just to get called pet names by someone half my age and far wealthier than I will ever be.

I just can't stop thinking about it but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting. AIBU?

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JazzyBBBG · 09/04/2025 21:31

What a Nob.

Maybe if you have the misfortune to meet again say "it's ByDenimMentor FCMA" to you"

GreenCandleWax · 09/04/2025 21:30

YANBU. That's miserable, and what an arrogant ignoramus he must be - either that or, likely, the very common put-down by men of any woman who dares stick her head over the parapet of male domains. Be angry, rightfully, then let it go. Using visualisations to do that really helps. Good on you, OP for all you have achieved. Don't let this sexist specimen take up any more of your precious headspace or 🍷time. "The best revenge is success".

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ByDenimMentor · 09/04/2025 21:29

Jellycatspyjamas · 09/04/2025 21:26

I’d have reminded him of my name and told him in no uncertain terms that I don’t answer to darling, and I’m a grown bloody women. Try not to dwell on it but if you’re going to be working with him have some quick comebacks when he starts being demeaning to you.

I spent the entire evening thinking of what I should have said :(

Thankfully a male colleague has taken over.

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ByDenimMentor · 09/04/2025 21:27

FatherFrosty · 09/04/2025 21:22

What a condescending prick.
is the business relationship continuing?

Yes but a colleague offered to take over for me. Here's hoping that's the last time I see him.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 09/04/2025 21:26

I’d have reminded him of my name and told him in no uncertain terms that I don’t answer to darling, and I’m a grown bloody women. Try not to dwell on it but if you’re going to be working with him have some quick comebacks when he starts being demeaning to you.

FatherFrosty · 09/04/2025 21:22

What a condescending prick.
is the business relationship continuing?