To ask how often you’re complimented on your looks

I love complimenting people! The way someone’s face changes when you tell them they’re beautiful. People really are gorgeous.

How funny I’ve always felt babies seem drawn to my face (when I’m in a group etc) but of course I could just be imagining it. I’m also quite a smiley person. Maybe it’s our smile that attracts babies and compliments 😁

How does it work then, when a stranger comes up to you to tell you you're beautiful or attractive?

Do they shuffle along and sidle up, saying "I just had to tell you how beautiful you are."
That doesn't have the ring of truth to me AT ALL.

Call me arrogant, but I’ve had this happen a lot in the last 10 years of my life (I’m almost 40 now) in a variety of settings, from both men and women. I am not conventionally attractive at all, but I have large interesting facial features and a huge smile which is what I assume causes people to take notice. I think it’s the same reason babies seem to like my face and smile at me a lot!

I don’t consider myself that attractive at all really- I’m overweight and broad and have a big nose- but I can assure you it does happen to people because it happens to me.

Mid sixties and I get complimented a few times a week, especially about my hair. It’s a good feeling.

I definitely tell my friends they look good,
not colleagues though.

I think friends and colleagues are attractive but tbh who actually tells people? I don't

I was once asked if i was my friends mother. Nice.

My best compliment was when I was in my 20s and had gatecrashed my friend's work Christmas party in a club. She worked for a fashion brand. I was introduced to one of her much older colleagues/friends who said I had a look of the 1960s about me. I was actually delighted by that 😄.

Tbh I don’t really think about it but people say random things like you have beautiful hands, you have good shoulders, you have lovely teeth, nice legs etc but have never considered myself beautiful. I have always been friends with conventionally beautiful women and I’m usually the runt of the litter in those groups 😝Pissed older men have said things like you’ve got a lovely face but your friend is beautiful, or your friend is pretty but you’ve got “the big boobs!” (I haven’t).
Never felt pretty really as mum kept me grounded with comments like “you’re not that special” so it’s been a right mix.
Am surprised to still get come ons from older men and even a 73 year old but I think it says more about them being still frisky or pervy than it does about me. I never asked for any and definitely don’t like wearing low tops or short skirts as I feel too “on show”. I am 55. 😉

Often told I’ve got good legs. In fact they are chicken legs, but look thin in trousers.

Absolutely, I think if you have a positive, smiley way about you people respond in kind most of the time.

Occasionally by men in my youth. Tbh though it was often inappropriate e.g. guy in 20s hitting on me as a 14 year old on a train. A lot of drunk men on nights out. Often felt insincere or that they wanted to pull anyone. Ultimately I think most men that would do that aren't the type your want to date anyway.

Never by men, I'm now in my 50s and was always quite unattractive to them. Weirdly, was often told by females I'm stylish and interesting )) shame I'm straight!

I wonder if people pick up on your vibes as much as your appearance. The poster you quote has an air of arrogance about them and that’s not attractive really, so perhaps that why is never happens to them?

I told someone yesterday that she looked amazing, told her that her outfit looks great and she is beautiful. I meant it but she was so surprised, I’m guessing she was in her late 50s / 60s and was with two people who were younger and probably what society values more in terms of height / age / looks but she really stood out to me.

It happens, it's baffling you don't believe it.
At checkouts in supermarkets (usually from women)
From DCs friends (which slightly annoys them) ie so and so was commenting how pretty you are Mum.
In passing, quite a lot.
You sound quite bitter.

Last night I was at a gig, wearing loop earplugs although the music hadn’t actually started, and reading glasses to read what drinks they have at the bar (I’m 52 for context). The barman (who was really young), said something to me and I took an earplug out and went ‘WHAT?’ really loudly. Poor lad looked mortified and said ‘you’ve got lovely eyes’. I didn’t know what to say so I just scuttled off. Both of us were too embarrassed to look at eachother after that.

Almost daily on clothes, shoes, accessories etc, which is nice as I do try to make an effort.
And have always had 'comments' on my looks and the fact I'm tall and slim - mainly compliments but some negativity too. Am late 40s.

It can happen anywhere not just bars or clubs.

I’ve heard either myself or others get complimented in various places such as : shops, restaurants, high streets, churches, planes, trains, and buses, house parties, bbqs and gyms .

And it’s mainly women I’m talking about , I don’t think random men giving compliments while they’re hitting on you counts lol

Quite often if I'm honest, more on my clothes than my looks though. Ironically the one person who never does is the one I secretly really fancy. Story of my fecking life man!

I used to get a good amount of compliments in my early 20s, a fair amount late 20s. Tailed off slightly in my 30s. Now late 30s and I'll get the odd here and there, but definitely tailed off with age! I'm what is considered "pretty" but not "beautiful" - I'e haven't got great bone structure or face shape and "strong" features. If I put make up on I look pretty. But without it , I wouldn't be looked twice at.

5 years ago… loads ! I never drank coffee
or red wine and had natural Colgate teeth, since I met my partner they’ve changed !!

I love this thread, Let’s also ask when did you last compliment a stranger ? Might start that one up.

Been told I have a lovely smile occasionally.

Frequently when I was younger. I hated it, tbh.

Really only by my husband/close family now I’m 60 😁

Yes this!

I’ve had people - mainly guys - who seen me without my glasses for the first time act as if I’ve had a complete makeover like - wow I didn’t know you looked like that, you look so different without glasses etc and I’m like… erm okay? 🤨

Also had one now ex laugh at me when he first seen me wearing glasses 🙄

I don’t think I look that bad/ different with glasses!!