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To think you don’t get out of paying the bill because you don’t drink?

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ThatHardyWaspAgain · 09/04/2025 19:58

I’m sure this has been done many times before by people in similar scenarios.

I went out for a bit of lunch with two friend’s and one of them brought another friend along that I’ve never met but was nice enough.

However, when it came to the bill, she said ‘’Can we please calculate it all with the alcohol you’ve had separately paid for? Because I only had classical cokes’’

So, we did as she asked. Added up everything but removed the drinks. So 3 of us paid for our drinks in a split, and then did another split for the rest with her and her food and classical colas.

The annoying bit is, she had 3 of them. And they weren’t really much different in price to most of our alcohol.

We all had the same roast and mango cheesecake.

I wouldn’t mind but she kept insisting we all had a dessert so she didn’t feel alone in having one. We’re adults after all but it is a bit annoying

Separate thread to come to see if I would be U to tell my friend not to bring her along again

She also didn’t tip.

OP posts:
ThatHardyWaspAgain · 09/04/2025 20:01

MidnightPatrol · 09/04/2025 20:00

What’s a classical cola?

It’s what she kept calling them. It did make me laugh a bit at the time! She means classic coke, the original red sugar one

OP posts:
SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 09/04/2025 20:01

Frankly, among adults the check should always be split so that everyone only pays for what they ate or drank. She didn’t get out of paying for her food and drink, and I think you’re cheeky to think anyone should pay towards your alcohol. 🍷

Smallmercies · 09/04/2025 20:01

MidnightPatrol · 09/04/2025 20:00

What’s a classical cola?

It's what Mozart would drink while composing The Magic Flute

Sofiewoo · 09/04/2025 20:01

Why didn’t you just each pay for what you had ordered?
You seem to be suggesting it was an issue for you to slightly sub her coke, but not an issue to split the bill in 4 and have her sub you?

With friends I’m always happy to just split the bill when I’ve had less but I guess she didn’t know you.

LittleLabrador · 09/04/2025 20:01

Is classical coke just normal coke? I wouldn’t mind not splitting the bill evenly if my drinks were more expensive

I wouldn’t have had a dessert if I didn’t want one either

TheJollyMoose · 09/04/2025 20:01

YABU. I don’t drink and I won’t facilitate other people drinking either.

I don’t split the bill - I will pay for what I’ve eaten and drank.

Oh and no, I don’t tip either. You aren’t helping when you tip, you know. You aren’t being kind or a good citizen.

You’re part of the problem and you’re keeping wages low by tipping because employers have no incentive to up wages when mugs like you will flash the cash to make yourselves feel good.

MidnightPatrol · 09/04/2025 20:00

What’s a classical cola?

Smallmercies · 09/04/2025 19:59

YABU for calling classic Coke "classical".

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