To think you don’t get out of paying the bill because you don’t drink?

@HelloVeraPlant

you are wrong.

classical cola had proper tickled me

But would you ask for alcohol to be paid separately but everyone to split the cost of your coke, which is what the OP is annoyed about?

The drinks should have been split into her Coke / your drinks.
And the food bill split four ways. Her Cokes ended up on that bill.

She should have paid for her drinks, each of you pay for yours (or split the alcohol bill equally between the 3 of you) and then split the food 4 ways if you all had the same

You say you are adults. Yet you were forced into purchasing a desert you didn’t want. That does not sound very adult.

If there’s not much difference in price with the cola and the alcoholic drinks then it seems a bit petty to not just split the bill 3 ways. But where I live alcohol is considerably more expensive than soft drinks and i wouldn’t want to sub someone else’s alcohol bill if I wasn’t drinking or not drinking as much.
Also if I don’t want dessert I couldn’t be persuaded to have one to keep someone else company. Super annoying when people ask that. Similarly if I want dessert & no one else does then as long as I’m not delaying anyone I’d eat dessert alone 😄.
as for tipping , if it’s evening / unsociable hours I think it’s nice to tip.
my issue is that people who work in retail are often on minimum wage & don’t get tipped … also this isn’t the USA where restaurant staff are paid so low vs uk?

Hits all the right notes

I wouldn’t have had issue but I would have added her cokes to her share. How did she drink so much coke though??

I have a friend who always drinks a lot and orders some thing expensive off the menu then suggests a bill split. The first time three of us met up, two of us were driving and our individual bills were £15 each and cf friends bill was £35. I said no we will pay for ourselves but cf and other friend made such an issue like I was tight fisted that I never did it again. We went out recently cf ordered something expensive so I did too. Her bill was £50 mine was £40 other friends was £30. So we all paid £40. Friend who had to pay extra looked pissed off but she’s been letting cf get away with it for years

Why is the OP being unreasonable - she's not saying the friend had no right to ask for alcohol to be paid for separately, just that if she was going to do that she should have paid for her own cokes.

If ur splitting the bill why aren’t you just paying for what you had?? You split the bill wrong so it’s on you, you should’ve split the food and then she pays for her drinks on top of that and the rest of you split the alcohol.

my sister and I went out with a friend, when the waiter asked if we are ready to pay, the friend immediately said yes we'll split 3 ways, I was annoyed as it made no sense, and it meant my sis and I were paying more than what we had as friends order cost way more than ours. We were paying separately anyway so it would’ve made sense that we just pay for what we ate/drank.

Why? Why is it that more likely to you than that she said ‘’Can we please calculate it all with the alcohol you’ve had separately paid for? Because I only had classical cokes’’ , and meant it? Because (possibly) she assumed wrongly that soft drinks are negligible in price compared to alcohol?

I’d have said “there’s not a lot in it as you can see on the bill, but you can pay a couple of quid less”

A lot of places say they cannot accommodate that or waiting staff look nervous (students etc) or waiting staff accommodate but then triple check everything so it all comes out together which is cumbersome and can be awkward.

The food still arrives at different times.

The bill arrives with questions and more triple checking.

There should be a very simple system whereby the kitchen receives it all as one order and you can just pay for your own meal and drinks at the end. No fuss.

She should have paid for her own drinks. Cheeky to demand that everyone else pays for her soft drinks as well as the alcohol.

Yabu because alcohol is more expensive. 1 alcoholic drink = 3 cokes. She probably didn’t realise that the cokes added up but maybe she had been in situations where she’s split the bill and took on the cost of alcohol.

Same here - we have one CF in our group, so now we just pay for our own food/drinks

Very likely that she (the friend) just worded it clumsily.

Why on earth would you say that's what she was asking for when all we have is the OP explicitly saying that's not what she asked for. Is it because what happened was unreasonable and nobody should ask for it? Yes, that's the whole point.

The OP says she wanted the alcohol taken off and then the bill split, and that's what they did.

She didn't, she isn't... now what insulting name would be appropriate for you?

Yes.
Don’t know why.
It doesn’t make any sense.

I just can't get past classical cokes 😂

So she conned you, or you conned yourselves, into paying three quarters of her drinks bill, on top of your own drinks bill.

If you think she did it deliberately, don't go out with her again. She's a CF.

But she didn't pay for all for drinks, for some strange reason they split her drinks cost between the group for some odd reason - at least I think that's what they did?

Yabu. Adults are quite capable of paying for what they've eaten and drank. It's not hard to add up a handful of items.

I used to hate it when people who drank or ate meat tried to get me to split the bill.