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AIBU to complain about staff at my local Costa?

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Breathedeeper · 09/04/2025 19:31

There is a woman who works at my local Costa who is surly and abrasive in her manner. I’ve been in a few times and she’s always the same - can’t be bothered, non-communicative and surly. While normally I tend to go to independent coffee shops, I sometimes go to this Costa because of where it’s located. Today I went in and this lady was just so blunt that I remembered her name because I’m considering giving some feedback about her via email to Costa. AIBU? I would have asked to speak to her manager but I think she is the manager, which makes her disregard for good customer service even worse! I’m aware this is definitely a First World problem, but what’s to be done? I don’t think Costa would be happy with how this woman conducts herself, and if no one ever says anything then she’ll just continue on as she is. Maybe she’s just being rude to me, I don’t know…no one else there at that time seemed too bothered about her, but perhaps we were all thinking the same thing but nobody wanted to say anything. I think she could tell she’d pissed me off because by the time she came to give me my drink she was suddenly trying to be polite. So she can do it, but chooses not to unless she thinks someone is going to complain. Thoughts?

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Uppitymuppity · 09/04/2025 19:58

I really hate bad and rude customer service but I couldn't be bothered to do anything about it on this instance, just get your coffee and go on your way.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 09/04/2025 19:56

PassingStranger · 09/04/2025 19:53

This annoys me. It's so much easier to be nice.
Yes complain, next time she does it tell her to her face.

It's about time people were taken on for their personality's as well, not just whether they can do the job or not.
It's an all rounder you want.

If it’s so much easier to be nice why are you advocating doing something the opposite of nice?
Surely it’s easier to be kind and tolerant?

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 09/04/2025 19:56

Manner is extremely subjective.

XenoBitch · 09/04/2025 19:55

My local Costa has a manager like this too. Not smiley at all, and rather blunt. My DP spends a lot of time there when WFH and has got to know her well. She is autistic.

PassingStranger · 09/04/2025 19:53

This annoys me. It's so much easier to be nice.
Yes complain, next time she does it tell her to her face.

It's about time people were taken on for their personality's as well, not just whether they can do the job or not.
It's an all rounder you want.

Lmnop22 · 09/04/2025 19:52

You never know what someone else is going through, perhaps she’s giving what she can. I would be kind and not look for a manager - you got your drink so just leave it alone!

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 09/04/2025 19:51

Does she serve you competently and efficiently?
Because if she does, complaining and potentially getting her in trouble or fired because she’s not smiley enough for you is a dick move.

stayathomer · 09/04/2025 19:48

Is she bad enough that you’d want her put on warning, or fired? Because that could happen, so maybe you get someone smilier, but she could lose her job.

11thofNever · 09/04/2025 19:46

murasaki · 09/04/2025 19:42

Is she actively rude, or does she just not put on a fake smile?

Great question.

MissJeanBrodiesmother · 09/04/2025 19:45

Unless she is actively rude I think you should leave it alone. You have no idea what is going on in her life. What difference does it nake to you really? You buy your coffee there. That's it.

Poppyseeds79 · 09/04/2025 19:44

Maybe she's having a bad day?

In my local Costa I frequent often, they cracked a few jokes about my order (frappe in winter - no coffee). I just gave them a Paddington Bear stare. They just say 'usual'? now, and don't engage in chit chat... Everyone's happy 😁

murasaki · 09/04/2025 19:42

Is she actively rude, or does she just not put on a fake smile?

Wishyouwerehere50 · 09/04/2025 19:40

sanityisamyth · 09/04/2025 19:39

Pissed, or pissed off?! Very different scenarios …

Pissed off 😄

sanityisamyth · 09/04/2025 19:39

Wishyouwerehere50 · 09/04/2025 19:38

I would first go in when quiet and no other people around if possible and ask her;

' are you ok? Every time I come in here you look really pissed'

See what she says. It's a low paid shit job most likely. It's not ok if she's rude but you don't know the full extent of what's going on for her right now.

Pissed, or pissed off?! Very different scenarios …

Wishyouwerehere50 · 09/04/2025 19:38

I would first go in when quiet and no other people around if possible and ask her;

' are you ok? Every time I come in here you look really pissed'

See what she says. It's a low paid shit job most likely. It's not ok if she's rude but you don't know the full extent of what's going on for her right now.