Who does all the life admin in your house?

I do. I enjoy it! Dh is responsible for the broadband/ media package as I cant be arsed dealing with Sky. He does his own car insurance.

But I love doing insurance, utilities etc. I dont know why people make such a hoo ha about it. I also plan all holidays and itineries ( and we have a lot).

It sounds like a lot of people don't mind doing life admin. Does anyone find it a chore/headache they wish they could employ someone else to do?

I do everything as a lone parent.

Pretty evenly split between us, DH sort big things mortgage rates, Isa’s etc I do more every day, making sure we’re on the best sky, energy tariffs, sort house pet insurance etc.

My husband did all the financial stuff as he was the main breadwinner, had an ex he supported etc. We did discuss major purchases (TV and so on).
I did everything else. I was a sahp.

I’d say it was a pretty even split tbh.
We both work full time, dh for himself and has more flexibility within his working week.
our dc are now 2 adults and one teen - homework was always organised/done by them. We both prompt the youngest sometimes.
He cooks and shops, I order the online food shop of basics.
Bills - everything is on DD so comes out of an account.
car stuff he sorts. I sort washing.
I organise and pay the cleaner. He books holidays.
Sorting out replacing household items is done by whoever discovers it needs replacing.
Booking stuff for house things - he tends to do this, he owns a building company so has the contacts and staff where needed.
Booking dentist appointments - we have 6 monthly family appointments and they just book us in for the next one when we’re there.
Gardening - both of us keep it looking tidy, he does more actual gardening because I don’t give a toss whereas he is creating ‘zones’ and whatnot.
Dunno, just sort of take on what we want/can and the other will pick up the slack where needed.
I was a SAHM for years when the dc were all smaller and dealt with all the school stuff, outfit days, trip payments, signing letters etc.

Do you know, I must find out.

Andrew had said leave it all to him and look what happened there! (Grimace Emoji - I don't know how to do those...)

So someone must be doing it, I wonder who? (Puzzled look, whilst wearing crown Emoji)

I don’t really consider “life admin” to be that onerous tbh.

Homework - both of us, but DD is only in year 1 so it’s not significant at all.

Appointments - for us this is really just a twice a year dentist appointment. I appreciate we’re fortunate to not have any other health issues. I do this for DDs because I have an NHS dentist, DH doesn’t. So I take them with me for a family appointment. If they have a one off hospital or dr appointment, whoever can take them takes them. DH did the last one.

All reading - DH reads to DD1. We both read short stories to DD2 (2).

Purchasing household items - do you mean like larger one off purchases? Both of us.

Booking repairs - whoever. Doesn’t come up that often.

Remembering school activities - someone will write it on the calendar. We both look at the school app thing and read the reminders. DH is also pretty much the only dad in the class WhatsApp.

Meals - both

Bedtimes - both

Holidays - both

After school activities - both. Maybe not at the same time, but whoever is available. I tend to take DD1 to rainbows, DH takes her to swimming lessons. School plays etc we both try to go to.

It’s less for me to worry about though. Especially the car stuff and other insurance. That stuff is pretty boring to sort out.
I’m a sahm at the moment, he works full time, so it makes sense that I do the kids stuff.

Life admin includes-

All homework - BOTH
Booking and remembering all appointments for the family -ME
Hospital appointments/dentist/therapy etc- ME
All reading and studying - BOTH
Booking and purchasing all household items - BOTH
Booking repairs and finding cleaners/gardeners/decorators etc - BOTH
Remembering all school activities such as bloody world book day/wear red day/eat an orange day 😆 - BOTH
All meal planning/shopping and cooking - HUSBAND
All teeth cleaning/bedtime stories - BOTH
Finding and booking all holidays/days out/meals out - ME
After school activities - MOSTLY HUSBAND
And tonight I’ve got to make an Easter bonnet 😆 - HUSBAND.

I completed your list and its pretty even. Husband also volunteers at school.

Couldn’t agree more - if someone doesn’t work they should do all of it or most of it if they work PT. That said I do 90% of admin too (we both work FT)…

Honestly I do a lot more than50% even though we both work ft 🙁

I did/do all the things on your list, plus car and house insurance quotes.

DH pays the utilities, I read the meters.
DH deals with his car.
DH deals with Council tax.
DH empties the bins.
DH deals with all French admin - he is fluent, I am not.

My parents both work ft and my dad did nearv100% of house admin.

If 1 parent not working, I would expect him/her to do all the house admin. If someone is part-time I would expect him/her to do most. I do 95% of it an I work pt. DH works full-time. I am better at organising things.

We work ,I feel ,to strengths and situations .

He enjoys and has patience for ‘chasing a good deal’ so has naturally taken on all financial and associated admin .land is very good at it .

Im more -get it done -so deal with bigger purchases (holidays ,furniture etc)

He WFH full time so has the capacity to call around and sort trades/ repairs if needed .

I work out the home full time but was part time when kids were younger so always did the school /clubs /friends/parties .

He enjoys cooking as a way to relax -I see it as something that needs to be done ,so he does all shopping and cooking .

He wouldn’t know one end of a screwdriver or paintbrush to the other so I do all DIY and decorating .

Everything else is shared (apart from sweeping And hoovering -he has a blind spot there)

I do most of that and work full time . We both do bedtime and teeth etc , that's not admin anyway. We both cook but I do more. I organise after school activities but DH takes them more often, and does more school pick ups and after school care. I have a cleaner , wouldn't manage without.

All homework - mostly him

Booking and remembering all appointments for the family - mostly him other than anything SN related which is me

Hospital appointments/dentist/therapy etc - him

All reading and studying - him

Booking and purchasing all household items - mostly him

Booking repairs and finding cleaners/gardeners/decorators etc - me

Remembering all school activities such as bloody world book day/wear red day/eat an orange day 😆 - him

All meal planning/shopping and cooking - mostly him. I might cook twice a week

All teeth cleaning/bedtime stories - him

Finding and booking all holidays/days out/meals out - me

After school activities - i book them, he picks up / organises kit needed

SN kids so lots of additional appointments to juggle too - also SN here and I do most of that

We both work full time but i have some health issues and am also studying for an MBA. He probably does 70-80% of it all

He’s getting away with an easy life - holiday booking happens a couple of times a year? It’s hardly an admin task.

This " life admin". is done by all men that live alone

Looking after kids is parenting not life admin

And actually my dad managed to do it all while working full time and raising us kids

I'm a solo parent so have to do everything. It's relentless!

I think your DH has a good deal here. Sorting out bills is zero isn't it once you've set up a dd.

We’re basically 50/50. He does all the research for our holidays and books them and, as we don’t book package hols, there’s quite a few moving parts. He narrows it down to a few options and I make the final pick. I could not love him more for this and would happily take on more admin just to avoid this.

We’re pretty much 50/50. Some things we split up, some things we do together and some things we each take the lead on due to different strengths/interests.

I work FT but in a more flexible job than DH; DH is PT 4 days a week (though he’s still the higher earner even PT as he’s in a higher paid industry.)

Split pretty equally between us, catering to each others' strengths. We have a family calendar app which everything goes in - therefore it's not only up to one of us to remember PE or a party or World Book Day.