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Email from my ex husband...

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Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 17:12

Dear Arlanymor, sincerely hope you are well. I need to know the date of our wedding because I have to fill in an X form. Are you able to remember please? Best regards, Ex Wanker.

Sent to my WORK email. Which means he had to look it up online.

I divorced him for adultery nearly two decades ago now. Also the clue is in 'our wedding' isn't it? You were there on the day dickhead. We haven't been in contact since 2019 when he kept coming up as having looked at my profile on LinkedIn and I got in touch via their messenger to ask him not to.

This has got me so angry. "Oh Arlanymor - do me a favour please? Even though I am a cheating arsehole and should be able to fill in forms without bothering/the assistance of my ex-wife." The date is on the decree absolute you absolute toilet goblin.

FUMING. FUMING. FUMING.

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JustSawJohnny · 09/04/2025 18:46

'Can 't remember, sorry'

And block.

TeaIsNice · 09/04/2025 18:46

delete, block, move on

Anewdawnanewname · 09/04/2025 18:46

I’d be tempted to reply that I couldn’t remember either, not an important date.

What form would need the date?

ackarackaru · 09/04/2025 18:45

I would definitely ignore. It’ll infuriate him!

Compash · 09/04/2025 18:44

Say '23rd or 24th of month/year.' He'll still have to look it up and you clearly won't have bothered to do that or remember.

Auchencar · 09/04/2025 18:43

Excellent OP OP.

Big 👏for toilet goblin.

BBT213 · 09/04/2025 18:41

32nd of ThankGoodnessWeAreDivorcedEmber 20NeverAgain

FumbDucker · 09/04/2025 18:40

What an absolute CF! Nope, laughable he thinks he deserves any favours from you. No way would I respond other than - “Too long ago to recall”

No greeting, no apology, no sign off

Freshflower · 09/04/2025 18:39

I'd just say sorry I can't remember either or just give a completely wrong date

Lucelady · 09/04/2025 18:37

Online certificates on gov.
Cf for asking.

I'd be tempted to say no idea mate, look it up!

Ewock · 09/04/2025 18:35

Delete and ignore. He spent as much time looking up your work email as he could have spent looking on his copy of the decree absolute. You are not there to do his admin, he'll have to be an adult and find out for himself

orangedream · 09/04/2025 18:32

Delete and block. He's probably the sort to be enraged if he's ignored. You're still supposed to jump when he says so. Tosser.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 09/04/2025 18:32

I would be tempted to say “One of the great things about being divorced is that I don’t have to do your admin.”

ARichtGoodDram · 09/04/2025 18:29

I'd ignore it. If he ever complains to anyone just shrug and say you can't use your work email for personal use.

MindlessDaydream · 09/04/2025 18:29

Block and delete so you're not blindsided by him again. He can easily find the information himself.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 09/04/2025 18:28

SlightlyJaded · 09/04/2025 18:25

who dis?

GrinGrin

MrsAga · 09/04/2025 18:28

Can’t remember off top of my head. Suppose I could look it up if I needed it. But so could you.
Best regards.

loobylou10 · 09/04/2025 18:27

‘It will be on your decree absolute’

Maray1967 · 09/04/2025 18:26

soarklyknobs · 09/04/2025 17:58

You divorced him 20 years ago and yet he still wants you to do wife work for him 🙄

I would either:

a) never respond, or
b) respond with 👌

And proceed to respond with any further messages in the same way.

Wife work is not your job any more 🤷‍♀️

Yes, this is a wife work one. He still expects you to relieve him of the boring admin work that he can’t be bothered to do himself.

TomatoSandwiches · 09/04/2025 18:25

Perhaps message him something like,

Of course, the date was xx xx xxxx.
I'm not surprised you forgot it tbh considering you many times you forgot to keep your dick in your pants during the marriage also.

Hope that helps,

Regards,

Arlanymor

And then block him.

TopNarcTip · 09/04/2025 18:25

What a twat. Ignore. Totally. Just delete it. He could easily find out. I suspect he’s hoping you ask about the form and he can pull you back into communication.

SlightlyJaded · 09/04/2025 18:25

who dis?

tobee · 09/04/2025 18:23

viques · 09/04/2025 17:44

Tell him you have now had several marriages and can’t remember which one his was. Give him three dates to choose from.

🤣🤣

TiredShamrock · 09/04/2025 18:22

Another person here loving the phrase toilet goblin! OP you sound fabulous. Don't give him another moment of thought. Just ignore the email and maybe set up a rule so that any more emails from toilet goblin’s email address go straight in the bin. Onwards xx

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Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 18:22

Bepo77 · 09/04/2025 18:19

Why can’t you say what he needs it for? Pretty sure no one can identify you from saying your ex husband sent an email…

It's military so would rather not.

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