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Email from my ex husband...

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Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 17:12

Dear Arlanymor, sincerely hope you are well. I need to know the date of our wedding because I have to fill in an X form. Are you able to remember please? Best regards, Ex Wanker.

Sent to my WORK email. Which means he had to look it up online.

I divorced him for adultery nearly two decades ago now. Also the clue is in 'our wedding' isn't it? You were there on the day dickhead. We haven't been in contact since 2019 when he kept coming up as having looked at my profile on LinkedIn and I got in touch via their messenger to ask him not to.

This has got me so angry. "Oh Arlanymor - do me a favour please? Even though I am a cheating arsehole and should be able to fill in forms without bothering/the assistance of my ex-wife." The date is on the decree absolute you absolute toilet goblin.

FUMING. FUMING. FUMING.

OP posts:
ShinyWorthKeeping · 09/04/2025 20:34

Dear Toilet Goblin,

As this is my work email it is for professional use relating to work matters only.

Regards,
___

JHound · 09/04/2025 20:31

But seriously I struggle to do wife work for men I am in relationships with.

I refuse to do it for an ex.

Tortielady · 09/04/2025 20:30

Dear Toilet Goblin

I married you?? Why on earth did I do that?

Arlanymor

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 09/04/2025 20:26

GrumpyInsomniac · 09/04/2025 17:50

“For all life admin requests, please see your current wife.”

This would be me.

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 09/04/2025 20:25

Dear Toilet Goblin,

There’s a one in twenty-eight to thirty-one chance so hopefully you’re feeling lucky. I’ll give you a clue for old time’s sake: it wasn’t the 11th.

Unsincerely,

Dear Toilet Goblin,

Sorry I think I’ve repressed the memory but possibly the thirty second of disMay?

EdithBond · 09/04/2025 20:24

Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 17:50

Yes this is exactly it. He can find out - why use me (a) as a shortcut because he can't be arsed or (b) because for some stupid reason he wants to try and resume contact. Honestly not bitter, just put out and reeling a bit.

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Your posts have made me laugh @Arlanymor. Don’t blame you for venting. What a CF. Agree the tone is like he’s contacting his PA. And it’s a back-handed insult to admit he’s forgotten your wedding date.

Sounds to me like he’s looking for an excuse to make contact, especially if he’s previous stalked your LinkedIn.

Just delete the email.

Enthusiasticcarrotgrower · 09/04/2025 20:22

BananasInPyjamasAreRunningDownTheStairs · 09/04/2025 17:46

Dear Toilet Goblin

By my understanding it was April 1st but you might want to double check. Please note, I can't respond to any more emails on this subject due to our corporate firewall

Best Regards

I would be so tempted 😂

FriendsDrinkBook · 09/04/2025 20:12

My mum's abusive exh wrote to ask for her copy of their decree absolute because he'd lost his and needed it to remarry. Oh how we laughed when she showed me his letter! What a turd.

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 09/04/2025 20:11

What a fucking cheek. The tone of the whole thing would infuriate me.

MikeRafone · 09/04/2025 20:06

I would reply

Dear Mr Wankstain
haven't got a clue, it was yonks ago.
yours sincerly
don't give a fuck

MayaPinion · 09/04/2025 20:05

I’d go, ‘Blimey, no clue. June I think?’

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 09/04/2025 20:05

His email went to spam
You didn't see it

Work on the fact that he STILL affects you so negatively

Terrythefish · 09/04/2025 20:04

Your post made really laugh OP!

I can’t remember when I got married either! I am fairly sure of the day and month but not a Scooby about the year!

8misskitty8 · 09/04/2025 20:03

I would deny knowing who he is. Then mark his email address as spam.

interestedwhy · 09/04/2025 20:01

I got married the first time in 1996 and would want to check the exact date - I think I know but not 100% ! I would politely and unemotionally say sorry I can’t remember either - suggest you check the decree absolute and then block him

WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 09/04/2025 19:59

I’d reply:

Honestly, no idea myself. June sometime maybe?

regards….

No ‘best’ or ‘kind’ regards, and no clue as to where he’d find the info.

sparklingindignation · 09/04/2025 19:57

You are not his secretary to find answers to his questions, so please do not give him the date. It will bother you afterwards if you do so, when he's perfectly capable of finding the answer himself. He is just making sure you will still jump when he asks.

Either block unanswered
OR
A cheery 'Heavens that was ages ago, I can't remember either.' (then block)

Good luck OP!

NetZeroZealot · 09/04/2025 19:54

I can't remember my wedding date. Although I know the month and the year.

IVbumble · 09/04/2025 19:53

There's more power in silence.

IHaveAlwaysLivedintheCastle · 09/04/2025 19:46

Katemax82 · 09/04/2025 17:26

My husband of 25 years can't remember our wedding date

I can't remember our wedding date.

What a fuss about nothing.

Cotonsugar · 09/04/2025 19:45

Divorced twenty years ago and you still have this reaction. I’ve been divorced less than ten years but whenever I hear anything about my ex husband I have zero feelings even if he has upset my adult children. They are now able to stand up for themselves as far as I’m concerned. I’m happy to feel nothing. If I were you I would email the date and nothing else, not even a greeting and leave it at that. Btw when I visited the solicitor dealing with my divorce I couldn’t remember the date of our marriage because we hadn’t bothered celebrating it for years.

DisforDarkChocolate · 09/04/2025 19:44

Delete
Block
Forget

Maybe throw in laughing at his stupidity if you feel charitable.

Gettingbysomehow · 09/04/2025 19:42

I wouldn't even think of replying.

IAmNotASheep · 09/04/2025 19:42

Have taken note of that phrase
‘toilet Goblin ‘. For future reference
thanks OP

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StartAnew · 09/04/2025 19:41

category12 · 09/04/2025 19:37

She can just go straight ahead and block him. Why give him the date?

She's not his secretary and she doesn't have to do his braining for him. He's just too lazy and entitled to work it out himself, expects a woman to do it for him.

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She might reply 'Sorry - who are you? I can't remember, were we married?'
Then block.