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Email from my ex husband...

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Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 17:12

Dear Arlanymor, sincerely hope you are well. I need to know the date of our wedding because I have to fill in an X form. Are you able to remember please? Best regards, Ex Wanker.

Sent to my WORK email. Which means he had to look it up online.

I divorced him for adultery nearly two decades ago now. Also the clue is in 'our wedding' isn't it? You were there on the day dickhead. We haven't been in contact since 2019 when he kept coming up as having looked at my profile on LinkedIn and I got in touch via their messenger to ask him not to.

This has got me so angry. "Oh Arlanymor - do me a favour please? Even though I am a cheating arsehole and should be able to fill in forms without bothering/the assistance of my ex-wife." The date is on the decree absolute you absolute toilet goblin.

FUMING. FUMING. FUMING.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 21:44

Katemax82 · 09/04/2025 17:26

My husband of 25 years can't remember our wedding date

Does he have memory issues or anything else that would make sense? Getting married is a massive, massive date in someone's life. I would find it extremely hard to believe that someone didn't know it, except for medical issues. If none, sounds like a bit of "I care less than you do, ner ner ner-ner ner" crap. I would be appalled if my husband genuinely couldn't remember it and would suggest taking him for an Alzheimer's assessment if he really couldn't.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 21:40

Toilet goblin!!!!!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 21:40

Of course he remembers, he just wanted to get in touch.

DevilledEgg · 09/04/2025 21:40

I'd reply "It is inappropriate to contact me at work for matters not pertaining to my work."

I'd give him no answers. That's not your business. Even if he's lost his decree absolute, the information he wants to know is public record so he can get off his lazy ass and go find out.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 09/04/2025 21:37

Just wilfully misunderstand what he's getting at, then mark as spam.

Dear Toilet Goblin

Yes, I am able to remember the date and will be able to put it in a form if need be. Thank you for your concern.

Best regards,

Arlanymor

Serenitymummy · 09/04/2025 21:26

🙋another just popped in to say I also will be adopting "toilet goblin" going forwards!

EilishMcCandlish · 09/04/2025 21:20

'The time it took you stalking me to find my email address could have been more productively used looking for the information you need'.

Efrogwraig · 09/04/2025 21:20

Just reply that you have forgotten too.

Semiramide · 09/04/2025 21:19

category12 · 09/04/2025 19:37

She can just go straight ahead and block him. Why give him the date?

She's not his secretary and she doesn't have to do his braining for him. He's just too lazy and entitled to work it out himself, expects a woman to do it for him.

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Path of least resistance?

Blocking him without replying would let him know that he did indeed raise her hackles.

andthat · 09/04/2025 21:17

Auldy · 09/04/2025 17:21

You don't need to be fuming. You can just smile and delete and be thankful he isn't in your life anymore. Why are you allowing him to have this much control over your emotions?

This!

why are you letting him get under your skin?

Delete, reply ‘can’t remember’ or send him the wrong date!

TheGaaTheSkaAndTheRa · 09/04/2025 21:14

HappiestSleeping · 09/04/2025 17:22

Error 404.

File not found.

Send this.

In fact you'd be mad not to.

Tosser.

SinnerBoy · 09/04/2025 21:09

Sorry, best laugh of the year with toilet goblin!

I agree, give him the wrong date and a year late!

Daisy4569 · 09/04/2025 21:02

‘Sorry I can’t remember’

Finetoday · 09/04/2025 21:00

Hi, sorry can’t remember

End of.

IncyWincyEyeroll · 09/04/2025 20:53

MrsAga · 09/04/2025 18:28

Can’t remember off top of my head. Suppose I could look it up if I needed it. But so could you.
Best regards.

Best response on the thread 😊

BTW, cannot believe anyone is suggesting you give him the date. How low is our collective bar for lazy / goady men??!

IHeartHalloumi · 09/04/2025 20:51

Are you able to email back a 🤷‍♀️ emoji? Then block him, obviously

nam3c4ang3 · 09/04/2025 20:47

Just reply with the date. No hello, nothing else. Just the date.

Addictedtohotbaths · 09/04/2025 20:47

Send him a nice response and give him the wrong date!

cryingandshaking · 09/04/2025 20:47

Personally I would reply, but with a slightly different date, perhaps wrong by a couple of days. Just because I’m petty though!

SwornToSilence · 09/04/2025 20:44
  1. I'm loving Toilet Goblin
  2. Tell him you can't remember
  3. Very helpfully suggest he requests a copy of your marriage certificate to find out (which will involve more hassle and cost him money)
Sunnyplain · 09/04/2025 20:43

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 09/04/2025 20:38

Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 17:51

Ironically I don't have mine any more, it got lost in a house move.

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Maybe he's done the same, which is why he's asked you?

Out of the many ways an ex can piss somebody off, asking if they remember a date for an official form (when it's not the date of birth of one of their children) isn't high on my list.

BlueMum16 · 09/04/2025 20:38

Arlanymor · 09/04/2025 18:22

It's military so would rather not.

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Personally I'd just ignore.

I wouldn't give him the time of day. He can clearly get this informal elsewhere if he decided to try.

Not your problem.

If work allow you to block id do that too.

Elsvieta · 09/04/2025 20:37

"It's on the decree absolute, Einstein". Then block.

ShriekingTrespasser · 09/04/2025 20:37

Ignore it. He’s so presumptuous expecting others to do his admin for him. Is he one of those who thinks that’s what women’s role is?
delete it.

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