DS(8) not invited to party

The property owner has a duty of care to make sure her premises are safe for visitors. If a child is injured on the property—say due to poor supervision, unsafe play equipment, or other hazards—a personal injury claim could be made on the child’s behalf.

Hopefully, the OP’s home insurance policy includes public liability cover for third-party use, such as parties or events. If it does, the insurer would typically handle any compensation.

If not, the OP could be personally liable for any injuries that occur on her property.

Totally entitled behaviour.
Inconsiderate, and unfair to your son.

I’m surprised and taken aback at your suggestion that [DS] shouldn’t be at the party. I understand you want the focus to be on your son, but I’m afraid I’m not going to be unfair and exclude my [DS] from his own home and garden. It’s a space he usually shares with his friends and enjoys himself.

Given that you obviously think differently , it would be best if you find an alternative venue for the party. We were more than happy to help and lend the space and equipment on the understanding that it would be a friendly, inclusive gathering, but it doesn’t feel right for our son to be sidelined in his own home. I hope you understand.

That's not just cheeky fuckery, that is just the most basic lack of manners

I get my eyes opened daily on here over the pure selfishness of people

Yes Im older, but Im of a generation where a kid in the street was having a birthday party, not only their school friends were invited, the whole street was. Not one parent would turn away a child from a party, invited or not

100% tell her to find another venue.
It's his home! Does she expect you to lock him in whilst his friends all play. Absolute cheek.

if you son is expected to stay in the house while the party goes ahead, say that's fine, but just in case the children get the wrong impression it's best they all stay in the garden for the duration of the party. so that means no access to the house, so no toilets, no hand washing etc, etc.. .

I’m still struggling to understand how the other mum thought her request/demand/suggestion was in any way reasonable. It feels way beyond cheeky and down into depths of vindictive. I’ll have my son’s party at your house but your child isn’t really invited. Wow. Just wow. (I appreciate she did a back track and implied that’s not what she meant but clearly she did mean that. She’s had an ogre moment and thought her child’s perceived enjoyment of the day was more important than being kind. Yikes)

Is she for real?? The nerve of some people actually astounds me, it's bad enough when a child is excluded from a friend's party, but when that party is in that child's house that's a whole new level of wrong.
Tell her to find a new venue

What a cheek.

i would also be concerned if one of the kids had an accident. Would this be your responsibility?

I’m sorry but no… no, nope, nah. How dare she be as rude as she has been! Second I think this really hasn’t been thought about. Other posts have mentioned if anything happens to any of the children/equipment/property you are not covered. Are you seriously willing to take on all the responsibilities for someone else party who isn’t even a close friend. IMO I would cancel, I u seat and about the backlash but nothing and no one comes above your peace and happy place (home) too many red flags.

Repeat after me "No Invite - No Party"

So how do you go about checking that every guest in your party is worse in an activity than your children, just so they can feel smug on their birthdays? Do you check there’s no tumblers on your lists in case of trampoline parks (my niece is an Olympic gymnast and would put most children in the world to shame)? No amazing footballers or swimmers for football or pool parties? No competitive horse riders for pony parties? Absolutely no one at all can excel in any activity at a party so that your children look better? What a poor way to raise a child

I think she has something very wrong with her. Tell her your son now plays at county for an older team and you are much too busy to have a party held at your property now

Totally agree, that's ridiculous, take back the offer!!!

Are you charging this cf ?

”I think she would agree to that” too right she’ll agree. How rude and entitled of her. I would be delighted f someone would do this for my child and at the very least would arrive with bubbly for you. I’m so flabbergasted on your behalf.

This

I am mostly surprised you are even entertaining the idea. That woman is a low key bully. I think she is envious of your kid. That my dear is even enough to stay away ftom her

I’d decline the offer and just tell her to find somewhere else to have the party.

Take away the offer!!!

good lord how spiteful is she

Hi op,

yeah if your kids can’t come to the party in their garden, unfortunately, the party won’t happen. That simple.

I hope she feels baaaaaad when she receives your text. Excluding your DS while enjoying all of his stuff! What a horrible woman. Maybe she would like you to go out also so people don’t think it isn’t her house?

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I personally would let the party go ahead, you don't wanna be the reason all those children go home unhappy, however I would block that parent and her darling angel at the door and tell them they aren't welcome, then celebrate his birthday without him

You are being a pushover. Sorry.
It's not on you to correct others behaviour.
Why would any decent human being think it was ok ?!

Is this resolved now @idontunderstandwhy ?

I thought I'd heard it all on here but this takes the fucking cake.

You're nicer than me OP I would probably have just immediately told her the party's cancelled and she can fuck off.

Were they planning on using your bathroom, too?