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DS(8) not invited to party

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idontunderstandwhy · 09/04/2025 14:01

Dh used to compete and be a sports coach so we have a section of our garden built up and dedicated to that sport. He just teaches our dc and they play there now.

Ds has mostly had garden parties and then and on play dates his friends play there also.

Mum of one of his friends at a past play date mentioned her ds would love to learn do the sport and do something like this for his birthday but couldn’t find anywhere near.
Dh said that he’s welcome to come and practice whenever and actually could have party here if she couldn’t find anywhere else.

It was then agreed her ds could have his party in our garden and borrow equipment we had but that obviously over wise party organising is her responsibility. She has other entertainment, food arranged ect, party is quite soon.

She’s now said that she doesn’t think my DS should come as she’s worried the fact it’s his house/garden and he is good at the sport will take the shine of her DS and people will think it’s my DS’s day instead. And as it’s an out of school friend he would only know a few of kids anyway.

She never specifically said ds was invited we just assumed and we probably agreed based on that assumption.

I don’t think its fair to have ds locked in the house or taken out when his friends and boys his age playing in our garden and am shocked she thinks this is an okay suggestion.

AIBU it’s only fair ds goes?

OP posts:
HoppingPavlova · 09/04/2025 14:08

Just when you think you have heard it all, something like this comes along. Wow.

I would tell her that it no longer works for you and she will need to make other arrangements. The end. Seriously, what a deranged monster she is.

idontunderstandwhy · 09/04/2025 14:08

Thankyou for the replies, I hadn’t yet replied but needed to check I wasn’t being unreasonable and missing something.

Party is very soon and would be putting her out a lot to cancel. I think the most reasonable option would be to just insist it’s only fair that ds gets to go and I think she would agree to that above cancelling the whole party.

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macaroniandcheeze · 09/04/2025 14:07

Haha what is WRONG with people?! It’s in his own back garden and he’s expected to just stay indoors? This woman is mad. Tell her your son will be using the garden and the equipment whether he’s invited or not!!

ForeveraBluebird · 09/04/2025 14:07

That’s so rude a response to your very kind offer. I’d also tell her to find somewhere else, totally unfair to your son .

WillimNot · 09/04/2025 14:06

WTF?

Tell her that you can no longer accommodate her party and tell her she's an utter cheeky fucker.

She will just hump and sigh and probably slag you off to others if she's made to invite your son. Make sure you make others aware of her behaviour.

Take the shine off, what a twat

murasaki · 09/04/2025 14:06

shellyleppard · 09/04/2025 14:04

What a bloody cheek!!! I would charge her for "hiring" the equipment and spend it on your son

No, she cannot be allowed to use the OP's garden and not invite the son, even if she does pay.

Dollshousedolly · 09/04/2025 14:05

I’d be telling her that your garden space is no longer available for the party.

Moschatelle · 09/04/2025 14:05

Unbelievable!
Tell her to take her “star” elsewhere.

MellowPinkDeer · 09/04/2025 14:04

Ethelflaedofmercia · 09/04/2025 14:03

Tell her to find another venue. Cheeky cow.

This!!!!!! The ENTITLEMENT of some people blows my mind!

shellyleppard · 09/04/2025 14:04

What a bloody cheek!!! I would charge her for "hiring" the equipment and spend it on your son

Ethelflaedofmercia · 09/04/2025 14:03

Tell her to find another venue. Cheeky cow.

murasaki · 09/04/2025 14:03

I'd be rescinding the offer, she is taking cheeky fuckery to new levels here.