DS(8) not invited to party

Why? Why all the charges when there was no charge initially. OP wants a cordial, if not pleasant, relationship with her neighbor for herself and her son. The neighbor made a foolish request which sounds like she now regrets. No purpose would be served in billing her out of spite, and proving to deliberated be a nastier person than birthday boy's mom was. OP, if she still hopes to have the party in your yard, WITH your son in attendance, she'll see that all went well as far as the kids are concerned, she'll probably feel foolish, and you should just let it go. It's a first offense, not a normal occurrence.

I don’t think this is OP showing a lack of backbone or being a pushover, rather I think she’s showing lots of kindness and compassion towards the other child in her decision to let the party go ahead. I imagine that child would be gutted if his party was cancelled (especially on account of his mother’s silly behaviour although admittedly he would probably never know that was the reason which was cancelled)

Having said that, I hope OP doesn’t ever offer anything like this to CF mum again who has very much shown her true colours and burned the bridges. I think every school has a few parents like this and when you recognise them it’s best to avoid them like proverbial plague.

The CF had already burnt her bridges when she said the son wouldn't be allowed in his own garden,yet here we are. Still getting the party despite all this 🙄🤷‍♀️🤦‍♂️Some people are such a walkover 🙄

I am thinking that the OP is considering the other party guests - they will be looking forward to this party especially if its a sport they want to try out and haven't had the opportunity.
Maybe her DH ( who was a competitor and coach in this sport) is thinking " this is a chance to get kids into sport,off the streets and maybe for some a long term interest in it"

As long as the CF Mum doesn't exclude the OP DS the I think the event should go ahead with the good intention it was offered .......BUT the CF mum is 100% aware that the OP isn't doing it for her benefit , it is for the party goers.

Then after ( and after the CF mum tidies up ) no more favours . No more use of the facilities . She can bugger right off .
She has truly burned her bridges.

Can't believe the OP is still letting it go ahead. Where's your backbone? 🙄

please let us know how it goes OP - I think you’ve done the right thing in your response

There is no way I would be letting this party go ahead at even the first whiff of the mum not wanting my son there in his own garden with his friends! Who cares if she bitches and moans about you, this is your son. Do you honestly not think she will bitch and moan if your sons goes to the party and outshines her child? Either way you will be getting gossiped about, and as a parent I would much rather that gossip be about me than my son.

If nothing else you can show anyone who questions it, the messages she sent asking your son to stay inside!

I would be honest with your son about the reasons why as well. He needs to know his parents will stand up for him, no matter what.

Cancel the party, this is the other mums fault, not yours!

I’d also be a bit worried about her behaviour towards your son. Can you ask any friends to come round too, to help keep an eye out on the proceedings?

Omg. It is still going ahead?! Your house needs to the a safe place for your child.

Why haven’t you cancelled? I wouldn’t want anything to do with someone who wanted to use my house and asked for my child to hide in their bedroom! Even if he’s invited to play in his own garden, the damage had been done.

The way I would text her to say "unfortunately, my backyard is not available after all, as wouldn't you know, my son is hosting a sports camp party in the back yard that same day!"

It's unfortunate that the kid is having to suffer because of their mom. I doubt she will get better with time. I doubt this is the first time she was unhinged.

Even if your son is invited now i’d be worried she would purposely exclude him from showcasing his talent to let her son ‘shine’… you should stick around and keep popping out

Are they trying to make Mumsnet great again? 😂

She is insane to think this is ok
What a cheeky cow, I wouldn’t worry about you coming across badly for cancelling
This is 100% on her and her crazy entitlement

I've reported your vile post
I'm not so bothered about the use of the K name but "tard"
Catch yourself on

Someone Stateside who has picked this up from the article above, I suspect. Probably voted for Trump…

How about respecting that is is HER home and HER garden and her son has been asked to hide away?

Fortunately the OP has already said the CF mother has backtracked, probably realising that if someone generously shares their home, garden and possessions with you FREE of charge, you don’t shit all over the feelings of the host’s child.

Are you joking? It's OP's house, of course her kid is going to be there.

@idontunderstandwhy I just wanted to let you know that this thread has made a large American media outlet’s news (People magazine) and they’ve written an article about it that just turned up in my feed. I don’t even read their stuff but the algorithm must have known since I commented. Not sure if you want to get the thread taken down…

https://people.com/mom-says-son-8-not-invited-to-party-because-he-will-steal-other-kids-shine-11714131

OP didn't say exactly when it was.

God, someone made a mistake and commented without reading the entire thing. Big deal, who cares.

Erm wasn't the party last weekend?