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What would you HONESTLY do in this situation?

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Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:24

Say you ordered a few items from a big online shop (clothing), then successfully cancelled the order, and was refunded.

A few days later, you ordered a single item of clothing from the same place. Today that item was delivered, however they had also sent the items you had cancelled and was refunded for (probably around £120 worth of stuff).

Would you contact them about it or would you keep quiet, see if they emailed you about it and if you didn’t hear anything say 3-4 weeks down the line, just keep the items as normal? This is a place you regularly order from, spending between £300-400 a month.

What would you HONESTLY do?

OP posts:
DevonCreamTeaPlease · 09/04/2025 14:09

Return them

Keeping them is tantamount to shop lifting.

Although there is a glitch in their IT system, it may come to light and you will be shown to be stealing.

It's pointless quoting their annual turnover (I mean- you've actually looked! That's very telling in itself.)
Annual gross turnover is meaningless - of course you can dig further and maybe see what the CEO earns . Why not? Will it confirm you're right to steal?

Is this Boden? Just thinking of a clothing company where most items are £70-80 a piece. It's not M&S for sure.

nomas · 09/04/2025 14:09

orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements · 09/04/2025 14:01

Keep them.

It's not stealing. They sent you a parcel, addressed to you. It's yours. People send unsolicited parcels and gifts all the time.

Stealing is walking into a shop and taking things off the shelf.

That’s not legally true. Firms can take you to court to recover their goods, if they wanted to.

asrl78 · 09/04/2025 14:08

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:29

I completely agree about if it was a small business, there would be no hesitation!

Morally it is no difference what size of business it is, it comes down to whether you think you are entitled to something for nothing because someone made a mistake.

singlewhitetrashheap · 09/04/2025 14:05

Hoppinggreen · 09/04/2025 12:55

I would not
Good user name by the way

Marjory the trash heap from Fraggle Rock is my style icon.

THE TRASH HEAP HAS SPOKEN.

What would you HONESTLY do in this situation?
Magnastorm · 09/04/2025 14:05

orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements · 09/04/2025 14:01

Keep them.

It's not stealing. They sent you a parcel, addressed to you. It's yours. People send unsolicited parcels and gifts all the time.

Stealing is walking into a shop and taking things off the shelf.

They weren't unsolicited though, in that they weren't sent out of the blue.

OP ordered the items, cancelled them and obviously due to an admin mixup they've been sent out. Morally, if not 100% legally perhaps it is theft.

Any decent person would get in touch with the company and ask them to arrange collection.

MrsMillyFluff · 09/04/2025 14:05

I'd keep them.

Missmarplesknittingbuddy · 09/04/2025 14:04

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:42

They turn over 32 million pound a year…

So i assume you would feel justified in shoplifting from a business with a turnover of around this amount , as you are still stealing the items , regardless of how you came to have them without paying for them .

JudgeJ · 09/04/2025 14:04

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:24

Say you ordered a few items from a big online shop (clothing), then successfully cancelled the order, and was refunded.

A few days later, you ordered a single item of clothing from the same place. Today that item was delivered, however they had also sent the items you had cancelled and was refunded for (probably around £120 worth of stuff).

Would you contact them about it or would you keep quiet, see if they emailed you about it and if you didn’t hear anything say 3-4 weeks down the line, just keep the items as normal? This is a place you regularly order from, spending between £300-400 a month.

What would you HONESTLY do?

I once ordered a case of wine to be delivered to my school address, a couple of days before we finished for Christmas it hadn't arrived. On the phone they said they'd sent it to the wrong address, a pub with a similar name but they would express deliver another to my home address which they did. On returning to work in January there was another case to the correct work address and when I phoned they said to keep it, it was easier than having it collected!

Ohnobackagain · 09/04/2025 14:03

@Friends1996 I’d tell them. Even if it were a big company, because ultimately this kind of thing would add to their costs which get passed on to the customers, even if only pence it would add up if it happened a lot, or mean less pay for employees. There is always a cost somewhere and my conscience would niggle me otherwise.

Hwi · 09/04/2025 14:03

Amazing how people ask these questions and then say 'oh, no, the country's gone to shit'. Of course it has, if people are even thinking about things like that.

cramptramp · 09/04/2025 14:01

I’d contact them. It wouldn’t occur to me to do anything else.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 09/04/2025 14:01

I'd probably tell them but I wouldn't be going out of my way to send them back. They could collect them with a one hour time slot. I might be more accommodating to a small business but I still wouldn't go out of my way to rectify their error.

If they told me to keep them I'd sell them if they didn't fit or didn't like them or keep them if I'd ordered multiple items and kept some but returned others.

orangesandlemonssaythebellsofstclements · 09/04/2025 14:01

Keep them.

It's not stealing. They sent you a parcel, addressed to you. It's yours. People send unsolicited parcels and gifts all the time.

Stealing is walking into a shop and taking things off the shelf.

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 14:00

Nameychangington · 09/04/2025 13:57

You spend £300-400 a month with this retailer but have never returned anything to them?

I genuinely can't imagine spending that in clothes a month but even if I did, I can't imagine ordering clothes online so regularly and never needing to return anything because it was too big/small/ weird fabric/ didn't suit me.

It's all very odd.

They have the same style of clothing, just in different colours and patterns, so once you know your size you know your size. I’ve liked every piece of clothing I’ve got from them

OP posts:
snowmichael · 09/04/2025 14:00

Obviously parcel them up, and email the supplier
If they don't reply within 10 working days, or they expect you to post them back at your own expense, keep them

Sayithowiseeit · 09/04/2025 13:58

Keep it somewhere safe, see if they email, if they do then return, if they don't then keep them

Magnastorm · 09/04/2025 13:57

Momtotwokids · 09/04/2025 13:47

You are stealing. Doesn't matter if the business is small or amazon

Yep.

This argument that screwing over big companies is somehow ok compared to ma and pa's corner shop is utter bullshit. Theft is theft.

Big companies can fail just as easily as small companies. Remember BHS? Littlewoods? Topshop? The list is endless. Each time they fail people lose their jobs and lives suffer, the same as for little companies.

Nameychangington · 09/04/2025 13:57

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 13:39

I’ve never returned anything to them, the order was cancelled and refunded before it was dispatched

You spend £300-400 a month with this retailer but have never returned anything to them?

I genuinely can't imagine spending that in clothes a month but even if I did, I can't imagine ordering clothes online so regularly and never needing to return anything because it was too big/small/ weird fabric/ didn't suit me.

It's all very odd.

JustMyView13 · 09/04/2025 13:56

I would honestly contact them. I couldn’t sleep soundly if I had it hanging over me. I believe what goes around comes around, and ultimately their inventories and tracking will show you have the product.

I would ask them to arrange a collection method that’s convenient for me though. I wouldn’t be put out to return it.

I probably would try it on, and anything I liked I’d re-buy.

EasternEcho · 09/04/2025 13:55

Similar happened to me, although in my case I went through the steps for checkout but didn't input my card details. Aborted the purchase without putting in payment details as I felt I couldn't afford them at that moment. But a day later I got confirmation that my order has been despatched. I informed the company of the error, and refused the package when it arrived, so it got returned. I got an email thanking me, and a sizeable discount on my next order.. I wouldn't keep it. Wouldn't feel good about myself.

DaisyDooordont · 09/04/2025 13:55

roses2 · 09/04/2025 13:48

You spend £300/month on clothes and rarely leave the house as you are disabled?

Such a weird comment, with a touch of ableism I'd argue.

TheWolfHouse · 09/04/2025 13:53

I 100% would tell them and have done in similar circumstances. I was asked to return a fancy new limited edition gaming system I was once sent by mistake by Amazon but otherwise am usually told to keep the items. That means I’ve been honest and I get free stuff. It doesn’t make any difference if it’s a big company or not. I like being an honest person. I get value from it. I’d expect the company to make it easy to return the items.
I find people that try and justify dishonesty a bit pathetic tbh. If you are happy to keep stuff that isn’t yours then at least accept that’s where your moral standard lies and don’t try to pretend it’s justifiable.

WhatColourIsThatBalloon · 09/04/2025 13:52

PaintYourAssLikeRembrandt · 09/04/2025 12:27

I wouldn't say anything and see what happens, and I wouldn't feel guilty bout keeping the clothes if they didn't contact me either.

If it was a small business my answer would be different.

This.

godmum56 · 09/04/2025 13:52

Coali · 09/04/2025 12:35

This has happened to me a few times and I contacted them. Once the value was low and they said to keep it. The other times they have arranged collection.

I don’t think it matters whether it’s a big or small business, the people working there aren’t on megabucks so if profits fall, staff are the first to go.

This its happened to me a few of times and I have contacted the company each time.

Fleurdalys · 09/04/2025 13:51

Mehhhh
Keep them

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