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What would you HONESTLY do in this situation?

559 replies

Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:24

Say you ordered a few items from a big online shop (clothing), then successfully cancelled the order, and was refunded.

A few days later, you ordered a single item of clothing from the same place. Today that item was delivered, however they had also sent the items you had cancelled and was refunded for (probably around £120 worth of stuff).

Would you contact them about it or would you keep quiet, see if they emailed you about it and if you didn’t hear anything say 3-4 weeks down the line, just keep the items as normal? This is a place you regularly order from, spending between £300-400 a month.

What would you HONESTLY do?

OP posts:
Growlybear83 · 09/04/2025 15:17

IdLikeThingToSpiralIntoControl · 09/04/2025 15:12

I’m afraid that I don’t believe the majority of people would send everything back, despite what they say.

@Growlybear83 you don’t want to believe that the majority of people are honest because it then makes you feel like your own actions aren’t really so bad.
You’re wrong.
Next sent me a £10 voucher for sending the stuff back.

I don’t need anyone to show me how I feel about my actions when I don’t feel bad ablut what I’ve said at all 😆. It’s not a question of what I WANT to believe - I DO believe that most people who are so adamant that they wouldn’t keep the things would behave very differently if they were in the OP’s situation .

jellyfishperiwinkle · 09/04/2025 15:15

Contact them to organise a return or see what they want you to do, and check I haven't been charged!

Boots randomly sent me 4 packs of three XXL opaque tights after my actual order one time, I rang them and they said I could keep or discard them. No-one in our house would fit them. I advertised them on a local Facebook group, and someone picked them up for a women's refuge.

Manxexile · 09/04/2025 15:14

Sugarfish · 09/04/2025 12:56

By law you are supposed to contact them if they sent something by mistake. And they are supposed to arrange a collection for free and at no detriment to you, and there is apparently a deadline for this. Probably why most just let you keep the items.

Its only if something is truly unsolicited that you can keep it.

Honestly i’d probably just keep the stuff. I know I’m not supposed to admit to that though.

Edited

These goods weren't unsolicited though, were they? The OP had originally ordered them.

Unsolicited goods are where you receive something having previously had no contact with the sender whatsoever.

In this case, as it's the sender's error, it's down to the sender to pay for return of the goods or arrange for their collection., but the recipient can't impose a time limit as is possible with unsolicited goods

BunnyLake · 09/04/2025 15:12

I would contact them. They may let you keep them, they may not. I got extra food delivered in my online shop once (part of someone else’s shop I guess). They told me to keep it.

steff13 · 09/04/2025 15:12

I would contact them. I'm an honest person. 🤷‍♀️

Nothinglikeagoodbook · 09/04/2025 15:12

I would contact them and tell them. Because I’m not dishonest.

IdLikeThingToSpiralIntoControl · 09/04/2025 15:12

I’m afraid that I don’t believe the majority of people would send everything back, despite what they say.

@Growlybear83 you don’t want to believe that the majority of people are honest because it then makes you feel like your own actions aren’t really so bad.
You’re wrong.
Next sent me a £10 voucher for sending the stuff back.

Purplecatshopaholic · 09/04/2025 15:11

Hmm, I’d say something (or I always have when it happened, but obvs it’s not common). It’s happened a few times with me over the years with different companies (but all large businesses) - every time I’ve mentioned it they just let me keep whatever it was (probs too much hassle for them to organise taking it back).

Plumpishly · 09/04/2025 15:11

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AuxArmesCitoyens · 09/04/2025 15:10

Ikea delivered us two kitchens once. We told them, they could not have given less of a shit so we ebayed the spare one.

Growlybear83 · 09/04/2025 15:05

If it was a large company I keep quiet and would put the clothes away for a couple of months in case the company realised their mistake. I’m afraid that I don’t believe the majority of people would send everything back, despite what they say. If it was a very small business then I may feel differently and contact them.

TheFormidableMrsC · 09/04/2025 15:03

Contact them. I’ve just had this happen with an order of clothes for my son. A few days later a second Nike t-shirt turned up. I contacted them to say they’d made a mistake. They have not replied. It’s still in the packaging. If they don’t come back to me within a month I’ll probably keep it. It would be wrong not to tell them though. That’s theft.

AquaPeer · 09/04/2025 15:02

Boreded · 09/04/2025 14:45

Because OP wants to be told that it is ok to steal…

Suspect she’s asking to find out what people would really do (as per the title) rather than reading page after page of hysterical drivel from posters who you’d think had stumbled over brinks mat from their drama llama responses

LBFseBrom · 09/04/2025 14:58

I'd tell them.

AlexisP90 · 09/04/2025 14:55

I once ordered a coat which didn't arrive - they sent a replacement and both costs turned up

It was the most bizarre exchange ever trying to tell them. They totally didn't believe I now had 2 coats. This went on for ages.

I sent the second coat back got a full refund and the coat.

I tried to be honest! They refused to believe me!

Still got the coat 5 years later. Doing well for free

TheShiningCarpet · 09/04/2025 14:55

keep it!

FleurDeFleur · 09/04/2025 14:55

Contact them/return.
They're not yours to keep.

FleurDeFleur · 09/04/2025 14:54

TheJollyMoose · 09/04/2025 12:29

You’re still a thief whether the business is big or small.

This.

PassingStranger · 09/04/2025 14:54

Isn't it time companies were more competent and didnt do this.

IssyFleur · 09/04/2025 14:54

This happened to me, I let them know and they let me keep the stuff anyway. 😊

AquaPeer · 09/04/2025 14:52

I’d keep it

lessglittermoremud · 09/04/2025 14:51

I picked up a TU clothing order so not £000’s that I had paid for online at the time of ordering.
About 2 weeks later I had an email to say that they were sorry I hadn’t collected them from the collection point and that they had been returned to the warehouse and I had been refunded.
Contacted their customer services, who insisted I couldn’t have picked them up because all parcels were scanned as they were handed over and my order had definitely been returned to central stock. The fact that I was sitting there at home looking at it didn’t seem to matter.
I would send them a msg to let them know but I equally wouldn’t put myself out by having to take them somewhere to return them.

CheeseFiend40 · 09/04/2025 14:48

Rainingalldayonmyhead · 09/04/2025 14:45

So effectively you are okay with stealing?

I would never go into a shop with the intention of stealing, but if things land on my doorstep through no fault of my own, I honestly have no problem with that.

YellowSpotty · 09/04/2025 14:47

TheJollyMoose · 09/04/2025 12:40

They wouldn’t have to do anything. If you refused to send them back they would just charge you for it.

This is just not true.

I would return the items myself but it isn't theft and it is the responsibility of the company to arrange collection because they accidentally sent out items for free!

Wonderwhyibother · 09/04/2025 14:47

I recently placed an order for 4 items, received all 4 items then a couple of weeks later 1 of the items turned up again unexpected. I contacted the company asking what they would like me to do/how to return it and got a standard reply saying I had ordered it. Thinking they hadn't understood my email, I contacted them again trying to explain it better, but they were adamant that I had ordered it and they hadn't made a mistake. Checked my bank account, they hadn't charged for the extra one so kept it.

I would personally give them them a shout and go from there.