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What would you HONESTLY do in this situation?

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Friends1996 · 09/04/2025 12:24

Say you ordered a few items from a big online shop (clothing), then successfully cancelled the order, and was refunded.

A few days later, you ordered a single item of clothing from the same place. Today that item was delivered, however they had also sent the items you had cancelled and was refunded for (probably around £120 worth of stuff).

Would you contact them about it or would you keep quiet, see if they emailed you about it and if you didn’t hear anything say 3-4 weeks down the line, just keep the items as normal? This is a place you regularly order from, spending between £300-400 a month.

What would you HONESTLY do?

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Throwitaway12345 · 20/04/2025 07:35

I wouldn't have waited in all day for royal mail, to let a company recoup money from their own mistake! If they ever contact you again simply say you waited hours for them to be collected and they never were, so thanks for the clothes, as you offered them the opportunity to take them back and they didn't. It's really not your responsibility to fix their mistakes.

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 19/04/2025 17:41

Friends1996 · 19/04/2025 15:06

So a little update - if anyone cares 😂 - I emailed them about the error. They arranged for Royal Mail to collect the parcel and Royal Mail never turned up (after I waited in all morning!). Surely the items are fair game now? 🤷‍♀️😂

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I’d give it one week after they were supposed to collect. After that, fair game to use. You gave them ample opportunity to collect.

JustMyView13 · 19/04/2025 16:07

@Friends1996 I’d just wait for them to contact you at this point. Balls firmly in their court

ChocolateAddictAlways · 19/04/2025 15:18

mumindoghouse · 11/04/2025 18:24

This.
Happened to me too.(smaller sums)
Honesty the best & only policy.

Has happened to me also. When I contacted them and asked them to arrange a collection they let me keep the items. Seemed they didn’t want the hassle of arranging a courier. This has happened several times with several different brands.

Best to be honest and you never know, you may get a bonus reward 😂🥳

Friends1996 · 19/04/2025 15:06

So a little update - if anyone cares 😂 - I emailed them about the error. They arranged for Royal Mail to collect the parcel and Royal Mail never turned up (after I waited in all morning!). Surely the items are fair game now? 🤷‍♀️😂

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ChocolatesAndRainbows · 16/04/2025 08:00

I'd honestly send them back, I accidentally left an item under the buggy in waitrose paid for everything in my hands but forgot I'd put something under the buggy and so popped back and paid for it.

But I wouldn't blame you if you kept the items ether as you successfully got a refund etc they sent them in error. Just boils down to your own personal conscious.

AmIEnough · 16/04/2025 07:56

I bet this was Next. They have form…

Inmydreams88 · 11/04/2025 18:26

If you can afford to spend £400 on clothes every month then you can afford to be honest and tell them the mistake surely.

mumindoghouse · 11/04/2025 18:24

stretchitout · 09/04/2025 12:26

This did happen to me and I was honest. I was tempted not to be but in the end I had to be. And they let me have them free!

This.
Happened to me too.(smaller sums)
Honesty the best & only policy.

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 11/04/2025 18:05

Honestly, I would be honest, but I am a big believer in karma….

Juicey1992 · 11/04/2025 17:32

I'd be honest and contact them but only because I have appalling luck and would find myself with a debt collection letter or something.

Frillysweetpea · 11/04/2025 17:08

Pricing will be determined by a range of factors, particularly cost of raw materials, competition etc. It's really obvious from the large number of replies where people have been told to keep the goods that there is a margin for this type of error, already calculated and passed onto the consumer. Presumably because recovery costs would exceed the overall value of collecting misdirected goods. The consumer may as well benefit from their once in a blue moon experience because I just do not believe that declaring such cases is going to affect the pricing structure.

RawBloomers · 11/04/2025 16:45

Frillysweetpea · 10/04/2025 20:19

Sorry, not sorry. Its really up to the bigger companies to run themselves with as much care and efficiency as I took with my small business and for investors to sort the wheat from the chaff.

I didn’t suggest you should be sorry about anything. Your small business and a multinational are just as responsible for ensuring they get it right. I just pointed out that your implication that mistakes multinational companies made hurt only multimillionaires was not true. Regular people are hurt by such mistakes just as they are with small businesses.

Cicicampbell · 11/04/2025 15:56

Amazon sent me a car seat. I ordered one and 2 were sent to me. The kids opened it in the excitement, but I contacted them and was told to keep it. For some businesses I suppose it isn't worth it.

Frillysweetpea · 11/04/2025 09:38

Emeraldwitch · 10/04/2025 21:46

I would contact them. Something similar happened to m recently - I ordered a ring from Etsy. It didn't arrive within a week so I contacted the company, and they said could I give it 2 more days and if not here, they would send a replacement.

Replacement sent on the Thursday, arrived on the Saturday, only for the original one to arrive on the following Monday (original order matched RM tracking). I contacted the company and asked to return it or at least pay for the 2nd ring. I returned it to them because I'm an honest person, and believe in karma - not everyone does but I do.

I would do this with an Etsy purchase or similar as they are all small businesses and it would impact on the individuals otherwise.

TessTimoney · 11/04/2025 08:25

stretchitout · 09/04/2025 12:26

This did happen to me and I was honest. I was tempted not to be but in the end I had to be. And they let me have them free!

This happened to me with goods valued £480. Honesty brings rewards 😇

Seabreeze18 · 11/04/2025 08:02

When u steal from a large company it’s not the big bosses on millions that lose out! It’s the hardworking minions at the bottom! It’s also all of us in the end as the prices go up!
be honest and hope u get to keep the items!

Marchitectmummy · 11/04/2025 04:20

I would let them know too. I wouldn't feel comfortable not telling them. It would be on my mind.

Lulu49 · 10/04/2025 22:28

If you contact them they are likely to tell you just to keep them, their mistake.

Mackerelfillets · 10/04/2025 22:28

Something similar happened to me. Without warning I started receiving shoes and Doc Martins from people returning items from Ebay. I.contacted them and they told me to dispose of them as I wished. My daughter and many of her friends were delighted!! Eventually it stopped. For us it was a fab experience!!

farmlife2 · 10/04/2025 21:59

I would let them know. I wouldn't feel comfortable otherwise.

Every time I've been sent groceries in my delivery that were supposed to be for someone else, I've let the supermarket know. They always say to keep them but I still have to let them know or I feel like I'm being dishonest.

anon666 · 10/04/2025 21:48

A similar thing happened to me, nowhere near the same value. Also it was a gift, not for me, not my size, and too tiny to give to anyone else.

I essentially intended but forgot to return. I was super busy and am crap at returning things even at the best of times. At first I thought they'd ask for it back and that would have expedited it. But it never came, amd the guilt piled on.

That was 3 years ago. It's still on top of the wardrobe awaiting action.🙄

Emeraldwitch · 10/04/2025 21:46

I would contact them. Something similar happened to m recently - I ordered a ring from Etsy. It didn't arrive within a week so I contacted the company, and they said could I give it 2 more days and if not here, they would send a replacement.

Replacement sent on the Thursday, arrived on the Saturday, only for the original one to arrive on the following Monday (original order matched RM tracking). I contacted the company and asked to return it or at least pay for the 2nd ring. I returned it to them because I'm an honest person, and believe in karma - not everyone does but I do.

Carpedimum · 10/04/2025 21:30

A similar thing happened to my DS. He received a parcel from the large online fashion company containing 3 items none of which were what he ordered, so contacted them and because they had no record that matched, they did not want him send the goods back. His order was sent correctly the next day, super. We gave one of the unordered items to MIL, one to charity and the other we shared between us (big pack of socks!)

Pippyls67 · 10/04/2025 21:00

Tell them - no question.