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Going out shopping in your pyjamas

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NicolaDeLaHaye · 09/04/2025 11:40

AIBU to think it's lazy and slovenly?

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:18

BarneyRonson · 09/04/2025 13:16

You really don’t get it do you. If you start dressing like this in public so will all the Unsafe scumbags.

Dressing like what?
Loose patterned bottoms and co -ordinating t-shirt.
Oh the horrors......

AlwaysPerfumed · 09/04/2025 13:18

@Needmorelego If you "wanna" (says it all) wear pyjamas because jeans are uncomfortable, then crack on but the next time you are slouching around the shops, have a look at the clothing department-there are other alternatives to jeans...even in Primark.

That said, choose your shop-many won't allow pyjama clad people to use their changing rooms. Quite right in my opinion.

You are a symptom of the times-even referring to yourself as sweaty and overweight as you wander around in public in your pyjamas- and nothing anyone will say will change your attitude.

You paint a delightful picture of yourself. Soap, water and deodorant are all here to stay-there is no excuse for foisting your sweat on others!

Women have always been overweight, always menopausal-there is no need to haul your sweaty self about in pyjamas. How awful for you.

You either have self respect and respect for society or you don't. There are many of you-a growing group- and that's why threads berating those who pull society down will always crop up.

Comedycook · 09/04/2025 13:17

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:14

@Comedycook yes I do have a few pairs of haram pants but if you place them together with my various pj bottoms you couldn't really tell which are which.
They are pretty much the same thing.

There is a fine line between lounge wear and actual pjs....plain coloured, stretchy bottoms don't necessarily look like pjs, they just look like ordinary casual wear. Actual pjs with patterns on are a different matter! I once saw an entire family at the petrol station in proper pjs and dressing gowns..it was quite a sight

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:17

Well I am off to catch a train.
I am currently wearing a pair of elasticated waist loose bottoms I bought off a sale rail in Pep and Co.
They were a lone random pair.
I have no idea if they are actually pj bottoms or casual trousers.
I hope no one on the train is offended 😂

StrangerThings1 · 09/04/2025 13:17

MaggieBsBoat · 09/04/2025 11:42

I don’t care how anyone dresses when they go shopping as long as they are clean (so not smelly) and not showing too many body parts or privates. Sometimes life is too short to get dressed. I use to go the cinema in my jimjams all the time. Fun.

So they are wearing the same clothes that the slept in so it is extremely unlikely that they showered that morning, also are they even wearing underwear so their unwashed body parts are directly next to their clothing…..smelly, lazy and slovenly, a person who can’t be bothered to dress properly ( non sleepwear) can’t be bothered to do a lot of other things in life either

When I see people wearing pyjamas outside I always presume they are also unemployed and on benefits, If they can’t get their act together enough to put on proper clothing it’s unlikely they could be bothered or could get their act together enough to get a job either….

Say a lot about that person,

Exception is that I might find it acceptable with parents doing a school drop off in the morning if they didn’t leave the car or people putting out the bins…..it only takes a few seconds to put on a pair of leggings though

BarneyRonson · 09/04/2025 13:16

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 12:49

Most men don't actually wear PJ's.

You really don’t get it do you. If you start dressing like this in public so will all the Unsafe scumbags.

EnjoyingTheArmoire · 09/04/2025 13:16

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:09

@AlwaysPerfumed glad to be of assistance 😂
My mindset is I need to be comfortable in my overweight and sweaty menopausal body.
The clothes I wear are always clean.
They just happen to generally be sold in the pj section of Primark.

You should try the Menopause clothing in Primark

sweeneytoddsrazor · 09/04/2025 13:15

Would those happy to wear PJs out or happy for others to, be happy if the supermarket workers were wearing their PJs

StarStay · 09/04/2025 13:15

What are you classing as PJs?
Are you including loungewear in that (like joggers?)

I've definitely walked about the supermarket in loungewear before

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:14

@Comedycook yes I do have a few pairs of haram pants but if you place them together with my various pj bottoms you couldn't really tell which are which.
They are pretty much the same thing.

Comedycook · 09/04/2025 13:11

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:10

Like what?
Seriously I struggle.
Formal trousers also hurt my stomach.
I am short so dresses and skirts look ridiculous on me.
Trackies are usually to hot.

I wear harem pants...my favourite are from next and they have an elasticated waist...they are fab

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:10

Comedycook · 09/04/2025 13:07

I never wear jeans....hate them. There's all manner of proper clothes you can wear instead

Like what?
Seriously I struggle.
Formal trousers also hurt my stomach.
I am short so dresses and skirts look ridiculous on me.
Trackies are usually to hot.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:09

@AlwaysPerfumed glad to be of assistance 😂
My mindset is I need to be comfortable in my overweight and sweaty menopausal body.
The clothes I wear are always clean.
They just happen to generally be sold in the pj section of Primark.

Arraminta · 09/04/2025 13:07

Of course. And this is why I drive 12 miles to shop at Waitrose rather than use our local, vast Asda which should have above the entrance "Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter Here."

Comedycook · 09/04/2025 13:07

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:04

Jeans are painful on my stomach.
Sweatshirts are too hot for me.
If I wanna wear elasticated loose bottoms and a t-shirt (aka PJ's) then why shouldn't I?

I never wear jeans....hate them. There's all manner of proper clothes you can wear instead

Bluecheesebonkers · 09/04/2025 13:06

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:04

Jeans are painful on my stomach.
Sweatshirts are too hot for me.
If I wanna wear elasticated loose bottoms and a t-shirt (aka PJ's) then why shouldn't I?

Aha, I see your problem. You have bought clothes that don’t fit.

AlwaysPerfumed · 09/04/2025 13:05

Interesting @Needmorelego that you jump to the other extreme. There is a very very wide space in between wearing pyjamas in the street and being unable to go out with a designer label.

I'm guessing you're a pyjama wearer. Interesting to have an insight into the mind set.

soninthesun · 09/04/2025 13:04

I wouldn’t personally but I do me, then I don’t judge others for doing them.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:04

aveeva · 09/04/2025 13:02

So there are people who would make the effort to iron their pyjamas, yet changing into a pair of jeans plus sweatshirt or whatever is too much work?

Jeans are painful on my stomach.
Sweatshirts are too hot for me.
If I wanna wear elasticated loose bottoms and a t-shirt (aka PJ's) then why shouldn't I?

aveeva · 09/04/2025 13:04

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:01

I find people that can't bare to leave the house without a face full of make up, fancy nails and wearing "labels" because they feel they have to "fit in" more depressing tbh.

One can find both depressing. Personally, I don’t even wear makeup, never mind a full face of it, and don’t care about labels.

Bluecheesebonkers · 09/04/2025 13:03

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:01

I find people that can't bare to leave the house without a face full of make up, fancy nails and wearing "labels" because they feel they have to "fit in" more depressing tbh.

Yes, that too. I find puffy lips and orange foundation sad. Like you have lost all sense of proportion due to the need to look a certain way, but there is a middle ground. It’s called putting on a pair of clean jeans and a jumper before you come downstairs in the morning. It’s not hard.

FastnetLundyRockall · 09/04/2025 13:03

I viewed a house once which was ok ish, but a woman in pyjamas and dressing gown walking out a few doors down brought out my inner Hyacinth and was one of the reasons I didn’t offer. It just looks scuzzy.

Comedycook · 09/04/2025 13:03

It is depressing...it's like a sign you've given up any semblance of leading a respectable life

aveeva · 09/04/2025 13:02

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 11:53

@BarneyRonson Is it "scummy" if they are a clean and freshly ironed pair?

So there are people who would make the effort to iron their pyjamas, yet changing into a pair of jeans plus sweatshirt or whatever is too much work?

K0OLA1D · 09/04/2025 13:02

Bluecheesebonkers · 09/04/2025 11:49

100% agree. There is nothing more slovenly than lingering in your pjs. Grim. Why do people not think more of themselves? Why do they have such poor personal standards. It’s disgusting. If I saw someone sat next to me in the cinema in PJs I’d ask for a refund.

You know what's grim? Attitudes like yours. That's grim.

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