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Going out shopping in your pyjamas

233 replies

NicolaDeLaHaye · 09/04/2025 11:40

AIBU to think it's lazy and slovenly?

OP posts:
NC28 · 09/04/2025 13:41

AlwaysPerfumed · 09/04/2025 13:38

@Needmorelego Did you wear something else to your dad's funeral out of respect for him?
Why didn't you wear your pyjamas-you know with you being so overweight, menopausal and sweaty. Surely your dad would have understood.

Why did you suddenly feel they were inappropriate?

I'm pleased you showed respect for your dad. Now, do you think you could extend that respect to the rest of society.

Edited

I love the polite yet scathing tone of this.

Agree completely, society would appreciate not seeing the PJs.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:38

@BarneyRonson men don't usually wear flowery patterned loose trousers with co-ordinating t-shirts though so why would they do that just because some women choose to do so?
Very odd thinking.

HÆLTHEPAIN · 09/04/2025 13:38

Bluecheesebonkers · 09/04/2025 11:49

100% agree. There is nothing more slovenly than lingering in your pjs. Grim. Why do people not think more of themselves? Why do they have such poor personal standards. It’s disgusting. If I saw someone sat next to me in the cinema in PJs I’d ask for a refund.

I love nothing more than getting a shower and putting on clean, fresh pjs when I’m having a can’t do much day.

I don’t go out in them though.

AlwaysPerfumed · 09/04/2025 13:38

@Needmorelego Did you wear something else to your dad's funeral out of respect for him?
Why didn't you wear your pyjamas-you know with you being so overweight, menopausal and sweaty. Surely your dad would have understood.

Why did you suddenly feel they were inappropriate?

I'm pleased you showed respect for your dad. Now, do you think you could extend that respect to the rest of society.

ChompandaGrazia · 09/04/2025 13:37

I get dressed every day, and leave the house every day, unless I am desperately ill. I think that doing any more than nipping to the corner shop in your pyjamas shows a lack of self care and self worth. However, that is my opinion.

I also think that grown men dressed in grey tracksuits head to toe with the hood up look stupid and that leggings are not trousers. Again, it’s my opinion. Yes someone wearing their PJs in the street doesn’t cause me any problems but I think they must have low self worth.

BarneyRonson · 09/04/2025 13:35

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:18

Dressing like what?
Loose patterned bottoms and co -ordinating t-shirt.
Oh the horrors......

Fine. Enjoy the society you create, enjoy men in pyjama trousers in your local park. Oh the freedom of creeps everywhere ignoring silly old dress codes designed for silly old respect and silly old decency. Oh the horrors of people assuming they could keep the lid on male sexual crassnesss to some degree, with social codes. How stupid everyone has been, for so long. Thank god for the supreme intelligence now of pyjamas in public.

funinthesun19 · 09/04/2025 13:35

I never understand the over the top anger about pyjamas. Some people need to calm down.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:34

@AlwaysPerfumed If I didn't bother to get dressed I'd still be in my nightie with no knickers 😂
And no.....I didn't go to my Dad's funeral in my pyjamas.
He was buried in an old favourite faded t-shirt and trackies though because that was what he liked to wear.
So .... whatever.

AlwaysPerfumed · 09/04/2025 13:31

@Needmorelego You yourself said you were sweaty! Does your sweat smell of roses? Unlikely.

Do you go to work in your pyjamas? Would you go to a funeral in your pyjamas? Would you go to a wedding in your pyjamas?

Do you think you are the only menopausal overweight sweaty woman in the history of humanity?

No wonder people describe people being emboldened to curse, spit, litter and even shit in the street when middle aged women can't be bothered to get dressed.

There is no excuse.

Anyway, none of this will make any impression on you. I feel quite sad for you-what a life where you can't even be bothered to get dressed.

Bluecheesebonkers · 09/04/2025 13:31

ouch321 · 09/04/2025 13:21

This makes me laugh and shows what poor logic people on Mumsnet tend to have.

Pyjamas are literally just comfortable and more cutesey/fun clothes.

Person 1 goes to the shop wearing a pair of navy trousers and a white t-shirt. Per Mumsnet all well and good.

Person 2 also goes to the shops but their trousers and top, although in the same colours, also have the word 'Sweet Dreams' printed on them. Per Mumsnet this is now outrageous and horrifying.

It’s just really scuzzy and says a lot about that person and their values.

soninthesun · 09/04/2025 13:28

sweeneytoddsrazor · 09/04/2025 13:15

Would those happy to wear PJs out or happy for others to, be happy if the supermarket workers were wearing their PJs

Wouldn’t bother me, at least they turned up for work.

StrangerThings1 · 09/04/2025 13:28

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:17

Well I am off to catch a train.
I am currently wearing a pair of elasticated waist loose bottoms I bought off a sale rail in Pep and Co.
They were a lone random pair.
I have no idea if they are actually pj bottoms or casual trousers.
I hope no one on the train is offended 😂

It’s easy to tell the difference between people wearing actual pyjama bottoms that they have slept in and the trend now for ‘pyjama looking ‘ pants that have been a trend for a while

NC28 · 09/04/2025 13:27

PrettayGood · 09/04/2025 13:26

I think it’s incredibly skanky and I’ve only ever seen it in skanky areas.

Exactly. We can all picture the generic person who wears their pyjamas to go to Tesco. If AI created the person, I know exactly what they’d look like. 😂

SpikyCoconut · 09/04/2025 13:26

Corinthiana · 09/04/2025 11:53

Properly means clothes appropriate for daytime.
Pyjamas are not a "top and trousers".
They are nightwear.

So okay to shop at a supermarket in them as long as It's at night?

It wouldn't bother me other than I'd probably find it a bit funny.

I go shopping in a pink tracksuit that I wear for the gym sometimes if I go on the way home. Might look like pjamas.

PrettayGood · 09/04/2025 13:26

I think it’s incredibly skanky and I’ve only ever seen it in skanky areas.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:26

This thread is hilarious.
We get one of these a week though so I don't really have much more to add.
Gotta catch a train....
Bye all.
#teampyjama

Kaftanesque · 09/04/2025 13:26

I have a dogs to walk.Get up and get dressed in my dog walking gear -the woods are often muddy -come back .Shower and change .Then later in day if going out on a longer walk change again .Then back into other clothes.How long does it take to pull on some pants and a top ?yes it's lazy to shop in pj's.Just like its lazy to chuck litter rather than find a bin.Call me old fashioned don't care.I love my pj's in the evening when I'm done for the day .The I don't care what others think sums it up doesn't it ?

NC28 · 09/04/2025 13:24

Tramp-like behaviour. No excuse for it at all.

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:24

@ouch321 exactly 😁

CurlewKate · 09/04/2025 13:23

I wear legging and a tee shirt as pyjamas. A sweatshirt if it’s cold. How would you know whether they were pyjamas or day clothes?

Needmorelego · 09/04/2025 13:23

@AlwaysPerfumed excuse me !
I am overweight and sweaty because I am menopausal and a few other health reasons.
Should I not leave the house because I am feeling warm?
I am ALWAYS clean and fresh smelling.
One of my hobbies is taking a bath 😂
I love it when I get "smellies" for Christmas.
I mostly wear loose bottoms - some from the pj section, some from the trouser section plus t-shirts (again from either department).
Oh and if I wanna use the word "wanna" I will.
😂😂

Saveafun · 09/04/2025 13:21

It's not something I for fear of being judged by people like you, but I don't think most are wearing PJs they slept in, do people even wear PJs to sleep now we have warm houses?

Now, in my advancing years, I have come to realise that far to many people have unbearably difficult lives, that those of us living without abuse, addiction, poverty, can't begin to imagine. If they've managed to get themselves to the supermarket, why would you add your judgement to their burden?

ouch321 · 09/04/2025 13:21

This makes me laugh and shows what poor logic people on Mumsnet tend to have.

Pyjamas are literally just comfortable and more cutesey/fun clothes.

Person 1 goes to the shop wearing a pair of navy trousers and a white t-shirt. Per Mumsnet all well and good.

Person 2 also goes to the shops but their trousers and top, although in the same colours, also have the word 'Sweet Dreams' printed on them. Per Mumsnet this is now outrageous and horrifying.

Riapia · 09/04/2025 13:20

How times change.
My DM wouldn’t have gone to the corner shop without makeup on……and of course heels.

Tourmalines · 09/04/2025 13:19

Who the hell goes out wearing their pyjamas ! Totally off .

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