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To think of myself as a girl at 50? [Light-hearted]

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 03:27

Well, I'm sorry, but I do. I don't think I've aged much at all - I don't look much different from when I was 28 I think, (🤭) and I looked girlish then. I'd rather be a girl, which has connotations of freedom and fun, than a woman, which has connotations of too much responsibility!

I think being called a girl is a big compliment. It means you look young. It's equivalent in the States to being called Miss instead of Ma'am. The dreaded ma'am!!!

This thread has been inspired by another thread where the OP says he's confused by a girl at work, who is 41. Some posters objected to any female over the age of 18 being called a girl.

Well, I'll still be identifying as a girl when I'm 80, probably!

Older celebrity women around my age who I think of as girls:
Kate Moss
Jennifer Aniston
Victoria Beckham

In my mind, the above and me are all still 28 but could pass for much younger. 😂😂😂

It's a good day when I'm referred to as a girl. 🤪 Also - and this is the most important part - even though my parents are dead and I'm post-menopausal, I FEEL like a girl!

So, AIBU??

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:51

I'm not giving up my glitter hairspray, anyway. Don't care how old I get.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:50

BlondiePortz · 09/04/2025 04:42

It makes me think of the what I think is the constant infantising of women where they cant think for themselves and need a man to do the thinking for them, wasting your time with an unsuitable man ''it's ok it is not your fault you cant be blamed it if just your girlieness' have a baby with someone you know for 2 weeks 'its ok blame him for the decision'

any lots of other ideas and thoughts male related or not sure use the word 'girl' but wake up and act like the grown woman you are, just aimed at 'girl' in general

I know that's how lots of women see it, and I can see that. I just have really positive associations with being called a girl, for some reason. Maybe because I was much happier when I was 17.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:49

333FionaG · 09/04/2025 03:35

Sometimes it can be insulting to be referred to as a girl. But there will always be women who like to call themselves girls, regardless of whether they’re 16 or 65. I’m not particularly bothered but then again I’m pretty sure no one thinks I’m 28.

I have vague memories of being annoyed at being referred to as a girl when I was much younger, but at my age, it's a compliment!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:47

Doingtheboxerbeat · 09/04/2025 03:36

🍿💅🤗.

She gets it!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:46

MaggieBsBoat · 09/04/2025 04:41

I’m in my fifties and am mentally about 16 so I am with you OP. Sometimes I am doing something which is very adult and I surprise myself. I am very accomplished and people look to me for insight in things and I am shocked that anyone takes me seriously after all I am only 16!!

Well, if you're 16, then it's past your bedtime, young lady! 😂

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:45

Overtheatlantic · 09/04/2025 03:51

You do you. I’m a woman and find the word and status empowering. It speaks of breasts, monthly cycles, chin hair, worry about white trousers, sneezing with legs crossed, and so on.

Oh Christ, I have all those things, except I'm too old to have to worry about the white trousers!

I think being a girl is a state of mind. It retains the essence of who you were before post-menopausal bladder issues, frozen shoulder, divorce, and gawd knows what else. It says, "I remain young inside!"

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:42

GaspingGekko · 09/04/2025 03:54

Do you think of 28 year old men as boys too?

At my age, yes! 😂

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BlondiePortz · 09/04/2025 04:42

It makes me think of the what I think is the constant infantising of women where they cant think for themselves and need a man to do the thinking for them, wasting your time with an unsuitable man ''it's ok it is not your fault you cant be blamed it if just your girlieness' have a baby with someone you know for 2 weeks 'its ok blame him for the decision'

any lots of other ideas and thoughts male related or not sure use the word 'girl' but wake up and act like the grown woman you are, just aimed at 'girl' in general

MaggieBsBoat · 09/04/2025 04:41

I’m in my fifties and am mentally about 16 so I am with you OP. Sometimes I am doing something which is very adult and I surprise myself. I am very accomplished and people look to me for insight in things and I am shocked that anyone takes me seriously after all I am only 16!!

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:41

DastardlyPigeon · 09/04/2025 03:37

It's one thing to say you're going on a girls' night out or you're going on a girls' holiday but to call yourself a girl is a bit desperate.

You are woman - let me hear you roar!

Can I do a cute girly roar? 😂 Like this young lion?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/SqGfCz8o11Q

I am desperate. Happy to reveal all my desperation bc I don't care what anyone thinks!

Oh fack. Maybe I am a woman after all.

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:35

TheaBrandt1 · 09/04/2025 03:53

You need to let it go op.

Let what go? The dream of eternal youth? Never! 😂

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ThisFluentBiscuit · 09/04/2025 04:34

Overtheatlantic · 09/04/2025 03:51

You do you. I’m a woman and find the word and status empowering. It speaks of breasts, monthly cycles, chin hair, worry about white trousers, sneezing with legs crossed, and so on.

I've got a white chin hair that I have to keep plucking. I call it Horace.

I'M STILL A GIRL! 😂

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MrsFezziwig · 09/04/2025 04:34

I looked up some recent photos of the people you mention (since reading Hello! magazine is not really my thing) and I don’t think any of them look 28, let alone younger, and I wouldn’t describe any of them as “girls”.
Among friends we would refer to each other as girls, but that’s more a term of endearment than an expression of the idea that we still look the same as we did when we were 28.

GaspingGekko · 09/04/2025 03:54

Do you think of 28 year old men as boys too?

TheaBrandt1 · 09/04/2025 03:53

You need to let it go op.

Overtheatlantic · 09/04/2025 03:51

You do you. I’m a woman and find the word and status empowering. It speaks of breasts, monthly cycles, chin hair, worry about white trousers, sneezing with legs crossed, and so on.

DastardlyPigeon · 09/04/2025 03:37

It's one thing to say you're going on a girls' night out or you're going on a girls' holiday but to call yourself a girl is a bit desperate.

You are woman - let me hear you roar!

Doingtheboxerbeat · 09/04/2025 03:36

🍿💅🤗.

333FionaG · 09/04/2025 03:35

Sometimes it can be insulting to be referred to as a girl. But there will always be women who like to call themselves girls, regardless of whether they’re 16 or 65. I’m not particularly bothered but then again I’m pretty sure no one thinks I’m 28.