To think of myself as a girl at 50? [Light-hearted]

It definitely seems to be a girl thing to use fack, feck or f*ck when you really mean fuck!

Haha, I was furious the time I got called 'Madame' in France after numerous holidays always getting called 'Mademoiselle'.

Can't speak for the OP, but I absolutely do. I'm 49 and at a pub quiz with some friends last week said to the quizmaster "That boy over there will come and give you our team's entry fee in a minute". The 'boy' in question is 30 years old and has a wife and a child.

My mum will often describe her peers as 'girls'. Eg 'Did I tell you I met up with my cousin Christine last week? It must be ten years since I last saw her. We had a great time, she's a lovely girl'. Mum and Christine are both 80.

Couple of years off 40.

I don't want to sound older than I am. My brain is appalled that my body hasn't stayed as young as it should have 😆

If I was dating, I'd want to be a girlfriend, not a ladyfriend. Urgh.

I don't understand the problem. I go out with the girls too, and not one of them has mentioned that we should change it to 'the ladies' or 'the women'.

I have actually grown up and have many responsibilities and a career, so I wouldn't assume somebody was infantising me. I don't need to prove myself to anyone.

I saw the same thread and couldn't believe how many comments were about the word 'girl'. It's a word. I am a female, woman, girl - they are all the same thing.

But we don't worry when people can decide they are now a robot (or whatever else you may fancy).

At least I am a girl 🤷‍♀️

Words are funny old things and mean different things to different people.

I’m one of those who ‘go out with the girls’ however if someone asked me I’d say I was female and swerve both girl and woman!

To me girl represents young, which I’m not and woman I can’t get Tarzan/caveman out of my head ‘me man, you woman!’ Which makes me cringe.

I also hate that both female and woman have male/man in them, whereas girl has no male connotations. I’m also northern so use lads and lasses more often than not.

I don't equate actual girls as silly, superficial and frivolous.

But the whole premise of the thread is based on the stereotypes and those are phrases which come to my mind when I think of grown women who choose to think of themselves as girls.

I’m still a girl at 64 - feck those who judge!!

Oops that shld read Madame (with the e) in French!

I think the true guage of if you really are viewed as a girl still is to see how others refer to you! You may think you’re this carefree “girl” not changed much since your 20’s but it’s quickly dispelled when the retail assistant/waiter/other reminds you “We’re closing soon madam!” & the delusion bubble is truly burst. I remember it all the more for some reason from times in France where I was (what felt like all of a sudden) no longer “ a madmoiselle” or “jeune fille” but “madam”. Even though I dislike the derogatory use of “girl” I still viewed & saw myself & others as that, when it suited me. Fairweather feminist that I am!

I’m the opposite I hate being reference to as a girl or the girls. I push back when it happens that I’m a grown up not a child

hey Ho each to their own

It's just a figure of speech really.
Yes officially girls and boys are under 18, but my Nan went "out with the girls" twice a month until one by one they died or were incapable in their 70s and 80s.
My friends and I have girls weekends and nights out, we are all heading towards 60.
DH goes to Download with the boys or a night out with the lads. The oldest is a grandfather in his mid 60s.
Doesn't actually mean anything

I am enjoying your energy OP!

One thing I have observed is that the females in my life who are in their fifties and definitely more girls than the females in my life who are mid 30s/early 40s (I fall in to the latter age group) makes me look forward to getting older tbh

Girls are young, immature, inexperienced, often naive. Because they are young.
Woman on the other hand are mature, experienced, wise. Because they are adults, who have been knocking around for a while. They are also fun, sexy, playful, joyful and a million and one other fabulous things, but they bring with it all that lovely depth of womanhood. Why would you want to minimise all of those years of experiences, memories, lessons learned to cling on to 'being a girl'?!

I think you are delusional to think you look 28
need photo! Also who cares , hate agism

Its interesting and a bit sad that the word girl has such negative associations of silliness, being coqettish, coy, frivolous and so on. Its the word for our daughters and our young selves. If it conjures up for you visions of pink giggly fluff, wanting to attract male attention and light weight interests, then you need to check your stereotypes. It could just as easily mean feeling young, fit, vibrant, with possibilities and opportunities ahead.

This reminds me of that Finley Christie but where he talks about being a man Vs being a boy
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I know that the OP wants this to be a light hearted thread but I think that it's a bit odd to want to think of yourself as a girl.

Like a pp, I'm ok with the terms girls night out and girls holiday. My 80+ year old mum talks about "meeting the girls" for coffee and that's fine.

But I would never want to think of myself as a girl. I equate it with being silly, superficial and frivolous. Fine if that's how others want to be/see themselves but I would hate it.

I don't see being a woman as being burdened with cares and responsibilities. I see it as being strong, fierce and independent.

I'm a middle aged woman and very content with that. Since becoming involved with women's rights campaigning a few years ago, I have met so many amazing women and the word has become very important to me.

Oh really! I think you protest too Much!

I don't like being old. Its fucking horrible!

Who wouldn't rather being young again?