To think I'm not the only one who went to heal and now doesn't want a relationship at all

At this point in my life, a man would be in direct competition with my sense of peace.

Oh yes a woman couldn't possibly be happy unless she has a man in her life. What a load of sexist bullshit. I think women in general are happy without a man to complicate things. Enjoy your single life!

I am 13 years on and have not and have no intention of ever having another relationship. I don’t get the ‘you’ll change your mind’ thing as often these days but it does happen. But I just have zero interest in it. I like my own space and my own company, I don’t have any desire for sex and I’m much happier alone than I ever was with a husband.

I have a friend who divorced; ten years ago they split and she said she would never be interested in anyone else (she is a practising catholic which I think is part of it). I said something soothing at the time like things were raw now and never say never but she was adamant. A decade on she’s still happily single. Go your own way OP!

I think we’re just conditioned to think you’ve got to be with someone & if you say otherwise it’s as if you either don’t know your own mind or you’re just being stubborn or difficult even in some way. I think like a PP said that the ones that deny your feelings the most on this are literally incapable of conceptualising themselves (& anyone else) as individual separate beings who don’t need another person in order to be happy, or even just to be. I think when they say it it’s well intentioned but similar to the talk that can happen when women voice not wanting children or don’t want another child. People try & tell you that you’ll come round to their way of thinking soon enough as if there’s a universal code of how everyone must be & feel. Herd mentality I guess. It’s frustrating! I think it’s bcos we’re social animals & at a primal level isolation isn’t good for us. But you can feel horribly isolated & alone when in (an unhappy) marriage or relationship & yet somehow that’s considered more socially acceptable than your own true wellbeing. Sod what others say & think! Do what makes you happy & don’t apologise for it.

You're not unreasonable OP.

I've been on my own longer than you. I've found that while DS is at school and I am working as only breadwinner, I didn't want anyone either. I am busy, enjoying raising my child and fulfilled at work. I don't have time for a new relationship.

Maybe when DS has left home, the mortgage is paid and I have time to focus on a relationship, I'll look again, but right now, what would a man add to our lives?

Right now everything is in your control and as you want it. Make no apologies for that! Your DD is only 7. These are precious years. If you want to have those with her without the potential complications of someone else then that’s perfectly admirable.
i find people who are always promoting finding someone are those people who believe that someone else is the source of their happiness because they are deeply unhappy/insecure with themselves.
Reading your OP gave me the opposite sense. Go you!

I’m with you 💪🏻

Who are these people and why does their perspective matter?