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To think our towns and cities are just so run down lately, and our standard of living has decreased significantly?

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blahhhhg · 08/04/2025 16:42

I don't know if I'm just feeling a bit down and bitter lately but I just feel like lately our country seems to have gotten very run down. I went out into town today and couldn't help but notice how grotty and rundown everything looks. Litter everywhere, security guards everywhere - in nearly every clothing shop there is security on the door now, security wandering up and down the high street. It makes you feel really unsafe but they must be there for a reason now? Shops are dirty; filthy floors and used Starbucks cups just left off the shelf for some poor worker to clean up. Clothes for sale that are covered in makeup stains. I just found it really depressing. It's just not one town either, I've noticed it nearly everywhere I've been. I'm in my late 20s so it's not like I've had decades of life experience to draw from and I have a rose-tinted view of yesteryear, but it seems that in the last 5ish years things have really declined.

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CrispEater2000 · 09/04/2025 11:09

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 10:52

@CrispEater2000 I’m horrified it was ever ‘brought in’. - where’s the incentive to recruit if you can just get folks for free- and how can you actually be looking for paid work whilst working elsewhere? Don’t apologise, bloody hard to keep up and some of the press only emphasise stuff that fits their agenda.

Thanks. My knowledge comes from a family member who was sent on back to work schemes after being out of work for a while. They were bright and did want to work, but found age and being out of work for a while raising kids went against them.

Poundland and other retailers who participated said they didn't use unpaid workers to replace recruiting employed staff, but I'm not so sure on that one.

The family member who told me about it said it was put to her on the premise there could be employment at the end of it, but that was rare given the retailer could just rely on another cohort coming through.

To be fair I'm glad to read that's stopped now.

Psvhwt · 09/04/2025 10:56

I get the feeling that whilst wealthy places or those with lots of tourists are still fine, the rest aren't.

We live in one of the nicest parts, tiny, parts of South East London and it's as nicas and lovely in the 90s. However, elsewhere is still grim or getting grimmer.

Been to York and Oxford, and again both seem fine in the center. Last time I went to Manchester I was quite taken aback by how much worse it has got over the last few years. It's very depressing.

I do feel embarrassed when our European friends come over, fine our part is ok, central London is sort of fine but wouldn't want them to go to that many other places as it does get pretty grim, pretty quickly.

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 10:52

@CrispEater2000 I’m horrified it was ever ‘brought in’. - where’s the incentive to recruit if you can just get folks for free- and how can you actually be looking for paid work whilst working elsewhere? Don’t apologise, bloody hard to keep up and some of the press only emphasise stuff that fits their agenda.

CrispEater2000 · 09/04/2025 10:50

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 08:35

@CrispEater2000 I missed that one- where did you get that nonsense from?

Not nonsense but it does look like the scheme has been scrapped since my knowledge of it, see my previous post, I do apologise for not keeping up to date with policy on that one.

stargazingortryingto · 09/04/2025 10:49

User46576 · 08/04/2025 23:45

No, it’s primarily because our population has aged significantly. The fact we don’t subsidize vastly inefficient public owned industries anymore is an improvement in the public finances not a worsening. The public sector tend to do a very poor job of running businesses- we are all wealthier thanks to privatization.

I think the real issue is widening inequality in our society. At the same time as our population has aged, the wealthiest have become incredibly wealthy. One of the reasons people are not having children is because they feel they can’t afford it. Perhaps the issue is not so much that there are more older people, but that more and more assets are concentrated in fewer hands, leaving most of us to scrap over the crumbs.

I don’t agree that the private sector is by definition better at running businesses. I don’t think the public sector was worse at running water companies than the private sector have turned out to be. I don’t recall there being poo in our rivers when I was a child. Some things should not be privatised, and I think basic state infrastructure is one of those things.

CrispEater2000 · 09/04/2025 10:47

Sidebeforeself · 09/04/2025 08:18

No they don’t ! There’s nothing s no such scheme that forces people to work for free

OK so it does look like the scheme was stopped and made voluntary after this legal claim. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/feb/12/graduate-poundland-government-work-schemes

So while the person received benefits, technically not working for "free", Poundland (and other companies) were receiving free staffing.

While I'm not against people doing something useful to continue to receive benefits, in the right circumstances, it should be for the benefit of local communities and not private companies.

Graduate's Poundland victory leaves government work schemes in tatters

Court backs Cait Reilly's claim, with judges ruling that work and pensions secretary acted unlawfully over unpaid work

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/feb/12/graduate-poundland-government-work-schemes

Echobelly · 09/04/2025 09:41

JacquesHarlow · 08/04/2025 17:28

It’s also worth me sharing the obvious which is that Amazon and friends have been allowed to set up shop and pay 0% tax due to their clever corporate structure..

Meanwhile the effect this has on medium income to low income areas becomes staggering

Hardware stores, clothing stores, electronic shops, department stores, all closing. this has a knock on effect for other shops which fed off this ecosystem.

For towns and villages which have people with discretionary income who want to buy hand made clothing and expensive food, they will still thrive because people will use it or lose it.

But overall, the lack of government policy on Amazon and its contemporaries is staggering.

imagine if Amazon was taxed properly and the money reinvested in high streets

Yes, letting billionaires and hugely profitable corporations off the hook is hollowing out national wealth and that of the middle classes.

Honestly I used up think it a bit 'turkeys voting for Christmas' someone like me being anticapitalist but now it's just starting to seem sensible. DH and I are still doing OK kind of despite the system but our kids' future is screwed unless things change massively.

lowlight · 09/04/2025 09:36

I was in central London recently and thought how clean and smart it was compared to Bristol where we have littering, rubbish, potholes, unkept and scrufft green spaces / trees. Outside of the town - more littering and fly tipping is quite normal

More dog shit in London though..

OxfordInkling · 09/04/2025 09:28

i barely went out when we had to wear masks as I found them so uncomfortable to deal with as my glasses were always misting up. By the time I started venturing out more again the high st decline was in full swing.
Everything has felt harder work - things needed prebooking, everything is going cashless, you can’t browse shops in the way you could when I was a teen as there are hardly any shops to browse now so feels like a wasted effort to wander around town.

Completely agree. Masks were hideous for those with glasses, so I just didn’t go out/use the shops. And now they say it was pointless anyway. Great.

And all spontaneity vanished. I can’t just decide to go swimming - I have to prebook online and if I try to just walk up the cashiers look at me like I have two heads. I can’t just go to a restaurant and be assured of getting a table if one is free - often you have to pre book and half the time I then have to order using my phone.

I’m hard of hearing, so trying to understand cashiers behind Perspex is a nightmare, so I just feel unwelcome and unhappy. That’s if there’s a cashier at all - often I’m in a shop desperately trying to figure out the self service till (which I’m ok with in a supermarket but in a clothes shop I inevitably can’t find the security tags or just can’t get the damn things off anyway).

We are fortunate to still have decent shops/a good range, but it’s so stressful to deal with as an experience, I’d rather peacefully shop online and have it sent to me.

Unless it’s books. Those shops are still nice and have real tills with people at them. I’ll spend half a day in those.

Tumbleweed101 · 09/04/2025 08:51

The biggest jump has been since Covid lockdowns. There was a trickle towards things been less good before then but Covid really let the deluge free.

I think having those few years where people went out less pushed more people to shop online and the increase in rates the shops have had to pay means they aren’t affordable to keep open.

I barely went out when we had to wear masks as I found them so uncomfortable to deal with as my glasses were always misting up. By the time I started venturing out more again the high st decline was in full swing.

Everything has felt harder work - things needed prebooking, everything is going cashless, you can’t browse shops in the way you could when I was a teen as there are hardly any shops to browse now so feels like a wasted effort to wander around town.

I think the biggest problem was cost of living coming right on the back of Covid restrictions ending. Brexit was done at a really bad time as it was done at the end of Covid where the whole world had changed at once. We had too many changes in one go and still finding our way through.

MarkWithaC · 09/04/2025 08:45

violetsorrengail · 08/04/2025 20:58

Buxton however, has always been a bit of an odd place for shops. It was quite bleak when I last visited about twenty five years ago.

But it has such lovely things and so much potential. Last time I went there was a café in the Glass pavilion by the Opera house. Beautiful structure, but the café was a very desultory canteen-type one. In that setting, they could go full Georgian and do lovely afternoon teas and things. Surely it would be a money spinner?

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 08:43

@TempestTost I don’t want cheap food - so maybe ‘not all’ - I want good quality food and am not wealthy but I meal plan well and don’t buy snacks or junk as no kids at home anymore

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 08:40

@taxguru don’t you remember Johnson going on about ‘curry chefs’ - clearly doesn’t realise curry is a recipe - absolutely any nationality can make it - will blow his mind to realise I can make some fantastic curry’s and pasta dishes!!

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 08:35

@CrispEater2000 I missed that one- where did you get that nonsense from?

Sidebeforeself · 09/04/2025 08:18

CrispEater2000 · 08/04/2025 22:48

Instead they make people on benefits go and work at places like Poundland for free.

Why provide a useful service to the public when they could be helping private companies turn a profit?

No they don’t ! There’s nothing s no such scheme that forces people to work for free

taxguru · 09/04/2025 08:07

OneAmberFinch · 09/04/2025 00:44

Fully legal immigration IS the problem.

A very small minority of legal immigration is for shortage occupations. Unless you think we have a shortage of takeaway shop managers and IT body shop developers. It's a complete joke to get in, you can walk in and everyone outside the UK targets it knowing it's so easy to get in and there are no caps.

Ask me how I know! Signed, an immigrant.

PS: from next year the massive spike of people who came in after the relaxation of the rules post-Brexit (thanks Boris) will all be eligible for ILR and therefore benefits, so even they won't have to bother being care workers any more. Perhaps they will spend their newfound free time on volunteering for the village litter picking club though so that'll solve OP's issue :)

I agree. Even working in a kebab shop entitles an immigrant to come and work here. Fair enough for immigration for skilled/professional roles where we have shortages, such as doctors and nurses, but we really don't need to import people to work in kebab shops!

https://x.com/StevenEdginton/status/1899817030234091891

taxguru · 09/04/2025 08:05

Lonelycrab · 09/04/2025 00:01

And the privatisation of our rail network has resulted in some of the most expensive trains in the world, as well as unreliable.

We could never have afforded the necessary new trains over the past 2/3 decades without privatisation. Our train stock was antiquated and non compliant with disabillity laws and non compliant with waste laws and non compliant with H&S laws, so basically the entire stock of coaches needed to be replaced. The only way to afford that was private sector finance as nearly everything on the railways today is leased. Every single coach costs tens of millions. The taxpayer could never have funded that.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/04/2025 07:34

TempestTost · 09/04/2025 00:38

The difficult thing is that I think most of us are very implicated in it all. We all shop online for the cheapest deals. We all want cheap food. Many of us spend quite a lot on cheap consumables with no lasting value. That doesn't just represent our money, people somewhere are using their time and energy to make that crap, or get rid of that crap, instead of doing something useful.

I don't shop online because it's cheap. I shop online because it's quick and convenient, because there's far more choice, because I don't enjoy shopping and don't have time to do it, and because it's an hour and a half's drive to a city with a big range of shops.

OneAmberFinch · 09/04/2025 00:44

lavenderlou · 08/04/2025 20:28

So what immigration would you like to stop? The vast, vast majority of immigration to the UK is fully legal and government approved - shortage workers, students. They all need to live somewhere.

Fully legal immigration IS the problem.

A very small minority of legal immigration is for shortage occupations. Unless you think we have a shortage of takeaway shop managers and IT body shop developers. It's a complete joke to get in, you can walk in and everyone outside the UK targets it knowing it's so easy to get in and there are no caps.

Ask me how I know! Signed, an immigrant.

PS: from next year the massive spike of people who came in after the relaxation of the rules post-Brexit (thanks Boris) will all be eligible for ILR and therefore benefits, so even they won't have to bother being care workers any more. Perhaps they will spend their newfound free time on volunteering for the village litter picking club though so that'll solve OP's issue :)

TempestTost · 09/04/2025 00:38

User46576 · 08/04/2025 23:05

Amazon doesn’t pay 0% tax due to a “clever corporate structure” or otherwise. But it doesn’t need stores due to its online structure. But it would make no money if we didn’t all want to shop online

The difficult thing is that I think most of us are very implicated in it all. We all shop online for the cheapest deals. We all want cheap food. Many of us spend quite a lot on cheap consumables with no lasting value. That doesn't just represent our money, people somewhere are using their time and energy to make that crap, or get rid of that crap, instead of doing something useful.

mydogfarts · 09/04/2025 00:28

stargazingortryingto · 08/04/2025 23:34

Regarding spending, I wonder if that is because the state no longer owns anything, and so has to buy services from the private sector, who now do own all the assets. For example, local authorities have no housing, so they have to pay eye watering sums to private landlords, which pushes expenditure up.

ETA there is a lot of tax paid on work, too much in my opinion. However, there is very little tax paid on wealth, which seems to me to be where the issue is. I think there should be a tax on wealth (by which I mean those with assets over £10million), with the revenue raised helping to counteract some of the effects of our increasingly unequal society.

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It's exactly that. People making a huge profit providing public services. And councils still need staff and lawyers to manage all the contracts so not much money is actually saved.

Plus a huge explosion in people needing very expensive support.
So the SEN education cost is up hugely, supported living and social care up hugely, so councils have to hack all over costs to the bone. So maintenance of highways, playgrounds etc is cut (but that leads to more claims so is a false economy), public services like libraries and bus services are cut.

Massive devastating cuts but the bill keeps rising because there are lots of businesses out there creaming profits from providing "public services"

KimberleyClark · 09/04/2025 00:24

User46576 · 08/04/2025 23:45

No, it’s primarily because our population has aged significantly. The fact we don’t subsidize vastly inefficient public owned industries anymore is an improvement in the public finances not a worsening. The public sector tend to do a very poor job of running businesses- we are all wealthier thanks to privatization.

Yes the private sector did a fantastic job of running the railways didn’t it. And it’s still doing a fantastic job of the water industry. Our rivers have never been cleaner and less polluted.

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 00:19

Being boring and going back to when we lived in Copenhagen - we used to come back to UK every 5 weeks for work stuff and the contrast hit us every time. You simply didn’t see the amount of feral families and I don’t think I ever saw litter in the way it is here. Most kids were in very nice and very cheap day care from about 10 months and both parents worked but less hours - we used to say the UK felt like the Wild West in comparison-

Crikeyalmighty · 09/04/2025 00:13

It doesn’t seem to be allowed to state that in many places that plenty of us live we have a predominantly white population - but still have the same issues- this is because whilst immigration may have issues with regard to social things like housing, education etc - the overall couldn’t give a shit attitude is across all colours and creeds

Whalesong · 09/04/2025 00:08

blahhhhg · 08/04/2025 19:08

I'm in the South-East for context. I agree with all the barber shops and vape shops... Also the American candy shops and tech shops that sell things like phone cases that you never see anyone buy. It's very depressing. I also agree with some of you who have said there is a weird, aggressive energy about, I think it begun during the pandemic. Like if you looked at someone the wrong way a fight would break out. Drivers are more aggressive, even dog owners seem to be more aggressive and shouty.

I understand that councils have to spend most of their budget on social care - and this issue is going to only get worse. It feels like we're heading towards some kind of societal collapse...

The American Candy shops are fronts for drug money-laundering. That's well known and they get shut down regularly.