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Challengedbutenlightened · 08/04/2025 13:42

I reversed into a car in a train station. Took reg details and photo of damage and informed my insurance. Damage is minimal (photo proof). I didn’t have anything to hand to write a note. Would you just forget about it and see what happens and would you worry about it. What would you have done differently? I do feel awful about this and hate that I’ve done this

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ARichtGoodDram · 08/04/2025 20:04

I would leave details as twice people haven't bothered leaving details for me and it's horrid.

I wouldn't have any concerns about the police coming though - I phoned them on Saturday after someone hit my car whilst overtaking (dangerously and all on dashcam) and drove off and they weren't remotely interested unless any street furniture was damaged.

Juicyprawns · 08/04/2025 19:59

Someone did this to me years ago, however unfortunately for them someone saw them and left me their details. I reported them to the police. The police tried to encourage me to let it go as they were a new driver but I refused and insisted they dealt with the matter.

ilovesooty · 08/04/2025 19:53

ilovesooty · 08/04/2025 16:45

Some people find your attitude despicable and in my opinion quite rightly so.

@Lanzarotelady nice to see you found what I said amusing. Most decent people have names for people who behave like that.

Itiswhysofew · 08/04/2025 18:56

This happened to me recently. My learner driver niece was exiting a parking space in my car and touched the car beside her. I waited for the owner to return and swapped details. I was very apologetic.There wasn't any damage to his car, the bumper was pulled slightly, but he didn't make a claim against me.

Offtobuttonmoontovisitmrspoon · 08/04/2025 18:50

Don’t worry, hopefully the cctv will have seen so no need for a note.

EilishMcCandlish · 08/04/2025 18:44

I failed to put my parking brake on properly and rolled across an airport car park once, clipping the car in the bay opposite while in a new parent just back to work sleep deprived state. I left my name and number on the windscreen. When the owner got back from their holiday a week later, they were very grateful for my honesty. I preferred the clean conscience approach.

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 18:43

wowwhataday · 08/04/2025 18:42

I suspect this is what many would do in real life

Yes but we cannot say that can we, because this is MN and everyone is beyond reproach!

wowwhataday · 08/04/2025 18:42

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 13:46

Honestly, driven off as quick as possible!

I suspect this is what many would do in real life

sanityisamyth · 08/04/2025 18:39

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 13:46

Honestly, driven off as quick as possible!

You’re a twat.

EilishMcCandlish · 08/04/2025 18:35

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 18:23

No one with a sense of humour on tonight?

All clutching your pears and polishing your halo's?

What exactly is humourous about damaging someone's car and then driving off leaving them with the bill?

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 18:23

No one with a sense of humour on tonight?

All clutching your pears and polishing your halo's?

HundredPercentUnsure · 08/04/2025 16:56

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 15:42

Get a life

You have an interesting attitude towards others!

Itsmeeeeeee · 08/04/2025 16:50

Nothing more, like the police are interested. 😂

ilovesooty · 08/04/2025 16:45

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 15:42

Get a life

Some people find your attitude despicable and in my opinion quite rightly so.

DazzlingCuckoos · 08/04/2025 16:11

Challengedbutenlightened · 08/04/2025 14:14

Thanks everyone. My insurers assured me I had done all the right things-they know I hadnt reported it to the police. I have now reported it online with 101. The train station is a bit of a weird one. Last time I was there a vehicles hand brake had failed (same area as well) and staff couldn’t do anything about it. There was a lot of cars damaged and in a CTV black spot. I will grab some paper from the hospital and see if the car is still there when I get back and leave a note

If it's a route you take often, you may see the car again, so I'd carry a note in the car, just in case. In the meantime you've done all you can and, quite honestly, you've done a hell of a lot more than most people would do.

There's every chance that if it's that minor, the owner wouldn't otherwise notice for a long time, if at all.

DiscoBeat · 08/04/2025 16:05

I would definitely find a pen and paper from somewhere and leave details.

DiscoBeat · 08/04/2025 16:04

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 13:46

Honestly, driven off as quick as possible!

You're one of those.

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 15:42

StMarie4me · 08/04/2025 15:31

Hope that happens to you one day. Vile.

Get a life

Goldbar · 08/04/2025 15:35

I didn't think you always had to report to the police if there were no injuries, only if you were unable to exchange details.

Essentially, OP, the other driver's insurance needs a way of contacting your insurance. So you need to leave your details (number/number plate etc.), however you manage it, so they can do this and you don't look like you've done a runner.

StMarie4me · 08/04/2025 15:31

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 13:46

Honestly, driven off as quick as possible!

Hope that happens to you one day. Vile.

Riaanna · 08/04/2025 15:11

Badbadbunny · 08/04/2025 14:31

I wasn't talking about the strict legalities, I was talking about the reality, which is that the police aren't interested, just as they aren't interested in lots of other "minor" crimes, etc.

Leaving the scene of an accident is easy to prove and prosecute. They will be very interested. It’s an easy win.

RenoDakota · 08/04/2025 15:03

This has happened to me before. Reversed into a low sports car in the dark and pissing rain. Had nothing to write on to leave a note and was also desperate for a pee so nipped home, a couple of minutes away, got pen and paper and went back and left a note. Was all sorted out by the insurance. Knew I had done absolutely the right thing.

pukekokekup · 08/04/2025 15:01

I had the same situation recently. I took some photos of the damage (cosmetic) and waited there for a bit then decided to go and borrow a pen and paper from the nearest shop so I could leave a message. Luckily the driver came back at this point so I told her what happened, we exchanged the numbers. I apologised to her quite a few times because I had never damaged other peoples cars before and felt awful. The lady was very kind and even gave me hug. I called my insurer once I went back home and they took care from there. Someone damaged my work car years ago and ran away. Worked paid for the repair but I remember how upset I was. I would never do this to anyone.

CherryQuay · 08/04/2025 14:48

Lanzarotelady · 08/04/2025 13:46

Honestly, driven off as quick as possible!

Are you for real? 😡

Hoppinggreen · 08/04/2025 14:41

Badbadbunny · 08/04/2025 14:31

I wasn't talking about the strict legalities, I was talking about the reality, which is that the police aren't interested, just as they aren't interested in lots of other "minor" crimes, etc.

As I said above, we got a phone call from a Police Officer when DD hit someones car and didn't leave a note.
He was VERY interested