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To feel weird that my parents took me to naturist campsites.

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100dalmations · 08/04/2025 11:52

In almost every holiday photo I’m naked, I have memories of visiting my parents friends houses who were fellow naturists and all would be naked in the garden (not overlooked) I didn’t think it was weird at the time but now I recall spending most of my childhood with my naked family and their friends in campsites mostly abroad but also one they were members of in England I do feel a bit strange about it and when I bring it up to friends they all think it’s weird. Does anyone else feel weird about going to these places? I seem to remember lots of other children would be there so it couldn’t have been that unusual.

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Jollyjoy · 08/04/2025 13:21

NeedSomeComfy · 08/04/2025 13:11

I think these questions are complex and very culturally specific. In the UK people tend to have a more conservative approach to nudity compared to, for example, Germany or Scandinavian countries where it is much more accepted (for all ages) in leisure situations. Whether or not there are more child safeguarding issues in those places because of that is something I have no idea about.
If your parents were in naturist communities then it would seem normal to them (and you) to have you all naked together.

Agree, there are various layers to this and some of your discomfort is likely to be as you grew up and learned this is not a norm in our culture, rather than the practice of naturism being inherently untoward.

However, there was a famous study on a beach (in the 70s/80s?) where the number of convicted sex offenders present while children were naked on the beach, was concerning and it changed our cultural attitudes towards public nudity for children - I believe. Don’t know all the details.

ThejoyofNC · 08/04/2025 13:14

Jesus I had imagined these places were adults only. The fact people make a choice to take their kids to a place where adults parade around naked is disturbing to me.

Gonnaenoe · 08/04/2025 13:12

AtrociousCircumstance · 08/04/2025 12:56

It’s is unsettling because you couldn’t consent to it.

This exactly.

NeedSomeComfy · 08/04/2025 13:11

I think these questions are complex and very culturally specific. In the UK people tend to have a more conservative approach to nudity compared to, for example, Germany or Scandinavian countries where it is much more accepted (for all ages) in leisure situations. Whether or not there are more child safeguarding issues in those places because of that is something I have no idea about.
If your parents were in naturist communities then it would seem normal to them (and you) to have you all naked together.

Genevieva · 08/04/2025 13:08

I think there was a big naturist trend that was at its peak in the 70s. We never knew any when I was growing up, but there was a naturist resort near where our family friends lived. I think you need to step back from modern perceptions and the attitudes of your friends. If it felt normal at the time, that is all the evidence you need to know that it wasn’t weird or concerning. Niche, certainly, but that doesn’t make it wrong.

tillytoodles1 · 08/04/2025 13:04

We ended up on a nudist beach after a boat trip in Minorca. We didn't know and had our swimwear on, but seeing a naked man walking out of the sea with his junk bobbing on the water, or watching a naked couple playing badminton on the beach put me off for life.

CagneyNYPD1 · 08/04/2025 13:00

AtrociousCircumstance · 08/04/2025 12:56

It’s is unsettling because you couldn’t consent to it.

This is how I would view it. Even if there was nothing untoward, the adults are making the choice to be naked, not the child.

Such decisions would be viewed differently now that we understand much more about consent in many different situations.

AtrociousCircumstance · 08/04/2025 12:56

It’s is unsettling because you couldn’t consent to it.

WrylyAmused · 08/04/2025 12:55

We went to naturist resorts in the south of France with family friends for years. Never saw anything odd about it TBH.

I'm extremely grateful that I've been brought up with a much more laid back "these are bodies, they come in all shapes and sizes, everyone has one, no big deal" attitude. I'm very comfortable in my own skin, and it's an excellent practical way to counter the media narrative of the idealised view of what people "should" look like, which is so damaging to many people's mental health, especially teens.

It's really not a predator's paradise - in fact my experience is the opposite - naturism is non sexual nudity, and because it's so normalised, it absolutely doesn't have the sexual charge that nakedness usually does in a mostly clothed society.

The odd "odd" person hiding behind the sand dunes to ogle - well, they got moved on sharply by the majority as soon as they were noticed - it was very healthily self-monitored to minimise any dubious types, and, I would stress, the dubious types were not themselves naturists, but "normals" who specifically came to perve, so I rather feel the problem isn't in the people with the slightly alternative lifestyle, but with the people who have non-consensual interests in the first place.

JacquesHarlow · 08/04/2025 12:15

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 08/04/2025 12:03

In a lot of my childhood pictures I was wearing a shell suit which is probably more weird.

Not really.

Gonnaenoe · 08/04/2025 12:07

Bottom line. It’s a predators paradise, isn’t it?

I’m not a prude but children should be safeguarded. I don’t believe it does anyone good being naked and exposed to relative strangers - neighbours and friends of friends, throughout their entire childhood. Nor do I believe it’s in any child’s best interests to have regular view of these non-relative grown adults full mince n’ tatties glowing in the sun.

Call me crazy.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 08/04/2025 12:03

In a lot of my childhood pictures I was wearing a shell suit which is probably more weird.

PotOfViolas · 08/04/2025 11:56

I wonder what the appeal of it is. There's a naturist club near where I live and on the website there's a photo of a young woman walking between her parents. I don't see the appeal.

GretaGip · 08/04/2025 11:54

Just to advise caution to anyone contributing to this thread, as though it may be completely legitimate, it's never wise to give too much of oneself on threads such as these.

JacquesHarlow · 08/04/2025 11:52

Are your parents alive, and are you able to ask them about it?

If you have asked them about it @100dalmations , what did they say?