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Has anyone ever fallen in love with a dog they didn’t want?

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Watermelonsugarcube · 08/04/2025 11:24

Long and short of it- husband wants a dog, I don’t.

I know this is an unpopular opinion but I just don’t like dogs. Never owned one, never wanted one. I think some of them are cute to look at but don’t want them near me/touching me. I think a lot of it stems from visiting relatives as a child who owned dogs that with hindsight weren’t well cared for and drooled/were smelly/left hair everywhere etc. I wouldn’t say it’s a phobia as I’m not frightened of them, nor am I particular germ phobic in general, there’s just something I find gross about dogs and I can’t bring myself to touch them (sorry if this offends dog lovers, it’s irrational and it’s definitely a “me” problem).

But husband loves dogs and it seems cruel to deny him. We also have a toddler and I must admit it’s cute to see him interact with dogs. I can see the benefits e.g. for DH’s health (wfh full time and doesn’t get much exercise). I have no doubt that DH would take full responsibility for walks, feeding etc, I’m just not sure I want one living in my home full time. Of course if we were to get one I’d take care of it- I’d never want to see an animal harmed- but I’d want to love it and not just tolerate it. Can I be converted?

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hattie43 · 08/04/2025 11:27

You don’t get a dog hoping to fall in love with it . Your husband should not get a dog when others in the family don’t want one. Dogs pick up on an awful lot and besides how can you positively interact and train the dog , would you take it to dog training . An unruly dog is even harder to love . I don’t think you should get a dog until you are really wanting one .