MIL wants to kiss baby but gets coldsores

I'm a bit confused, why can't you say 'we love you very much, but as you get coldsores could you not do x and y with the baby as you might pass them on to her?' She would love xxx instead'
Anyone who tries to argue they have the right to risk passing on coldsores to a baby is clearly not right. Although I would want to be doing more research on how they pass on - you can actively shed the coldsore virus without having symptoms, but I'm not sure that spit would definitely carry it?

No. She doesn't.

One of my grandparents got coldsores but they made the effort all their life to avoid spreading it to their spouse, children and grandchildren, because it's an awful virus to have and dangerous to babies. I'm very grateful to them for that.

Why is she putting her fingers in the baby’s mouth?

The cold sore thing; she isn’t contagious if she doesn’t have a cold sore so you need to relax that a bit. Grandparents should be able to kiss their grandchildren and vice versa. But, maybe it’s personal opinion. I don’t agree with the new trends of no one else being allowed to hold the baby and no one allowed to kiss the baby, however if that’s the choice you’ve made then that’s up to you but you need ti keep the same rule for everyone. You can’t let your mum kiss the baby and tell your husband’s mum that she isn’t allowed.

You should definitely stop this. I was given cold sores age 6 by an elderly aunt (friend of the family). She kissed me on the lips when she had an active cold sore. She also gave me a box of liqueur chocolates, so it was quite a day. Yuk.

I've been plagued by the things my whole life and can't kiss people because of it, including DS and DH, so it's really a ghastly thing to do to anybody.

Slap 'er with a wet fish if she even thinks about it.

Why are fingers going in baby's mouth. You absolutely need to stop this. Be upfront. You have cold sores and are spitting on her. Please stop and no fingers in mouth because it's weird and invasive

Absolutely revolting

OP just say, I know I sound mean nil but it's making me uncomfortable to have your fingers and and spit over baby.

I know I'm being silly but can you stop it' thanks

Normally I wouldn't mind

But coldsores - no way

And there is no need to put her fingers in her mouth either

Back in the day if a baby was teething, you might give them a knuckle to chew on but definitely not fingers

Just ask her to stop it's fine to do that, why is she putting her fingers in her mouth ?