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My husband says I can't have a pottery wheel even though my neighbour has offered to let me keep it in her studio

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Observermum1 · 07/04/2025 12:59

I don't ask for much but really fancy a second hand pottery wheel. My husband says it's a waste of money and that I won't use it much. I feel really sad as I have fancied one for years. My neighbour has even offered to put it in her shed/studio as we don't have room for it. AIBU?

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Init4thecatz · 07/04/2025 13:02

This is the tricky thing about 'hobbies' in relationships. You want to be supportive, but if your partner tends to have a short attention span, you know it will just end up being wasted money.

So I guess those are my questions. Have you tried other things that got used once, or are now in storage? Do you have a habit of 'fads'? How expensive is the wheel, and is money tight?

Icanttakethisanymore · 07/04/2025 13:02

Who made him the boss of you. Can you afford it?

HelenWheels · 07/04/2025 13:02

clay is expensive i believe, is that his issue?

pinkingshears · 07/04/2025 13:01

It doesn't sound unreasonable to me. I suppose it depends if it costs £+++ to buy (even second hand) and if the supplies will be pricey but it helps a lot if neighbour will store / give you access. Does he have hobbies or is he a 'sitting on front of the TV' type?

PinkFrogss · 07/04/2025 13:01

What happens if neighbour changes their mind or moves?

WaneyEdge · 07/04/2025 13:01

Why is it his decision? If you can pay for it out of your own money and it wont even be on your property it’s nothing to do with him.

Farmwifefarmlife · 07/04/2025 13:01

If you can afford it I don’t see why not? Can you afford it from “your” money?

HelenWheels · 07/04/2025 13:00

who is paying for it?
do you earn your own money?

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