My husband says I can't have a pottery wheel even though my neighbour has offered to let me keep it in her studio

Careful that stretch doesn't bring on a trapped sciatic nerve 🤣

@Riaanna totally get that you might be a bored teenager on school holidays enjoying goading on the internet. But the weather is lovely - get outside. Go and ride a bike, or go to the park 🙂

Only someone very hard of understanding, or deliberately obtuse and wanting to rile people could think:

A&B run a joint business
A can spend whatever they want, including £6k on guitars l
B must be taking the piss if they want to buy something for £350
Whilst also ignoring that B sells artwork and has their own savings from the sales of said artwork.

Your mental gymnastics to create and justify your ridiculous narrative is funny, but also totally unhelpful to OP.

How much money has your DH actually 'made' from playing guitars? None I assume - you've not mentioned if he plays in a band.
I say just buy it, use it, sell what you make alongside your art and be even more successful. What he thinks is nothing to do with you having a wheel, your buying it from your art business and thus saving tax I assume, and it's an asset you could sell. Instead I'd encourage him to make money from his hobby. Busking perhaps?

We named them after him aswell (think something like his name is Pat, so we called them Patricia and Patty 🤣🤣🤣)

If your first pot comes out a bit wonky, at least there will be a suitable head to smash it over.

Let his ‘thoughts’ stay in his head and you do what you want. You aren’t hurting anyone and it’s your money. He’s not your dad and you’re not his toddler.

Have you got for for bouncing from one thing to another?

Maybe he’s saying fine, get another bloody hobby but I want to work less so if you’re going that we are releasing equity and moving. There. One explanation that doesn’t involve him being a dick.

This is brilliant 🤣

No - I asked questions to ensure that I had the full picture before making a judgement.

Why are you so determined to not consider there might be more to it? That this might be someone looking for an echo chamber to enable their not ok behaviour? I asked reasonable questions that anyone commenting on this thread should be asking. Why, for example, is there a condition of moving? Does he want to release funds? Is this another example of impulsive behaviour from the OP that OH is expected to support and enable? There is always more to what’s posted and the ability to recognise that isn’t a bad thing. Rather than challenging me perhaps challenge those that are telling her to leave without establishing the bigger picture.

I think that he has refused as he is controlling and doesn't want OP to make her own decisions about what hobbies she will do and how much of her own money she spends.

You think that even though OP and her DH run their own business, her contribution is negligible and she has no right to spend to spend her own money (which she makes separately from their shared business) but her DH is making a large contribution and he can spend what the hell he wants.

We both have our own narratives, but I support the OP and you don't.

Do it. Its something for yourself. Sure he has his own interests. Just starting to see that I do nothing for myself - as women, this is fairly common. Communicate to him that its something you have always wanted to do and you are going to do it either way. Is it because he's tight with money or is he mean in other ways? I would make mental notes of all of these things and reconsider my options if they keep happening

You don't need his permission.

DH is forever encouraging me to try new hobbies etc, and as the main breadwinner he would be helping to finance them. No way would he be spending £6k on a hobby and then telling me I couldn’t buy something for £350

Because people are never just dicks? There's always a valid reason for their attitude? Ok.

The house thing doesn't even make any sense, why is he saying they'd have to move if it will be in her neighbours studio?

I'm afraid it's more likely than not the DH is just your common garden variety miserable hypocrit.

As someone who wants her own studio at the bottom of the garden with kiln, shelving, glazes (I'm pretty rubbish on the wheel) and i am a working mum with a toddler so time is precious, I'd say to you go for it if you have the money and you already have an arty career so it's in your blood!!!!

She did not day she ‘gets a bit from selling art’. She said she’s quite successful at selling her artwork. She said her DH isn’t the sole breadwinner. Why are you so determined to put her down ??

I feel really sorry for you OP, it’s not just that he’s denying you something that you want, that you will fund, that makes no material difference to his life in any way - it’s the fact that he won’t support your hobby, he is (trying) to put his foot down about something that will give you joy. I don’t understand why? The storming out is nuts too isn’t it?

I would just tell him firmly that you are going ahead because - in the same way that his guitars give him joy - you need to carve out a hobby for yourself. Please do update us on progress and also a photo of your first creation would be ace!

She said quite clearly that her DH said the only way she can buy it is if they moved house and when she said she’d keep it at a neighbours studio, he stormed out of the house.

Get a man/person and van to help you. A friend or brother. Anyone but the unhelpful husband.

@AthWat OP has said that DH has said they will have to move if she buys it

Buy it and remind yourself never to ask his 'permission' for anything again; you don't need it. Tell him he didn't run his guitar purchases by you (if he didn't, of course'). Let him fucking grumble. Not your problem.

Getting a bit from selling art doesn’t mean they’re contributing.

He doesn't sound very nice at all. You do have options regarding him, you know.