My husband says I can't have a pottery wheel even though my neighbour has offered to let me keep it in her studio

Then tell him to fuck right off, the controlling arse, and he can sell the bloody guitars while he's at it!

Maybe OP doesn’t particularly need your advice. Is it somehow more valuable than anybody else’s on here? Unless you can speak directly to her OH you’re going to have to base your advice (if you must) on the info available.

Very few posters have said to leave him. Most have said, just buy the wheel. I really don't see why there needs to be any more to it.

You have an issue with me asking for more information before giving advice but not those essentially telling her to leave him….? Why?

I'd ask the postman to help me before I'd ask him.

Who the hell does your husband think he is? Your boss? Does he have any hobbies, other than being a PITA?

Exactly!!

For god’s sake it’s not a court of law. Are you like this on every thread you visit.

Why are you asking me that and not the posters who have made some pretty serious assumptions about the OH based on nothing?

You literally launched into some random personal attack of me for asking questions to establish the bigger picture before offering advice. Why?

That's reported speech. People are not precise in reported speech. Would you be amazed if someone reported that and it turned out their words were something like "it won't work until we move house"?

It's a simple question, I don't know why the OP isn't clarifying what exactly he said.

It's not often we get the person being talked about pop up... in this case the husband !

You are your own person with your own savings, you don't need permission from your husband.

Why are you taking it all so personally. OP is an artist and would like a pottery wheel for a hobby. Neighbour has said she is welcome to have it at theirs. Chill out.

How? Why should it be impractical. It might be dead easy.

Personally I would tell him that you intend on getting the wheel and if he kicks up, I would put one of his guitars on Ebay, sell it, and use the money for all the accessories and clay and the potters wheel.

What view? That getting all the facts before forming a view is the right approach?

That’s for OP and the neighbour to deal with.

Here’s the thing.

I asked perfectly reasonable questions to find out if he is indeed a dick.

Others assumed he is.

A&B run a joint business. Suppose he is a plumber. And does all the work. And the joint element is literally her signing the books once a year but that’s it. Or she answers the odd email. But 98% of the work is him.
A buys guitars but he is supporting the entire household and B contributes nothing. She paints. And makes the odd bit of money.
B has over the years spent thousands on her art and doesn’t work because artist.
B has made peanuts on art and although has saved it she also contributes near enough zero to the household.

Now I don’t know if that’s the case. It’s the alternative to what you’ve assumed. Something you also don’t know.

What you will note is that while you and others have advice I did not. I tried to establish the big picture before giving advice. Because that’s the balanced thing to do. Perhaps you’re right. Perhaps she does and always has contributed. Perhaps it is a 50/50 business and her art work is part of the household. Perhaps he is just unfair. And if that’s the case my advice would differ greatly than if the alternative is correct.

Just because you and others have assumed a narrative doesn’t mean I have. Hence no advice given yet.

Why are you the only one on here who is being confrontational. I see absolutely nothing in OP’s posts for you to have this view which jarrs against everybody else’s? Are you the husband or something?😄

For me it's not about the money but more the impracticality of it being in a neighbours property.

These things rarely tend to work out as intended.

Is he being weird and controlling about you potentially spending time at your neighbours

I don’t know why you are even asking . You want it , you earn money , you will get enjoyment from the purchase and potentially make money . It is not in his power to deny you this just because he doesn’t deem it necessary.

He's probably spent more than that. I'm someone who has too many guitars myself and have had lots of conversations with people who have lied/downplayed the cost of their own collection to their partners.

There is no way he should be dictating how you spend your money, especially as you don't ask for much. It's a bargain, something you want, and could possibly be bringing in more money in the future.

I don't understand his storming out, do you not stand up to or question him very often? I'd personally buy the wheel, no matter what he says. He is being ridiculous.

Then you repeat this bit of info and ask why he’s got a problem with you spending £350!!!

Maybe he is and if you want to ask those questions to clarify go for it.

Nope. Nothing. Not a penny.

Doesn’t matter if she does. It’s not going to be in their home and it’s really none of his business.