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Paying for own birthday meal

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butterfly172 · 07/04/2025 10:21

So it’s my fiancé’s birthday tomorrow. His 3 adult children don’t pay anything towards birthday dinner, instead he pays for it…I’m paying for it tomorrow as I refuse to let him pay for his own birthday meal, he does it every year. It gives me the hump that he pays for everyone to eat on his birthday (his youngest child is 22), am I being silly or is my thought process valid?

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Sofiewoo · 07/04/2025 10:23

You’re being weird. How finances around his children are his business. It’s perfectly normal for parents to still pay for their adult children’s meal. It’s not that weird, a 22 year old isn’t earning a lot of money and many parents wouldn’t necessarily want their child to go without so they can treat the parent to a meal.