To expect a driving instructor to ring the doorbell?

Nope, they never get out of the car that I have known of.

DI can be late due to traffic etc, they will allow for an extended lesson if they have the time or work it in to the next one.

You need to be waiting for your lesson at home, ready. My DI always text and used his app to also notify me. Never has he ever rung my doorbell.

The whole point is he shouldn’t have to ring the doorbell.
As for instructor being late, that’s normal as sometimes it’s down to traffic/ travel between lessons.

Your DS should have been up and waiting, looking out the window.

Sometimes we need help. Alarms often don't wake kids/teens. Including smoke alarms too.

Well, he's not a "kid/teen" if he's learning to drive, is he?
He's in his late teens.
Smoke alarms don't come into it. They're unexpected. Your DS knew he had an appointment booked.
If he's not responsible enough to even get ready for a lesson in time, is he responsible enough to drive safely?

Expensive life lesson.

Indeed.
Hope he's the one paying, not you.

@IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta about £80 for 2 hours

OMG @NotTonightDeidre this is entirely your DS’s fault.

He wants to learn how to drive but he doesnt know how to set an alarm?!

🙈

I learnt to drive in the 90s where the DI would just turn up at my appointment time, with me hovering around 10 mins before looking out the front window.

Definitely not the DI fault your ds didn't get up in time.

Yes this he isn't mature enough for driving lessons.

How much do driving lessons cost these days? I paid £8 an hour, but that was in the olden days.

Whatever the cost, I know it isn't cheap. Why on earth anybody would want to pay somebody that hourly rate to sit around and wait for them to wake up and be ready is baffling.

I also agree with PP: when you've been driving for a long time and it's second nature to you, you still need a little while to properly wake up and become sentient before driving safely; but when you're still learning and it's all new to you, you need to be extremely mentally and physically alert before even considering getting behind the wheel.

Thus he needed to have been awake and composing himself for probably an hour or so before the lesson; not still asleep as it was due to start.

Was the instructor also to wait for him to wake up and get ready?
Mine never left his car.

parents like you are the absolute worse. Blame everyone and anyone but your child 🤦🏻‍♀️

If your son can't be up, showered and ready for the driving instructor to come, he's not mature enough to be having driving lessons and I don't want him on the road thanks

Your son was asleep when the lesson was due to start.

I do think the instructor could have made more of an effort to make contact with your son. And yes, ideally your son should be ready and waiting but I don’t think expecting the instructor to call, after the text went unanswered, is asking too much.

No, they don't knock.

It is probably best not to roll out of bed in a rushed daze to do a driving lesson.

So technically breaking the law then? Good example for the learner

Not up to the instructor to ring the bell

You are turning your son into an entitled man-child.

My driving instructor never even texted me.
My appointment was at X time and so I would be ready and waiting 10mins before.

He’s paying for the lesson.
If he doesn’t want to get up in time that’s on him, the instructor doesn’t even need to text, let alone do anything to try and persuade him to attend.

I hope this is fake because honestly it’s embarrassing that you’ve even asked this question.

Mine would wait outside for me. He'd ring me after 10 minutes. The responsibility lies with your son.

I blame the parents.

Parents today seem to blame everyone else apart from themselves.

Why is it the driving instructor's fault that your son missed a lesson?

Your son seems to not have been taught
to take responsibility for being on time for the appointments he made. And the driving instructor came to your doorstep!

When I learned to drive I had to get a bus into town and walk to the opposite side of town to go to a place where the driving instructors were based. And I got myself there on time - without help from my parents.

Surely the instructor is charging for say 9 til 10 and if DS doesnt come out til 920, then DS has lost 20 mins? (I dont know how long lessons are, never had any)

Your son would hardly have been ready to jump straight in the car, if he even heard the door.

Does he even know the actual address? DSD driving instructor used to text her and wait from the end of the road, I don’t think he actually knew what number she was.
but yes yabu, he’s a driving instructor not an alarm clock. Be annoyed at your son for not being up and ready and if he was actually fast asleep did you really expect her to run downstairs and outs of the house to drive when he doesn’t yet know how to without having breakfast/shower?

Youngest brother is a driving instructor and never knocks for his safety and to safeguard his car which provides his living.
He texts and takes a photo of the door which is evidence he attended on time.

If it is a social payment the picture is used for payment in case they say he didn't come or they cancel when he is on the way or when he gets there. He expects to be paid regardless.