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To ask a parent to move their buggy from a café so I can sit down?

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TheUmberFawn · 06/04/2025 22:20

Went to a busy café at lunchtime. One table was occupied by a mum with a large pram taking up the space of two chairs. There were no other free tables, so I asked politely if she could move it so I could sit. She gave me a dirty look and mumbled something about needing space. I get that babies come with stuff but why should that mean no one else can sit? AIBU for asking?

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kidditsonyou · 06/04/2025 22:27

I’ve never sat down at someone else’s table at a cafe. She wanted some quiet time with her baby not to have to sit opposite you, what were you going to do just eat and stare at her?

Lavender14 · 06/04/2025 22:24

And also yes if you were looking to take a seat at her table then I think that she has the right to say no.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 06/04/2025 22:24

Yabu tbh

Lavender14 · 06/04/2025 22:23

How old was the baby she had with her and was a highchair available? If the baby was too little to sit up independently in a highchair then yabu as she'd need the pram to set the baby in so she can eat or drink. If baby was capable of sitting up independently then she should have collapsed the pram/ moved it aside and used a high chair

Thebloodynine · 06/04/2025 22:22

Do you mean there was a free table and her pram was blocking it? Or were you asking to share her table, and you did so by telling her to move the pram? If you want to share someone’s table then you have to ask, and they can say no. She paid for stuff to eat and sat down before you; you can’t just use her table if she wants time to herself with the baby.