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Is your child like you?

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Series3issodull · 06/04/2025 21:52

Mine isn’t at all…in looks or personality

This obviously isn’t a problem at all, my Dd is adorable & amazing. Did anyone else have a picture in their mind of how you thought your dc may be and they’re completely different? In every sense?

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IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 06/04/2025 22:39

DS looks like DH but with my colouring,my interests and my work ethic.

DD looks nothing like me but has a similar personality. She is far brighter than me though.

Moonlaserbearwolf · 06/04/2025 22:39

How old is your child? Both of mine look quite like me, but personality wise seemed very different when they were you get. As they got older I saw many more similarities.

user1471453601 · 06/04/2025 22:39

My adult child was born to me (dark hair, green eyes) and her father (blond hair, blue eyes).

They are grey eyed, blond haired. They don't look like me, but I recognise my personality traits (good and bad) in them.

I look nothing like my sister. She looks like my mum, I look like my Dad. Yet, years ago someone I worked with saw sister on a train, and asked if a relative of mine used this particular train, because they'd seen someone (my sister) who strongly reminded them of me. When I asked what had reminded them of me, they said it was the way this person stood, talked and gesticulated.

So I guess looks are only a small part of who we are, or who we appear to be to others.

WhatMe123 · 06/04/2025 22:34

Dd1 looks like do but is very similar to me in personality, dd2 looks like my mum and brother and is nothing like either of me and dp personality wise 😂

MargaretThursday · 06/04/2025 22:34

Dd1 looks a mix, personality dh
Dd2 my side all the way
D's looks dh, personality I think my dad.

Therewasacat · 06/04/2025 22:32

Yes and he has taught me about myself.

LavenderBlue19 · 06/04/2025 22:32

DS looks more like me (and even more like my dad), but personality isn't like either of us. His brain is purely DP - very good at maths.

Difficile · 06/04/2025 22:29

Eldest is definitely just me, but smaller. Although she has her Dad's hair and chin. Too soon to say for the babies.

moderndilemma · 06/04/2025 22:27

2 dc. They are like my alter egos. One is the extrovert part of me, one is the introvert. One is organised, one is not. Facially they are different, but they both have my eyes.

familyissues12345 · 06/04/2025 22:27

DS1 looks like a mix between me and his Dad. Personality wise, he’s not really like either of us. Weirdly he’s a little like my husband, his stepdad, which I find quite fascinating - real Nature vs Nurture!

DS2 used to be the spit of his Dad, but as he’s got older he looks more like me. Personality wise he’s very like me. Very happy go lucky and a bit daft! Has a heart of gold. I’m very biased but I’ve never met such a lovely lad

ForZanyAquaViewer · 06/04/2025 22:11

DC is pretty much what I’d imagine would happen if you put me and DH in a cocktail shaker. In terms of both looks and personality. It’s super entertaining to see how our traits manifest.

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Series3issodull · 06/04/2025 22:07

Inastatus · 06/04/2025 22:01

My DD looks like me but has her Dad’s traits. DS looks like DH but has my traits.

Is it unusual if they didn’t look like the mum or have any personality traits?

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Inastatus · 06/04/2025 22:01

My DD looks like me but has her Dad’s traits. DS looks like DH but has my traits.