Is your child like you?

It can get even sillier — my mother is a timid, withdrawn person with few friends. As a result, she spent our entire childhoods trying to force us into social situations, clearly desperately wanting her five children to be popular and continually surrounded by people, despite modelling the opposite, and getting absolutely furious any time one of us refused an invitation or said no to someone, because in her eyes, that would mean no one would like you.

In fact we’re all adults with strong longterm friendships, good social lives, and good people around us, but she’s frustrated and baffled, because she doesn’t understand why people like us when we don’t people-please, and why our social lives don’t look the way she thinks they “should’.

DS is a copy and paste of DH as a child (however DH does not look like himself as a child now that hes an adult)

He has a slightly darker skintone (from me) and dimples and my eyes but proportions etc are all DH and i expect he has softer versions of his features.

He is 3 so i imagine as he gets older and goes through puberty etc he will most likely turn into DH and his softer features will become more manly.

Have been told by several family members he acts just like DH as a child, he is very cheeky sweet and a typical boy with addrd addition that he is ND (ASD/suspected ADHD) which he has definitely inherited from me! (I am undiagnosed but something there) i always find it weird that hes turned out exactly how i thought he would? I always imagined him being this way

I'm 50 and my mother still hasn't come to terms with the simple fact that I'm not an extrovert party loving person like she is.

So well done those of you who actually know your children!

My DS is just like his step sister. Looks just like her and his personality and mannerisms are similar. His voice is the same as his uncles so much so that his cousins thought he was their dad on the phone. His step sister looks like her mum! It’s so strange. My DD looks like me but has a very different personality/style and outlook.

My DD is more like her dad in looks and traits but has similar interests to me. She’s planning to do the same A Levels I did and wants to do the same subject at uni that I did. However she is also v artistic (and that she certainly does not get from me). Also very interested in clothes and jewellery, much more so than me.

my DS is more like me in looks and traits (poor lad) but has similar interests to DH. He wants to be a fighter pilot and is obsessed with theme parks and mountain biking 🤣

Nope, not like eldest DS at all. He is smoking vapes and cigarettes. Complete opposite of myself growing up. Also drinking during day time hours. No, we are very different people. It's been stressful raising teenagers.

I think my dd looks more like dh, with elements of me thrown in.

In terms of personality, she is incredibly similar to me, but kind of like the new and improved version. She has all of my strengths but only some of my weaknesses. With a few of DH's strengths in the mix as well.

In many ways, she is the better version of myself that I always aspired to be but never quite managed!

We have very similar thought processes, to the extent that it is actually quite freaky at times!

We are both dark haired blue eyes. One son has blonde hair, dark skin and hazel eyes, our daughter has blonde hair blue eyes. Neither look much like either of us.

DD looks like a mix between me and her dad, more her dad though. She has my sense of humour for sure and some of my personality traits but not a lot.
DS is a carbon copy of his dad looks wise and has many of the same mannerisms but in other ways he reminds me a lot of his uncle when he was a child (and has the same obsession with origami!)

DD looks like me mostly, although there are quite a few of my mum's personality traits that I see in her which is interesting!

DD is a mix of me and DH. I reeeeeally see myself in her when she gets annoyed 😂 she has lots in common with both of us.

DS has my inherent optimism and cheerfulness, but then has an extrovert personality that the rest of us find frankly bewildering 🤣

Looks wise they are a good mix of both of us. I also see my DGM in DS, which I love.

eldest looks like her dad and unfortunately is very similar to ex mil (who she is very close to) middle one looks like and is v similar to me. Younger is just like his dad.

Our son looks like my simply by coincidence, he has a very similar personality to me, quite quiet and a bit awkward. Our daughter is so similar to my husband in her personality, outgoing, loud etc, she has all of his mannerisms too.

two of mine are very similar to me
the third is just like his dad

its crazy to see how it happens

My DD is in her teens and we are constantly told that we look alike - although she really looks like her dad! She has a mix of our personalities. But I’ve spent so much time with her that we finish each others sentence, have interesting debates. Enjoy similar entertainment, and usually are thinking the same thing about a situation- but we do have very very different hobbies and interests - she’s not really into what I am into or was into at that age.

My second is still a baby - looks nothing like me - all dad!

I actually find this topic fascinating. That is, how traits are passed down and who looks/acts like who. For example, I can never understand how siblings are often so very, very different when they share the same two parents. You'd think they'd be really similar! You also get people who look nothing like either of their parents. I think often, people look just like someone from a few generations back.

As regards how siblings can be so different, I've decided it must be because we are not just a mix of only our parents, but a mix of everyone who came before them, too. For instance, if one child in a family has a great talent for art, but no one else in the family does, it's quite possible imo that someone in the family 150 years ago had that talent and it's popped up again.

And I always wonder what it's like to have a child who really looks like you.

Fascinating all round, imo.

What's it like having a kid who looks like you? Is it a bit weird to see what you actually look like, if you see what I mean?!

DD looks like her beautiful DGM. Not a hint of me or DH.

DS is my identical twin, apart from the Y chromosome and a beard 😂 Even DH can’t tell the difference between some of my baby and toddler photos and DS 😂 Except when he was first born, when he had dark hair like his dad (he’s blonde like me now) and for the first month he was the spitting image of DH.

There is a photo of him at 19 dressed as a new romantic for an 80s party that could be me in the actual 80s 😂 It wasn’t until his early twenties that he got a hint of DH in his brow and jawline.

Weirdly, as a child, I also looked just like my DM looked as a child. Her features and hair colour completely changed as a teenager. My looks and hair colour stayed looking like an adult version of childhood DM 😂 We look nothing like each other now. You wouldn’t think she was related to me or her childhood self.

If you asked my mil she’d say my DD is all her and her side of the family, in reality she looks like her dad but some say a mix of us both, personally is me! Dd2 yet to be seen!

DD was always the image of her “dad” (who disappeared 5 years ago). We were all waiting at a bus stop once and a lady looked at her, then at him and said “You certainly couldn’t deny her could you?!” I could never see myself in her until recently. She’s 13 and the resemblance to me at that age is huge. I guess she just had to grow into me

Not really no

Ds is extremely extrovert, very technical and mechanically minded

DD is more introverted, similar to me, sporty. Very assertive, unlike me, I'm passive

Personality-wise, one is so much like me that it’s scary. The other one isn’t like anyone else in the family. Both definitely have some physical characteristics from my husband’s side, but not enough that anyone would ever say, “Oh, they look just like you!” I’ve been told that they look just like me several times.

My Ds (6)was the spitting image of his dad as a baby- some photos you can't tell if it's DH or ds save for the clothes! Nowadays he's more me but with DH hair colouring, and green grey eyes (I have hazel, DH blue). People always say he looks just like me, until they see DH!

Personality wise, he's a sarcastic little thing which is both of us, mischievous (me), and very clever (DH, but I'm also quite bright!). I love the way his mind works and he's definitely his own person as well, it's fascinating watching him grow and develop.

My middle child is the spitting image of me . He looks like me,same voice and I am the only person in the world that understands him. He is in Australia now and miss him so much. My other two are a split between me and husband and I adore and get on well with both of them..consider myself very lucky..

Two are 'me' two are physically like Dh... So DD1 and DS2 are tall, willowy with quite strong facial features and photograph well. DS1 and DD2 are much shorter and compact with gentler features.
Personality wise DD1 and DS2 have autism and are simply themselves. DD2 is a mini me and DS1 is his Dad !