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Is your child like you?

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Series3issodull · 06/04/2025 21:52

Mine isn’t at all…in looks or personality

This obviously isn’t a problem at all, my Dd is adorable & amazing. Did anyone else have a picture in their mind of how you thought your dc may be and they’re completely different? In every sense?

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SlashBeef · 14/08/2025 07:17

Horsie · 14/08/2025 07:10

I find it fascinating how traits are passed down.

When you think you have a unique child, they often look like an ancestor a few generations back.

Yes! Apparently I'm very similar to a great Aunt. To the point where an uncle who lived abroad was very taken aback when meeting me for the first time.

NancyJoan · 14/08/2025 07:12

DD is like I have been cloned. Same face, same body, same brain.

DS has my features, but with DH’s colouring, and has the same sort of personality as him too.

Horsie · 14/08/2025 07:11

Folks, what's it like to have a kid who looks a lot like you? Is it weird?

Horsie · 14/08/2025 07:10

Inastatus · 06/04/2025 22:45

No , I don’t think so, sometimes you just get a unique kid who doesnt fit any ‘mould’.

I find it fascinating how traits are passed down.

When you think you have a unique child, they often look like an ancestor a few generations back.

Twodogsisbetterthanone · 14/08/2025 06:51

My eldest has his dads personality, he looks like him and talks like him, which considering he barely saw him growing up, maybe twice a year, is quite interesting.
my daughter has her dads face on my body, and my younger son has my face on his dads body.

DesperatelySeekingHelp · 14/08/2025 06:44

Eldest DS is the image of his dad but has my personality. Youngest DS looks like me but has his dad’s personality.

Focusispower · 14/08/2025 06:42

My kids facially and colouring-wise (skin tone, hair and eye colour) totally take after me. DD in particular is a mini me and everyone always says this, but DS looked a lot like her when he was a baby too. I can see bits of DH in them but it’s funny things like eyebrow shape, hair crown, head shape on DS. It isn’t the things people notice first glance! What’s also funny is that DD looks more like one of DHs brothers than him!

My MIL managed to have 4 kids who all look like versions of their dad so she regularly commends me for overcoming those strong genes!! 😆 DH has gifted them his height and his long legs though.

Personality wise - Dd is me and DS is DH.

purplespink · 14/08/2025 06:30

Also, DD1 looks so unlike me that a lot of people don’t realise I’m her mum, she has 0 of my features.

purplespink · 14/08/2025 06:28

Yes, my DS both looks and is very much like me whereas DD both looks and is very much like her dad, I find it crazy how they’re basically copies of us albeit the opposite gender. No idea yet about DD2 (7 weeks) Grin

SlashBeef · 14/08/2025 06:25

None of mine are like me. Or maybe they're all just little bits of me?
One is smart, sensible and exasperated by people. Think Saffy from Ab Fab. One has been like a tortured soul from a Bronte novel from birth, wafting around the place looking disappointed and concerned but quite beautiful (didn't get it from me). Number three is an absolute hippy. Survives on apples and sunlight and is rarely fully clothed and the "baby" is extremely forthright and confident with a tendency to aggression.
It's quite fascinating to watch the varied personalities from the same gene pool!
They do look like siblings but not very much like me or their dad.

BengalBangle · 14/08/2025 05:34

DD1 is the spitting image of her father's Mum, but has my hair. She is very like me in personality. She gets along better with her father, though.
DD2 looks nothing like me or her Dad. It was like giving birth to my mother: she even has nigh on identical hair. Luckily, she is absolutely nothing like my mother was in terms of character. In this respect, she is unlike any of us. Very much her own person and she doesn't have much in common with either her father or me. She has an air of calm the rest of us lack.
They're only 7 (twins) and I love watching them grow into these individual beings.

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 14/08/2025 05:03

My eldest, absolutely. I see my best and my worst in her. It’s uncanny at times.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/04/2025 20:31

Yes, my daughter is very like me, looks and mannerisms, not personality, she is sweet, I was streetwise at her age.

DS looks like DD but has DH big build.

LimeLime · 07/04/2025 20:25

My DD as a child was the spitting image of me as a child but now she is an adult I can see certain features of her father in her jawline and body type and she takes after him in her complete uselessness at any sport, but in every other way she is mini me; introverted, academic, musical, for her size like me she has big hands and feet, but unlike me she is otherwise petite. We have a rather dark sense of humour, and we used to sound exactly alike until she went down south to work. We get on really well and I count myself very fortunate indeed to be her mum.

stanleypops66 · 07/04/2025 18:54

My dd doesn’t look like me or have my personality traits.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 07/04/2025 11:49

Mine are both way smarter than me. Dd1 looks like her dad, blonde with fair skin, dd2 looks the spits of me with dark hair and olive skin.

Hoppinggreen · 07/04/2025 11:45

DS is very like me personality wise but DD is quiet diiferent
I don't think either of them really look like me, although sometimes in photos I see a flash of myself

Burngreave · 07/04/2025 11:45

DD is good looking, bright, full of energy, enthusiastic, and well dressed.

So no.

theruffles · 07/04/2025 11:43

DC1 looks like DH and his mum. She also has DH's whole personality.
DC2 looks a little more like me but mostly like my dad and brother. He has my temper 😅

hazelnutvanillalatte · 07/04/2025 11:20

They all have different aspects of me in them but they are all different

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 07/04/2025 11:13

None of my five look like me. Three look like my mum and two look like their dad. Only one has my blue eyes, the others all have brown eyes. Two are shorter and stockier (my mum's family) three are taller and thin (their dad's side).

One has my AuDHD, the others are NT (as far as anyone can tell). All thankfully escaped my ineptitude with numbers, but only one got the ability with words.They are all absolute crackers.

I look like my dad.

YellowHatt · 07/04/2025 11:08

@Series3issodull could it be that you don’t see the similarities but others would?

GreenCandleWarmth · 07/04/2025 09:24

Pyschique is more mine- slim and long bodied not stocky like his dad. Eyes are mine but darker. He's about 70 percent looks wise me and my dad. Personality more positive than me though lol.

Inastatus · 07/04/2025 09:16

ThisFluentBiscuit · 07/04/2025 02:19

What's it like having a kid who looks like you? Is it a bit weird to see what you actually look like, if you see what I mean?!

@ThisFluentBiscuit 😅 she doesn’t look the same as me now but rather just reminds me of my younger self. She has the same blonde hair, same shaped nose, similar eyes and features.

mondaytosunday · 07/04/2025 08:50

I don’t think I expected anything in particular. My kids are a mix - and my DD is so much like my sister at times it’s scary!

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